Got told to “fuck right off”

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By message from former housemate. Incredibly out of order. Do say anything back? We were friends but they hadn’t pulled their weight over moving out and I politely called them out on i

was it a Wendy house you moving out of?
were the teddies helping shift the dolly tea set. Lazy Peppa pig not helping out...

if being told to fuck off is the worst thing that happens to you in a day I'd say you're pretty lucky.

Please remember that some people are overwhelmed by events like moving and will gladly leave the heavy lifting to others because they can't cope with it. They might manage if they had no choice and nobody to help, but otoh they might end up one of those people who calls a taxi and leaves every single thing behind.
Unless they have specific MH problems, it's not really ok though, is it - no one enjoys the work, or big change, but if someone decides to opt out, other have to do more.

Well she sounds super annoying but TBH just let it go, you never have to see or talk to her again and you can laugh about your silly ex-housemate who couldn't even pack her stuff with your mate

It’s a bit late to retaliate now but I’m strongly considering a message to them and another saying how disappointed/disgusted I am.

Why bother? She won't give a shit. Her behaviour shows that she doesn't give a crap about any of you and sees nothing wrong with leaving all of you with a majority of the work.

Best to block her number and move on.

ah get your revenge in petty ways, chuck out one of her teaspoons, unscrew her pan handles and chip her favourite mug, put a different lock on her suitcase, swish her toothbrush in the dog's water, pull pages out of her books, swap her dvds.

Lazyarsedmaggot of a woman.

I'm very disappointed and discusted that you told me to fuck right off.

Something like that?

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It’s a bit late to retaliate now but I’m strongly considering a message to them and another saying how disappointed/disgusted I am.

MNetters always think people will care and be suitably chastened when they dish out their telling off. She won't, she will probably send an even nastier message back and you'll be hurt. I'd send what Pengwnn said. As for being overwhelmed by it all, too bad! It's a house share, what's going to happen if all the housemates decide they can't face up to this traumatic event?

When someone says they called someone out, I think they have probably just had a go and being a dick tbh.

Just ignore it. I can’t quite work out what she hasn’t done. If you’re all moving out surely you all pack/move your own stuff. If she doesn’t move or pack hers leave it there.

Devilishpyjamas i dont get if either.

I would leave her crap and take your own. Or is this something that would affect all of your deposits? You had to be out then?

It's not very clear what this terrible person did though, that warranted being 'called out' on it.

Perhaps she felt that light bulbs didn't need to be individually cleaned. Perhaps she felt that climbing ladders to make sure every cobweb was removed from tops of curtain rails was excessive. Perhaps she thought the fridge didn't need to be pulled out from under counter top and cleaned behind? We have only one side here, and very vague it is.

She'd signed up for a gym membership, and went to the induction rather than doing whatever the OP thought she should be doing. That seems to be the size of it.

At last a thread where people are picking up on the (to me) ridiculous phrase "calling out" someone. As far as I know, only drunk punters in the pub "call someone out" - usually outside to have a punch-up!

Anyway.

If she left you all to do cleaning and packing up then she's a tosser. Don't waste your energy on her any more - don't waste a text on her either. And if anyone else did her packing for her, then that someone was a mug!

At last a thread where people are picking up on the (to me) ridiculous phrase "calling out" someone. As far as I know, only drunk punters in the pub "call someone out" - usually outside to have a punch-up!

This!

I think it’s now some ridiculous Americanism picked up by people who live their life via Facebook gossiping and bitching. Anyone who uses the term is usually to be ignored.

It seems to be as prevalent on MN these days as “red flags!!”...”massive red flags!!” which is another MN term that denotes the poster is a fuckwit.

Can't blame the op for using the term 'called out' as it's continually used on MN, as in "Why didn't you call him out on it?" I agree it conjures up people rolling up their sleeves and heading outside for a punch-up, but it seems to be standard on MN.

I agree with ThumbWitches - best to totally ignore her and move on.

The term 'call out' was originally used to denote a challenge to a duel.

Now, it means to challenge someone about something they are doing that you don't like. Yes, it is overused on MN but it makes basic sense.

@Pengwnn for the win: 'Back at you, you lazy bastard”, you’ve nothing to lose, you’re moving out and it’ll make you feel better.

I'd just forget about it and ghost them tbh. I've got better things to spend my energy on.

OP and other housemates may not have had a choice about packing up Slacker Housemate ‘s stuff for her and doing her share of the cleaning, if it was a joint tenancy (which everyone leaving at the same time suggests it was). Leaving any mess would get everyone’s deposit deducted. And yes, LLs/ agents are pretty exacting about the standards they expect things to be done to. And yes, SH should have arranged her engagements knowing she had this deadline to work to.

It doesn’t matter now. I’m not a pearl clutcher. She has been extremely difficult to live with so really she took the words right out of my mouth but I wouldn’t stoop to that level. By communal cleaning I mean things like emptying drawers, just being there the last few days to assist. The rest of us were despite other commitments. Even if she couldn’t make it just say. Instead she got angry and swore.

Just chuck her stuff that’s left in the drawers in the bin then. Or share out the returned deposit between those who did turn up.

She probably got angry and swore because she knew she was being an idle fucker but rather than take any responsibility for herself she just turned her guilty feelings out on you.

Be grateful you're getting away from her, she sounds like a right PITA!