To think this cashier was rude...

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I've had a problem with her before when I have tried to by alcohol and she asked for my ID, not a problem, I showed her my passport but she said she didn't believe it and refused to sell to me. I was 25 then (26 now).

I went in with DP today, he's 16 years older than me. She asks me for ID so I show her and dp though she was asking him and started asking others how old he looked, so they said late twenties early thirties. She then started giggling and flirting with him about how young he looks and then told him that she was surprised with my ID because Im much younger than she was expecting!!!!!

Then asking him to guess her age and endless flirting...

I'm in shock, why ask me for ID anyway if you truly think I look a lot older and then be blatantly rude and flirty like that.

DP thought at first she was rude and then not so bad, maybe because of the flirting. (I don't know if it's relevant but she turned out to be 52)

Just lost for words.

Sorry, but Mumsnet never fails to amaze me Can't believe people think OP is in the wrong here/is being sensitive.

So she's ID'd you before, to be difficult, because clearly she's even admitted you look over 26 to her.

And then she proceeds to chat to your DH and ask him how old she looks.

What a bloody weirdo OP I would complain in witting.

She's after a cheap put down.

And yes, I agree the ID thing is a power trip to some people. A girl I went to school with insists on asking for my ID if I visit a shop she works in. Wouldn't mind but it isn't for alcohol, it's for the lotto

She's never liked me, bit of background being she's jealous of my life

I'm 26 and have been ID'd for a scratch card twice recently! Now I know I look young but there's no way I look fucking 15! It's a power trip for most of them. It's there only opportunity to feel important in their sad little lives. ironically when I worked at a newsagents my co workers and I used to laugh at the sad people that bought scratch cards constantly

I would probably buy my booze from elsewhere. But then I'm 52 and when I was young shop keepers would sell us bottles of Martini at 14.

I thought it was the cashier asking the OP’s DP to guess her age. Not him asking her to guess his age

You should have asked to see a manager yourself when she refused your passport.

She does sound a little strange

I got ID'd for paracetamol the other day! I'm 32! The cashier was amazed at my age too. Winning!

I was ID'd in Tesco recently buying a can of Red Bull and I'm almost 33. Funnily enough I didn't get upset about it, probably because I have more important things to get angry about, and I don't have such a high opinion of myself to think that someone is going out of their way to piss me off. A few people need to stop flattering themselves.

angry That's completely different. This cashier was almost certainly trying to wind a few gears of the OP's

Op doesn't like the cashier
That's obvious

Op is probably insecure and a little anxious
If it wasn't this cashier, it would be somebody else
Op has issues

I was 25 then (26 now).

I think you are overthinking this, was it a few days, a few weeks, or a few months ago? There's no point holding on to things like this, the only person who it hurts is you.

Was this thread an attempt at a stealth boast that's gone horribly wrong?

If the law states that 18 is the legal age for buying alcohol then where has this "think 25" rule come from. I understand that stores have to protect themselves from underage buyers but why 25.

And to those saying I'm jealous of her and my partner flirting, ha, not a chance. I'm fully aware people fancy other people and I did not look "put out" I acted nonchalantly towards the whole thing. But to openly be rude to a customer with the way she was towards me is not on.

If the law states that 18 is the legal age for buying alcohol then where has this "think 25" rule come from. I understand that stores have to protect themselves from underage buyers but why 25.

Because of people like me. At 16/17, I probably came across very easily as 22/23 and was often told this.

I've also started a thread questioning why I've never been ID'd and I'm still very young. So Think 25 ensures any underage teens looking 18/19 don't get to buy alcohol (if people are doing their jobs properly)

When I was 22 I went out with my younger brother (18 at the time)and his mate to bowling. I had to get my younger brother to buy the beers because the member of staff refused to believe I was a tax-paying, legal member of society. Makes me giggle now, 18 years later.

If the law states that 18 is the legal age for buying alcohol then where has this "think 25" rule come from. I understand that stores have to protect themselves from underage buyers but why 25.

It’s to build in a margin of error.

If you’re trying to guess someone’s age who is 18 you could easily get it wrong give or take a few years either side.

So they ask staff to try guess if they’re 25 or not, as even if you’re five years out you’ll still be within the law.

I get IDed constantly and I’m 30, it doesn’t mean they think I may be 18, it means they are unsure whether I’m 25 or not.

I don't mind beimg id'd. I'm 34! I would mind her commenting on it. That's not part of her job. Checking ages is. The flirting, yeh, would have annoyed me too, but DH played along so you probably need to tell him you were a bit embarressed.

There is a woman in my morrisons like that. She's worked there since I was 18 and worked there as a student. She knows exactly who I am and also who my mum is. I try to avoid her but she changes her hair colour so sometimes I don't see it is her from the back. Last time I had the pleasure of being served by her my mum gave me one of those fiver vouchers to get dd a top. She went to the car with DD and bags and I queued to pay with just the voucher and a tenner. No more card. She made such a fuss about checking my more card that I didn't have, explained to the queue of people behind that 'young girls pick the vouchers up from the carpark, I have to be careful." I just stood there whilst she told me 3 times she wouldnt accept the voucher. Luckily the manager came over and when he asked what was going on he told her to take the voucher. I was insensed. I didn't show her but complained after. I hope she got told.

Definitely a power trip with a very few. Most cashiers are lovely. Fwiw, I have a facial birth defect, it sometimes brings out the worst in people. Not sure why she felt she needed to tell the queue of men getting lunch that I had probably picked the voucher up from the floor.

But passports might not be theirs esoecailly if they look different in the pucture remeber passports last 10 years a manager should not over rule a cashier if they fell the person is underage using false id (this includes someone elses ID).

Remeber if the cashier sells to a underage person they get a PERSONAL fine of £5000 not the shop that they need to pay.

I bet if you had a job were if you made a mistake would cost that sort of money you would make damn sure not to make mistakes and not being on a power trip!

The sooner it becomes the norm to id everyone the better.

But then my DH doesn't tolerate shit like that, he'd probably have outright told her she was being disrespectful for flirting with a taken man 😂

God how embarrassing would that be to take a light hearted fun interaction that she probably does with loads of people to make the day go faster and say something like this 😂 i’m cringing!

Cringe away @WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam
Just because someone means something to be a joke, especially if it's inappropriate - it doesn't mean you should laugh

For what it's worth, I have no problem showing my ID and always carry it with me because I'm actually ID'd a lot! But her attitude and rudeness is not necessary and I don't think she should be behaving like that.

It you really think she has a problem with you then raise it with her manager. As for your partner asking other customers how old he looks, the only opinion that matters is the cashiers. I am a cashier and am so sick of twatty attitudes to me and my sad life.

BellyDancer124 They were for two cousins turning 16 (family tradition). But your comment just goes to show there are saddos out there. You're probably one of those who get a kick out of ID'ing because it makes you feel important and powerful 😂

I think you need to get over it really. You sound quite immature to me, and a bit jealous.

Right so your partner makes a joke about him thinking he's being asked for Id, that's day enough, lots of people do that.

But her then flirting with him and saying he looks young, and that she's so surprised his partner is younger than she looks, essentially telling him he's with someone who looks too old for him.

She's trying to make a play for your partner clearly. I'm assuming he's not interested and you trust him. Just look at her with pity whenever you see her. She's kind of pathetic.

They were for two cousins turning 16 (family tradition). But your comment just goes to show there are saddos out there. You're probably one of those who get a kick out of ID'ing because it makes you feel important and powerful 😂 sure!