To turn down a job I start Monday

[Dooglebuggler]

I’m supposed to be starting a new job on Monday through a recruitment agency. Personal circumstances have meant that today I’ve found out that I can’t accept (DH is a knob of epic proportions and my marriage is over so I can’t do the travel required in new job). How bad form is it to call now and reject offer? Could I get in trouble for this? Black listed from all job agencies for the future is what I’m panicking about.

They need you!! Your skills are important to them
So glad you kept your options open.
It's so worth looking at options and not feel it's all or nothing.
Hope the extra 'slack in the system' helps you

Ohh, that’s good news OP. I know you must feel absolutely devastated but hopefully things will sort themselves out.

I hope you have lots of real life support.

Fantastic OP! I’m hoping this will give you a bit of “you” back, enough to get your fighting irons out and begin your comeback.

Next: make a plan for next week and the week after so get as much prep done as possible and have slower 3rd week so you can blow the doors off on your first day.

YANBU. Work isn't for everyone all the time
If you can't cope at the prospect of it. There's no way you'll cope with the reality of it.

Sorry I didn't see your update. Hopefully in 3 weeks you'll be ready. Good luck hope you're very happy there. Sorry if I sounded too negative before

I was coming in here to say take the job and don't let the bastard get in your way!

So pleased to read your update.