Got told to “fuck right off”

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By message from former housemate. Incredibly out of order. Do say anything back? We were friends but they hadn’t pulled their weight over moving out and I politely called them out on i

Yes, tell them to fuck right off and pull their weight whilst they’re at it.

Reply, "Like you did when everyone else was helping out?" Well they've shown their true colours now. Always better to have a face to face conversation for that kind of thing ime than put it in writing. So your friend is a shirker and rude.

It’s a bit late to retaliate now but I’m strongly considering a message to them and another saying how disappointed/disgusted I am. They have continued to be nice to everyone else (they always play the divide and conquer game)

If somone “called me out” on anything I’d likely tell them to fuck off too.
Just have a grown up discussion if there are problems.

Why didn't you mention it at the time of moving out?

All seems a bit playground to argue after the fact.

We see currently moving out and I did, the others did too. She refused to help further and wouldn’t push back a non essential appointment, no compromise. I got a bit frustrated and said, right that’s too late but whatever promoting the comment

Prompting the comment

Just leave it, she’ll only laugh at you if you were to reply.

She is out of your life. Don't bother with her.

why wouldn't she be nice to others? It was you that "called her out".

It also depends on what the appointment was and how much of an issue it would be the remake it.

you also say no compromise but what were you compromising on?

So much information missing.

Quite hard to tell from your posts if she's nasty or if you are a self-righteous, officious twat.

You're going your seperate ways, leave it there.

No the others “called her out” first. It was a gym induction, purely hobby based. I’m not a self righteous, officious twat thanks

So she did help but then went to an appointment?

No she didn’t help at all. Was supposed to come at say 6 didn’t come til 9. Hasn’t been at house past few days to help either. It doesn’t matter now

I would say get over it, no one died and you have learnt what she is like. Move on, her being abusive to you can’t injure you unless you let it

Your ex house mate was probably trying to avoid you.
No-one likes being 'called out'.

Just get over it and move on.

Life is too short.

Please remember that some people are overwhelmed by events like moving and will gladly leave the heavy lifting to others because they can't cope with it. They might manage if they had no choice and nobody to help, but otoh they might end up one of those people who calls a taxi and leaves every single thing behind. (I have a real estate friend who has seen this phenomenon three times).

YANBU.

'Back at you, you lazy bastard!'

Ignore those who say she couldn't 'cope' with packing her own stuff. She is out of order.

What sort of twat can't cope with packing their own stuff?

Why the hell would you expect everyone else to pack up for you?
I would have got on with it with the others and left her stuff for her to do when she rocked up.
Everyone doing it together would make it easy for her too.
Lazy git.

Maybe you have annoyed her all year and she’s had enough. There’s usually more to it.

Just heave a huge sigh of relief that you don't have to live with the entitled mooch anymore and move on.

You sound like a bit of a pearl clutcher.

Yes it's wrong to tell someone to fuck off, but it's hardly a big deal worth posting about. Move on