To feel sorry for the kids NOT the mother

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Ok so yes Im off work bored and alot of things on my mind so prob wouldnt usually post something like this but hear goes.

So my neighbour a single working mum of 2 had just posted a pic of herself in work, saying shes jealous of all mums who are getting to spend quality time with their children this holidays while hers are with child minder...ok so I get that and usually would sympathise.

However its only a couple of weeks ago she had 1 week off to spend some "quality child free time" with her boyfriend who having days out fancy lunches etc while her kids were in school. Not to mention her girly holiday a while back where she had time off work.

So is it just me that has no sypathy surely if she was so botherd she would book time off to spend with the kids?

Feel sorry for them they are very rarely at home either with dad, grandparents or child minders/school.

I know its none of my business and I know they are well looked after physically but surely need some time with their mummy other than rushing them on the school run, collecting them from minder etc.

Mind boggles

Maybe she couldn't get half term off, we used to rotate in my team because we couldn't have everyone off every school holiday

Yeah there could be a number of reasons why half term holiday was not possible

Yer true, didnt think of that. Just found her pictuer of sad face bit hypocrital, and getting loads of comments saying know how she feels etc

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I would imagine if she is bothering to post and feeling sad that she couldn’t take her holiday in school holidays.

I understand your initial reaction but the girly lunches etc might have just been a way of her filling her days when she couldn’t pull her kids out of school.
We never know quite what is happening in anyone else’s life so pays it give the benefit of the doubt.

Good grief op turn on the tele. Leave the poor woman alone.

I know very true and im not usually a busy body just the sad expression Ive just seen. It was obviously for a reaction, I have no issues with her parenting in general just my initial reaction was ok then...

I get she wanted to spend some time with her bf as he has kids too so they have his on a weekeend while hers are with their dad so it is understandable.

Dont do day time tv

Comment something gushy and lovely on one of her old holiday pics and it will pop back up on her newsfeed. Right next to her current moaning post.

Some people do post all over social media to get a reaction but I just view it as a bit of a cry for help rather than being annoyed by it.

Hahah.

Yer I totally get that, im not annoyed just a bit bemused, it was the put on sad face aswell

Quality time with their mum rather than rushing them on the school run? So, you think she should keep them off school?

No. Why would I suggest that 😂😂

Well, I don't really get it, then. Why are you moaning about their school run?

Walk in her shoes a few months and then judge her. Holidays at half terms/summer/Christmas are normally approved in a rotational basis if there are several parents in the team.

Having her own time with friends and boyfriend away from the kids is very important as no parent can survive raising children singlehandedly taking care of the children all the time. You need breaks and adult conversation to off load and recover when you are raising kids on your own.

Never mind. Im not moaning 😀

Im a working mum and get its hard at times so leave it at that, I guess you have to know the person and to have seen the picture to know why I was a bit amused/confused.

Will leave it at that anyway like I say not one for posting like this, but off work got a lot on my mind

Have a nice day

Hope you have a good day at work.

The posts I hate are the ‘so karma then’ or ‘so sad that my so called friend has let me down’ and ‘remember I am strong and will get over this* type bollocks.

Then the ‘are you ok huns* and then the ‘will pm you’

well fuck off if you arnt going to tell us all

Regardless OP I also hate sympathy fishing on social media. Have a good day

You should probably get a life OP, I cant imagine how you could care enough about other peoples holidays etc to even think about it, let alone post about it on here. Read a book maybe.

Ah yes, single mum bashing. We work, it’s a problem if our children are in childcare. We don’t work, we’re scroungers. Our children spend time with family, we’re neglectful. Our children spend time with their other, equal,parent, and we’re palming them off. We have new partners we introduce quickly, we are at fault. We go on holiday with new partners, we are neglectful. We go on ho,Idaho with new partner and children and we are ‘playing happy families’....would you have felt the need to judge if she had a ring on her finger?

I agree op she sounds really annoying and somewhat immature - moaning about her life choices on social media

You have to be quick as lightening to get half term off in most Work places or they do it on a rota. She can have a week away from her kids in term time and still be gutted she has to work in half term. Don’t feel sorry for the kids though, bet they’re having a great time with the childminder. Mine takes my kids Drayton manor and all sorts in the holidays!

Maybe she really wanted to take the holidays off but wasn't allowed to because of others wanting school holiday leave too?

I am not single mum bashing at all. Sorry if ive offended.

And yes maybe I should get a life im off work with my kids had plans one of them ill and im worrying myself silly over a medical issue so I appologise now. I very rarely post on here so i really must be bored.