Sorry - please can you all calm me down re DD headaches.

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Hi all

Sorry posted for traffic. For background I'm a widowed parent as DH died of cancer four years ago. DD is 7 and normal very healthy so I tend to freak out a bit when she's sick, despite not generally being an anxious person.

DD has been complaining of headaches since Friday and she also had some in the preceding week. She also says she has some eye pain. She has been stressed/miserable with school tests (this is another story) and obviously the weather is close/hot.

My sensible head says she either needs glasses or she's got tension headaches due to weather and stress. I will obviously get her an eye test on Tuesday and a GP appointment.

Just can't stop freaking out as it's so unusual for her to be ill at all. This stuff is so hard after losing DH. Calm me down please??

Sounds like she needs glasses to me. I was the same when I was about 12.

We have all had headaches and blurry vision this last week(although only for 3-4 days in my case). Think there is a virus doing the rounds . Is she a bit snotty or sniffy too?

Really @princesspino ? That's interesting. She seems a bit snotty yes. How long did it last?

My DS (6) goes through stages of having headaches like this. Pollen count is high and so I give him antihistamine, calpol and obviously lots and lots of fluids.

Try some Piriton :) Unless she’s fitting or vomiting with it or unable to open her eyes, try not to worry! We all get headaches sometimes, doesn’t mean we are ill!

It's really hard to cope with a kids illness after a partner has died- so cut yourself a bit of slack re panicking.
I have a 7 year old, she wears glasses, your daughter symptoms sound really similar to my daughters before she got her glasses. You'll get the opticians appt sorted and then you'll know a bit more.

It's also possible that hormones are flowing. My dd started getting hormone related symptoms (like headaches) around that age. Sounds like she needs some ibuprofen and a good night's sleep. (and chicken soup)

DD started getting terrible headaches accompanied by blurred vision at this age - to the extent that she had an MRI scan. She was eventually diagnosed with migraines - not great, but better than the alternatives.

Thank you everyone for the reassurance, really helps. Annoyingly no eye tests available on a bank holiday. I can try piriton also, definitely worth a shot. That would also make sense given the heat has come on quite suddenly

Depending on where you live, could you ring round and try to get an optician's appointment today to put your mind at rest? DD needed glasses at 7 and had headaches preceding this. Those electronic whiteboards have a lot to answer for!

And I say this really kindly, have you looked into counselling for your anxiety? It is perfectly understandable that having lost your husband you will jump to worse case scenarios (I do!) but it would be good for you and your DD if you could manage it somehow. Mindfulness has really helped me.

X-posted about eye test!

@Kashgar - that must have been a very worrying time for you. Thankfully DD is not complaining of blurred vision. I'm glad your DD got the help she needed

@DaisyArcher - I'm going to ring when they open but internet says no tests.

To be honest, given the amount I deal with I don't think I have anxiety as such, it's just stuff like this that stresses me out. DD can't tell how worried I am.

Currently me, DH and DS (10) have this weird virus thing. Started off as an awful headache for a good few days, then runny nose and now a cough. I also have hayfever which has been playing havoc with me over the last few weeks.

Easy to say, OP, but try not to panic. Try a painkiller and antihistamines to see if they help and obviously you're doing the right thing getting her eyes checked out and seeing the gp. Hope she feels better soon.

Hmmm she has been a bit chesty @FallenSky.

We are still a bit snotty now but the headaches and eye pressure have gone. I think it was a sinus thing to be honest. I’m sure it’s nothing and you are understandably worried after losing your DH. Keep and eye and see the GP if it hasn’t stopped in a few days

Virus would also make sense as she seems tired. Have given piriton now. Hopefully that will help.

My hay fever manifests in my eyes - it feels like someone is poking them with a pin 😫

I also get quite sudden intense pain in my head just before storm hits.

It's a standing joke between my friends that I'm more accurate than the met office!

Blimey @youarenotkiddingme ! I always thought hay fever was just snot and red eyes!!

If you are in the UK, the heavy thunder and lightening humid weather will trigger migraines and even just headaches- I've had one on and off for days, my dd also has one. Don't let that stop you checking out this at the optician/drs but it is quite common.

I think you must feel very anxious on your own with your dd to look after- so sorry you lost your husband.

Sorry, OP, when i said anxiety I was referring to your freaking out (quite understandably) whenever your DD gets sick. Didn't mean to imply you weren't coping.

Have you tried the antihistamine called Phenergan, Grobags ?

You can get a children's dose 10Mg, very benign and it's good for hay fever, motion sickness and has a mild sedative effect.

Growbags if it helps, ring the 111 Number and speak to someone, tell them why you are so anxious, they genuinely won’t mind, or take her to see a pharmacist, they will definitely be working today it might be BH hours but someone will Be Available. Finally, you could go to a nhs walk in centre.

Poor Grobags, of course you are anxious. But I think the chances are really good this is insignificant, if unpleasant for poor DD (and you!)

I had a headache every day last week, it was tiresome. I think it was because I was mildly ill with something else (laryngitis maybe) - or then again it is migraine-y type weather at present. That fits with DD's eye-pain, and so, as others have said, would a little sinus infection.

I don't think the symptoms your DD has are, on their own, at all typical of a brain tumour which I'm sure is on your mind. But of course you need a doctor to tell you that, and I'm sure s/he will.

Sorry you are having this worry Hope you both feel better really soon!

A very large proportion of headaches are due to dehydration. Make sure she has lots of water, especially in this weather.

Your dds symptoms sound very much like the ones my ds had a few months ago, it got so bad I ended up taking him a&e as he was in pain so much with them.
It turned out he needed glasses and was also very anxious about things that were happening at school and home (mine & for breakup) which resulted in him having counselling, 7 months later he's not had 1 headache.
So do go and get her checked out, if only to put your mind at rest.