Urgent please give my mind some rest! Baby sleeping position! SOS

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I'm exhausted my 8month old girl won't stop flipping round in her cot constantly she's in a sleep bag but hasn't helped. Can't swaddle her as she doesn't like it and think she's too big now.
She likes to sleep on her face and will relentless turn back over. I'm a first time mum and scared of SIDS as I've had it drilled into me how scary it is and that sleeping on any position apart from back is bad. Can someone plz give me a virtual slap and tell me she's going to be ok and your experiences I honestly haven't slept more than 5 hours a night for 3 weeks since this started starting to go a bit nutty. Please help is it ok for her to sleep on her front ? Started off on her side but now it's always front. She can roll both ways but sometimes gets stuck and panics and screams the house down but not too often now really appreciate the help as I'm staring at her now yet again flipping onto her front

Once they can move a baby will sleep in what ever position they find most comfortable, just like you do. Leave her be

Once they can roll by themselves it's absolutely fine. DD started to sleep on her front at 8 months and I checked on her every 2 hours through the night for about a week, the realised what an idiot I was being. She sleeps way better now she's on her front. The sleeping bag won't stop her rolling, but it reduces the risk of suffocation as there's no blankets. Leave her be and get some sleep!

Reliterating what PP said, once a baby can roll from front to back and back to front, they are fine to sleep on their fronts. The risk for SIDS reduces after 6 months and is non-existent after one year (The Lullaby Trust)

Totally agree with PP, once they can roll they're fine to sleep in whatever position they find comfortable. My DD favours face down, bum up in the air

Thank you so much I needed to hear that from other mums the googling was making it worse! It's terrifying and they have no idea haha. LO is face down bum in the air as we speak but peacefully asleep and I'm guessing this is all because she starting to try to crawl furiously at the moment and is continuing into her sleep lol ?

@Esc2C I have a feeling it would make it worse for me becUse did look at them when I was buying her monitor and I got a feeling I would then be checking the thing all the time to check it was still working instead I know it sounds mad.
I do wish men understood more about the worry we have because although my partner will freak a bit the first few times she does something scary he then goes back to blissful unawareness of how constant the checking is as a first time mum it's draining as hell I'll be glad when she's over one and I can relax more knowing SIDS can't get her anymore xx

Agreed. Once babies can roll it's ok to let them sleep in whatever position.

I was in the maternity ward for ten days with my PFB, and he used to projectile vomit every feed. The midwife put him on his stomach to sleep when he was three days old.

The risk of SIDS is highest in the first 6 months of life. It's also higher during the winter and in male babies. We are moving into summer, she's 8 months, and she's a girl. Check with your provider but her risks are already lower.

Face down bum in the air is the sleeping position of choice for my two year old and has been since he was about the same age. She is fine because she can move now. Try not to worry! And a word of warning about alarms - we had one too as he has a health issue which made us v paranoid and it was right around then that we got LOTS of false alarms as his chest was lifted off the mattress so stopped using them.
Breathe. And sleep tonight!

Its fine! My 5 month old has been on his front since he could roll

I hear you tho, I'm constantly worried if he's too hot / cold and risk of sids!!

The majority of kids will sleep facedown with their bums in the air ime. Just make sure there's no toys or loose blankets in the cot and let her get on with it.

I have a tummy sleeper too, panicked me for a long time but he’s 19 months now and still does it. It’s obviously comfortable for him!

Sleeping on tums was the norm for babies when i had ds.
he's 25 now..

Your little girl is plainly telling you that's her preferred position, go along with it,OP, and here's hoping you'll both get some sleep

Yes my DD2 was a tummy sleeper from when she could roll. She's a loud 7 yr old now! Just make sure there aren't any pillows, cot bumpers and large teddies/blankets etc. She will be fine.

Get an angel care monitor and get some sleep. After 6 months face sleeping isn't an issue as long as the mattress is breathable and has no waterproof cover on it, just a sheet.

I read that SIDS runs in families and it’s in my family - not too distant either. It’s hard isn’t it? Especially as a first time mum.

I got one of those alarms that goes off if they stop breathing and it changed my life, I was so much less anxious and could sit watching tv without leaping up every 5 minutes to check he was breathing.

BUT I know at the time there were mums on the forum that got them and it make their anxiety worse because they were constantly checking out for a beeping and seeing if it worked.
So it helps for some but not for others. I will definitely be getting one of this baby though that’s for sure.

For those that say a monitor caused them more stress, I'd rather have several false alarms. Also we've only ever had one in a year - when he climbed out the cot!

I can't sleep without our angelcare making clicks and the Snuza saved his life as a newborn when he stopped breathing and was too cold (in hospital!).

They provide relief to others. Rather than stress.

Plus as he gets older it'll go off now when he's climbed out again so we'll know straight away

This reminds me of the night DD decided to sleep on her side, we went in every so often to turn her onto her back again

Always put babies to sleep on their backs. Of course in hospital they can put them down whichever way they like, they’re very closely monitored in every way they can be and there’s people watching and on hand constantly 24/7.

@JustVent The only time there is an elevated risk for SIDS is if a new babies sibling has died from SIDS. My DDs elder half brother died of SIDS at 4 weeks old and it put her at a significantly higher risk; but that was the only risk factor she had as not a boy/I’m not a smoker (70% is SIDS death have at least one smoking parent)/not a teenage Mum (its higher in teen Mums).

OP baby will be fine. One of my three was a tummy sleeper with her bum in the air from around 5 months and it is scary!

@NukaColaGirl thank you, I didn’t know that. It was something I read when DS (11) was 2 months old, and I deliberately didn’t want to read further at the time because it worried me.

However, a friend of mine’s brother died of SID’s and when she had babies the hospital provided her with a portable monitor to constantly be on the baby at all times to check they were breathing.
She’s had 4 and they are all fine.

I wonder why it’s higher in teen mums? That’s interesting. I might look into that.