My Mum has just bought a house and has been staying with my sister (no dc) until the final arrangements are made, whenever I take my DS round they pick at everything I do and try to take over.
When DS was 3mo he was very big for his age and he drank a lot of formula, my sister kept insisting I needed to give him solids because the formula clearly wasn't filling him. When I said that he was fine and that he wasn't old enough to be weened she literally laughed in my face. She said that I didn't know what I was doing because I'm a ftm and that I was going by the book. I insisted that he was too young. A few days later I had to leave DS with her because I had to go to a work event with DP I came back to find that she has fed DS baby rice, twice in the space of a few hours. My Mum had also gone out and bought me boxes of baby rice and weetabix and said 'he loves it he's clearly ready to be weened, you need to start feeding him before all his naps'. I took him home and he threw up. Safe to say I waited a month and half before weening.
They also take him off of me whenever he falls asleep (he naps in my arms and co sleeps) and try putting him down in bed and it wakes him up every time and makes him cranky and even more difficult to get back to sleep. They're both insistent that me not putting him down to sleep is the reason he still wakes up for night feeds.
They even gave him cows milk whilst I was walking to the shop to buy some formula the other day, he also threw up after that. These are just few examples but it feels they're trying to take over and make me feels like I don't know what I'm doing.
It's making me not want to go round and see them anymore but they're great with DS when it comes to playing and things and he loves it there so I don't just want to stop going.
They say they're just helping so Aibu? Or do I need to try and approach the issue somehow?