To think people who post incessant updates must be very miserable?

[namechangemaestro]

Specifically "instastories" - I have two friends who post on their instagram stories CONSTANTLY, to the point where I don't know how they're not cringing themselves!

One of them it is her son who is 2 - every half an hour, him eating, reading, playing, sleeping! It's not anything even particularly significant or funny, just a camera pointed at whatever mundane activity he's doing at the time.

The other it's just whatever she's doing - on a night out again it must be every half hour or so, people dancing, drinks, food, more dancing, a selfie, the taxi ride home, getting into bed...

I'm not slating social media as such. And yes I know I could unfollow them or block them or whatever, but it's more a fascination that I just find so... Odd!!

I don't understand how anyone can be in the moment and truly enjoying themselves and be constantly updating social media?

Am I wrong? If you're someone who posts that much (be honest!), why??

Its Instagram its in the name an instant telegram.

I've come off Facebook for this exact reason. My sister and sil do it all time. Constant updates on their kids, photos of them posing, videos of my sil recording the radio when nephew was on radio 2 (then each year following on the 'anniversary'), then & now photos and in December every fucking year my sil posts it's the 'anniversary' of her falling and breaking her ankle (10 I think this yr). I can't be doing with it. How ever did we cope pre Facebook/twitter/insta?!

They are vain and arrogant in the extreme. I have no idea how anyone finds the time! I can barely get time to sort through my emails once a day. Whatever happened to modesty and subtlety? The self congratulation and smugness is vile.

^^this!

Apparently dopamine is released every time you receive a positive comment or a 'like', so in that way it functions exactly like any other addiction.

Give it a few years and we'll probably have Social Media Anonymous meetings.

It depends on what they are posting.
I'm on half term and my facebook is full of photos of people having days out, countryside, going to the beach. Equally, people from my sporta club post fitbess things and we all chat I don't think they're lonely or insecure. They're just sharing things that they are enjoying.

What I do find a bit annoying are:
Checkins at A&E but then after any replies 'PM me hun'
Passive aggressive comments about people
Photo of decidedly average food with a caption 'nomnomnom'
People checking in at the airport (just advertise that your house is empty!)

I have no issue with people documenting holidays or trips out. It’s when people take an endless stream of selfies (especially with Snapchat filters on their faces) or they check in on Facebook at the most tedious places imaginable. I got rid of Facebook about ten months ago and I feel so much better without it, I was never massively into it anyway. I hated people who would vaguebook in hope of endless sympathy and the ‘you ok hun?’ ‘Pm me hun’. I had soooo many people unfollowed on there.

The most ridiculous thing I have seen is a woman posting her first photo with her newborn son and she had put a snapchat dog filter on her face. This is the future guys...

Oh and it’s worth noting, I do not have Snapchat. I only have Instagram now so they’re not putting this as a snapchat story or whatever, it’s a post on Instagram.

I don’t mind Instagram stories but admit to swiping past people who have posted upwards of ten in a row.

I have a friend on Facebook who's on holiday at the moment for three weeks. Every day she posts constant updates of meals, who's she's with, where she is etc. The other day she'd painted pebbles & given them names she gets a load of likes for every post but I do think a lot of the likes are due to feeling sorry for her. She's nice enough but is very needy in RL.

She appears to be having a great time & I genuinely hope she is!

I have a FB friend who posts non-stop selfies, just her face not her doing anything, very very heavily filtered. She also uses the SnapChat filters so bunny ears etc . She’s 35 not a teenager. I feel quite sorry for her.

Another friend writes really long updates about really boring stuff - literally will write about the price of washing up liquid in Wilko vs Waitrose etc. Then every now and then makes an announcement that she is leaving Facebook, but is always back within a week. Again I feel sorry for them.

I’m not sure what’s sadder tbh Posting mundane pictures of your daily activities or wasting time starting and repeatedly contributing conversation on here about someone else doing it?

Pork - eh it’s a chat board here, but anonymous

@breastfeeding
OP was referring to Instagram stories, i.e. Only last for 24 hours before they are deleted. So these people incessantly posting aren't doing it for the memories.

I can go back and view instastories after 24hrs, they go into a "stories archive"

I like the stories feature it means I can post something that I might not necessarily want on my permanent Instagram feed.
If people don't want to view them, they're not forced to either as they have to click your profile to view a story, rather than it showing up on their feed as a new post.

I'm sure pp will have said, but if you don't like what you're seeing unfollow/unfriend.

I sometimes find myself posting things when bored. Like waiting at a bus stop, on a long train journey alone, waiting in a queue at the post office. Yes inane, but doesn't mean I am miserable, just bored at that moment.

Another smuggo here who's come off social media and feels better for it

I had to come off FB for weeks because everyone was annoying me with their incessant posts about nothing. So I did them all a favour and just didn't open the app. I was quite enjoying seeing the notifications rack up and decided I would look when I got to 1000,I was very disappointed that it only goes to 100 😂

And as for snapchat, I have no clue how it works but I got the app purely for the filters. I think it's absolutely hilarious. DH and DD told me I was a childish idiot 😳

I’m not sure it’s the lack of anonymity the op has a problem with is it?
If you must be having a miserable time to have nothing better to do than post about what you are doing one can only imagine how miserable people must be to take time out of their day to comment on what others are posting on sm!
And with that I shall leave the thread as I do have stuff I should be doing in rl!

Such excessive posting is complete self absorption and egoism. I guess these sorts of people get some sort of weird validation from it. I find it quite sad.

I have hidden every single person on my Facebook so see nothing in my newsfeed and just use it to message people and keep up with the group activities I'm in.

I also deleted Instagram because I just found it all a bit stupid.

I have one friend who is currently cycling round the world and I log on the PC to see her pictures as they are worth seeing and I'm interested. But someone's Wetherspoons burger? Not so much.

I'm one of those incessant baby pic posters. I post loads of videos too. This is mainly because MIL lives in Spain several months of the year and when in UK she's a couple hours away so she feels she wants to see as much of her dgds childhood as poss and she demands it! If I haven't posted for a couple days I get an angry message! I couldn't give a fuck what people think. They can unfollow or scroll past. Judgy !

My reasoning is that these people are ins cure and need constant validation. Yes you/your kids/dh are beautiful/having a wonderful time or whatever. Or they’re just complete show offs!! I usually don’t respond to them unless they’re posting about a special
Occasion as it’s borimg to see their lives on constant show.

Bauble why don't you just send them as a message instead of sharing your baby's private life?

Because occasionally people who are my friends / friends of my mum or even my brother who lives the other end of the country enjoy seeing them too. And I enjoy seeing pics of my niece and nephew also. You lot sound like the miserable ones I'm afraid. Seriously, how does this negatively affect you??

Mil also likes all her fb friends to see her granddaughters. Judging by the hundreds of likes and gushing comments they don't seem to mind either. What's the harm?

I'll be honest, I find the slightly smug judgement of other people's decidedly social media content to be more a reflection on someone than those who love to overshare.
I'm not an oversharer. Others are. Suits them. Certain things annoy me a little like vaguebooking or A&E checkins but it doesn't affect me.
There's something distasteful about the obviously their lives must be shallow and boring / they are probably hugely insecure types. It seems to come from a position of 'I am a better person than them because I don't really do social media'.

*decidedly average social media content