To ask what makes women so glamorous?

[LittleMermaidRose]

So many women manage to look so effortlessly put together and glamorous.. I am a constant scruff ball.

What is the secret, ladies?!?!

Don't have children.

Effort to a certain degree. The devil is in the detail..

Wear clothes that you like and feel good in, that are well cut and not necessarily fashionable but classic.. Keep your hair tidy, trimmed etc. Don't have chipped nail polish, look after your skin etc. I think wearing a lipstick/colour on the lips adds a dash of colour and so on...

A healthy weight. Good diet. Good hair.

It must matter to them and they can be bothered.

It doesn't to me and I can't be bothered. I'd rather be gardening.

Don't have dogs either.

All of the above. Plus ironing your clothes.

A tedious and never ending performance of trying to look effortlessly glamorous and put together?

It's not effortless, that's the secret. I am definitely not one of the glamorous ones but have friends who are. Spray tans, acrylic/gel nails, waxing, regular hair appointments, curl/straighten their hair every day and always wearing make up no matter what they are doing. Add to that wardrobes that are double the size of mine, with outfits that have been carefully thought out (rather than randomly grabbed while passing through Primark like me 😂).

They look amazing even just popping to the shops but it comes with a huge time/money cost and is the opposite of effortless. If there IS an effortless secret I would love to know too!

Effort. I once knew someone who looked as if she exuded natural chic, but in reality they were up at the crack of dawn to achieve the image. I once saw her redo her hair a total of 34 times in 20 mins to get an "effortless updo" just right.

I think it’s proper grooming eg well cut hair, good make up, nice footwear/accessories and well fitting clothes. I don’t think weight is necessarily an issue - I saw a beautiful woman today who was wearing skinny jeans and a white blouse, she must have been a good size 20 but I found her very glamorous.

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As said, it takes planning.

You buy coordinating clothes and look, before you buy, so you know you will get a coat/jacket/shoes that will look good with your separates.

Good skin care routine. mani/pedi/hair removal done a couple of times a week. If you are over 40, you need a good diet/cut down on booze.

You get a hairstyle that you can manage and change your routine, if it is losing condition.

There are different form of Glamorous, just pick one that suits your personality and lifestyle and change it as you get older.

It isn't effortless. It becomes second nature, though.

I don't look glam on a daily basis but scrub up well for going out and events.
Its not effortless but as pp mentioned-carefully thought out clothes that look good on me, bright colours, definitely hairstraitheners/curls, waxing, manicure/pedicure, fake lashes, full make up and last but not least-regular botox/dermafillers. Im at my late 30s -takes 5 years off my face

I forgot eyebrows!

A bit of a tan, mascara, lip gloss and some jewelry are the key ingredients for a bit of instant glam, I think!

I think it's mainly confidence. It will sound cliche but it confidence does shine through. And when you are and feel confident everything will look amazing on.

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Grooming and taking care of yourself until you exude confidence. Find what makes you feel beautiful and brave and you can achieve it too. For me, putting my Chanel foundation on makes me feel like a million dollars and anything I wear looks better. It's about how you feel about yourself. If you want to look glamorous, find out what will make you feel glamorous.

Glamour does take effort. You can put a floor under scruffiness though. Get rid of clothes you keep for painting walls but end up wearing; of clothes that don't fit; of clothes that you feel miserable in. Never wear tracksuit bottoms unless you are going to the track. Get some advice on skin care and update your make up.

I used to buy my jewelry as i shopped for clothes. Then I used to get my makeup, if, I didn't have what was needed to create the whole look. It was the days of Ruby and Mille eyeshadows.

A shopping day would be just that.

I feel that was "me" though and realised that's what I stopped doing. So I've just spent a couple of days, going through all the online shops, to put together outfits. I'm going to get back into the habit of having a beauty routine, as well.

i agree with confidence. Be confidant in what you wear, evenif it's different.

There was a thread on here saying that the other Mums needed to make more of an effort because the OP felt overdressed.

I never cared if I looked over dressed to other people.

My youngest DD has come out of the Goth look and has edged more towards rock chick. She had eyeliner/eyebrows and lips tattoo'd. She has her hair/nails professionally done. She's pale, clothes carefully picked and well looked after. It's a different form of glam, but she's still glamorous.

I don't think glamour equals tan, nails, lashes, etc. That's just a mask that anyone can apply it doesn't make you stand out in my eyes. Real glamour is a combination of knowing absolutely what suits you and not following the crowd and total confidence that you look the best you can. A glam person knows what hair style works best for them and they instruct their hairdresser not the other way round. They have a natural style so don't need to ask friends advice as they are totally comfortable in their own opinion. I don't really think you can become like that if you don't have that type of personality, it really is the x factor.

I’ve described as the glam Mum at school gates. I don’t get particularly dressed up but my hair is always done, and nails neat, eyebrows and make up nicely done. I’m by no means a beauty but I make the best of what I’ve got.

you have to make an effort, it doesn't just happen.

no-one wakes up glam without putting the work in before hand whether that be watching food intake to stay slim, gradual tanning lotion, eyebrows and nails etc.

Don't have children.

I haven't. I'm still a friggin scruff ball, though

My mum was always very glamorous, she had a petite, curvy figure and beautiful skin (she didn’t do anything to achieve the skin - just naturally had it and very few wrinkles well into her 70s). Nice clothes and an innate sense of style - though she loved a bargain. Nails always beautiful. All of that was pretty effortless for her. Then the effort bits - not too much make up but enough to enhance, Chanel perfume and some good jewellery. When she was ill we used to laugh she was the most glamorous woman in the chemo ward, I remember always doing her nails for her and helping her to choose her nice clothes to go for her appointments, meanwhile me and my sister looked like zombies!

Sadly I haven’t inherited any of the above really, one sister is the double of her and always looks amazing, the other sister and I scrub up well when the occasion calls for it but day to day we’re scruffballs.