Dirty gumtree seller. Manners?

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Spend £30 on a bundle of kids clothes.
Advert said as new , clean , fresh, smoke free all top brands like Gap etc.

Collected, given in zipped laundry bags. Lots there I thought, and it was that awkward doorstep moment where I didn’t want to put the bags down and rake through.. lesson learned.

It’s all gross and none salvageable. It all smells of fags really bad, there’s b.o smells and dirty brown marks all over some, no brand names, ripped jeans on the knees, dog hair and it smells like it’s been lying around unwashed a long time.
It’s all very very worn and bobbly and no where near new. I feel quite upset. And stupid for not checking it out first. She sounded so lovely though and told me a lot of lies.

Whenever I sell anything, it’s washed and fresh and in good condition. I would be absolutely MORTIFIED to sell otherwise.. I wipe everything over if it’s toys or furniture I sell too. Is that not the done thing?
AIBU to expect washed clothes that fit the description?

I should have checked . Too trusting I know ☹️

I don't understand. You didn't want to pay additional petrol to get your money back but you would waste the money by chucking the clothes out before even trying.

She offered you the opportunity to tell her you were unhappy with the clothes. And you ignored it.

You aren't being unreasonable to expect clothes described as great condition to not have marks and smell of smoke but you are being massively unreasonable for not taking the opportunity to do something about it when it was offered on a plate

I don’t expect people to say anything?

Clothes have gone anyway and might be useful somewhere else. Lesson learned as I said. I’m not going to rant and rave. I was disgusted but I feel sorry for her now to be honest and don’t think it’s worth the fuss anymore.

That is horrible op i really feel for you, i have got a lot of los clothes off ebay and if they were in that state id be heartbroken as money is tight!

What age is your little one? I have a range of clothes (some branded some not) in 0 months to 6/9months i have put aside for a couple of people i know who are having babies i could send you some free? (I promise they are clean and in good condition!!)

What a weird thread!! You didn't even tell her!? What!!

Mumma that’s really very kind of you, but I will politely decline. Not because I think they will be dirty though mind. But thank you anyway.
It’s not really that weird. I just wondered if this is common or I picked a bad one

Thats ok i realised after i posted that after the nature of the post it was odd to offer as a random stranger lol

At least email her back & day the clothes were filthy.

It’s worth messaging her to tell her it’s not as she described it, she may well agree to refunding you

This is why whenever I sell something on Facebook I make the person inspect it in front of me before they leave and point out anything that’s not quite perfect, I don’t want someone turning up at my door demanding their money back.

I think you need to at least email her and say you were disappointed in the condition, if not for yourself then to stop her doing it to someone else.

I can't understand why you didn't tell her especially if you're not going to push for your money back. She may think they are in good condition, everyone has different standards and she hasn't intentionally ripped you off but telling her may stop her doing it again to someone else.

I can't understand why you don't tell her the clothes were useless to You?

Are you really such a doormat in real life?

OP you sound either very afraid of her (people in general?) or a total pushover, hiding behind ‘nah it’s not worth the petrol when I won’t get it back’. If you’re too scared to stand up for yourself then fine, but pretending you’re all chill about it and okay with chalking it up to experience doesn’t really chime with you being upset about it when you found out and then being upset enough to post here about it!

You even had the perfect opportunity to tell her it was unacceptable when she emailed you and chickened out. That doesn’t cost petrol.

i’m not going to rant and rave

Who suggested you do?

Cross post chapter! I didn’t really want to use the word doormat as it seems mean but you’re spot on. I’d be really worried about your ability to handle confrontation and stick up for yourself when you need to if this is how you act it’s all very well trying to exaggerate what it would take to tell her it’s out of order and ask for your money back with ‘rant and rave’ but it’s obvious you think people will agree with you more when you paint it like that, when in reality not one person has suggested you go and kick off at her.

Why would you jump straight to ranting and raving anyway? You’ve not even made a peep 😂

How very kind

I really really don’t understand why you didn’t reply to her email to tell her the clothes were not acceptable

She's given you the opportunity to tell her the clothes weren't as described and you feel you wasted money and petrol. She might even have messaged because she's realised there's been a cock up but doesn't have the guts to say so.

If you don't have the balls to ask for your money back at least reply to her message and tell her. She's reached out to you. You can tell her it was dirty and smelt of fags without 'ranting and raving'

You are a right weird one why didn’t you reply to her?

Look at it this way, by telling her the clothes were awful, smelt etc etc, may actually help her become a better seller. Maybe, she thought they were ok, especially as she emailed asking for feedback.

How very kind

That’s all you can say? To a reply to a post you made in AIBU?

You’re an odd duck aren’t you OP 😂

Yes apparently so