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Help!!! Sleep deprived mum

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Sotired13 · 31/05/2018 15:34

Sorry posting here for traffic!! My 6 month old daughter wakes continually through the night. She’s even started waking 45 mins after being put down. I go in and soothe her with her dummy which works but then I have to do it continually through the whole night. Is this normal?! When does sleep get better? Do other parents struggle with the lack of sleep? It’s getting me so anxious

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bbqseason · 01/06/2018 15:23

http://evolutionaryparenting.com/what-is-normal-infant-sleep-part-ii/

Here's the article! Confused

Bananarama12 · 01/06/2018 16:24

I dont think kiki is saying it's not normal, she's saying it's better to help your baby be able to settle by themselves. I have a much happier baby and I'm a much happier mum now we are sleeping better. Kudos to you if you can manage with no sleep 👏

peachgreen · 01/06/2018 16:36

@Sotired13 Well the good news is that if she settles without the dummy during the day she's not fully dependent! If she's not in her own room could you be waking her up? That's what happened with my daughter - once we moved her she started sleeping through - she does wake up occasionally during the night but she quickly self-settles and never gets upset, whereas when she was in with us she would wake much more frequently and always grizzle for us. She's a much happier baby now.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 01/06/2018 16:40

Hi OP

My baby is a week off being 6 months and wakes between 3 and 7 times a night. It's horrible and like you say makes me very anxious.I met a group yesterday who all said their babies are similar and it made me feel much better knowing my baby isn't a weird sleeping freak.

I think it's mostly about managing how tired you are - I'm currently trying to nap in the day, having lie ins at the weekend and my husband alternates the resettling when she doesn't need a feed. Fingers crossed it gets better sooner rather than later

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Sotired13 · 01/06/2018 19:54

@peachgreen it’s definitely something we are considering. What threw us is that this week she started waking when we aren’t even in the room 🙈. But I think in a couple more weeks we will try it.

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Sotired13 · 01/06/2018 19:55

@AmIRightOrAMeringue that’s reassuring it isn’t just us then! Do you feed your baby overnight? Or use a dummy? How do you settle them? X

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JoanFrenulum · 02/06/2018 01:49

I'm finding that the key to holding steady in sleep training is texting a friend who's been there. My Dd sounds like yours, headstrong and jolly well going to let me know that she's pissed off by me not being there. But tonight is our 3rd night of sleep training and she dropped off after the first comfort visit and she's sleeping a bit longer in the nights, 4 hours last night instead of 1.

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Sotired13 · 02/06/2018 09:20

@JoanFrenulum thanks for this. What type of sleep training are you doing?

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JoanFrenulum · 02/06/2018 18:58

We're doing Ferber. Doesn't work for everyone but I figured we'd give it a try and see if it worked for us. She seems ok so far.

Misagh63 · 02/11/2019 03:20

Hi sotired13, i know its an old post but im in your situation now just wanted to know did things get better with your bub ? And how long it took u? Thank u

Fruitytooty12 · 02/11/2019 04:11

I haven’t read all the other replies but as a parent of a child that didn’t sleep properly for four years (am sure this won’t happen to you) I would say do whatever you can to make your life easier. If that’s a mattress in the baby’s room or having them in your bed, then do that. Snooze whenever you get a chance. Especially when they nap in day. If you have a partner to do some shifts so you get a rest then do that also. It will pass in maybe a few days or maybe a bit longer, but it will pass and you will sleep again and your baby will be ok, even if you feel they’re not sleeping enough at the mo. Big hug. I have been there

Fruitytooty12 · 02/11/2019 04:11

Sorry, just seen this is an old post

StarlightIntheNight · 02/11/2019 06:23

I read that with breastmilk, you don't compare it to formula. It is more efficient with nutrients, so where as the formula you increase as they get older, with breastmilk you don't. You feed on demand, the amount the baby wants. The amount you are giving her sounds like a lot...maybe she stirs a lot because is uncomfortable? MY ds had a dairy allergy and woke 5 times a night, until I realised and stopped eating dairy. He suddenly went from 5 times a night down to 2 (this was at 4 months).

Misagh63 · 02/11/2019 08:55

Thank you so much for your reply. I feel much better now.

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