My dm's will, aibu?

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My df died, my dm remarried. She recently told me her & my stepdad have written reciprocal wills. If he dies first she gets everything and on her death the estate goes to charity/ her sister - my aunt. If dm dies first, stepdad inherits everything and on his death the estate goes to his brother. I know the MN mantra is their will, their choice but I feel a bit aggrieved by this. I'd like to be remembered in my dm's will. She's had 3 inheritances in her lifetime and I feel I'm getting a raw deal being left out, it hurts. It's like I don't matter. My sibling says it's the final straw & has gone nc. I shall absolutely be leaving my estate to my dc when the time comes. She gave no explanation and I didn't like to ask, it's her choice after all. Aibu?

I would prefer a system like France where you can’t disinherit children. I like that idea.

At the end of the day you should at least give your kids your money, even if you didn't get on, because there's been a balls up of yours along the way somewhere.

A will can leave something of sentimental value, not just money, to someone. So not unreasonable to ask why nothing at all is being left.

I think it's one thing if a parent has made their own fortune and decides not to pass it on to their children. It's sad and a kick in the teeth but ultimately it's their choice

However, when it is wealth they have inheritated and haven't earned themselves then it is morally wrong and I wish people were legally protected like they are in other countries. Quite often successive generations have benefited from inheritance and to cut the next generation off is incredibly selfish

Is it true you can’t disinherit children in Scotland?

Did you ever see your DF’s will, OP?

Afaik, divorce invalidates a will just as marriage does.

So I’m surprised OP that you and your brother didn’t inherit from your father as you’d be his next of kin if he’d divorced your mother

Sorry that is incorrect. Divorce doesn't invalidate a will the will stands but is read as if the ex spouse has predeceased so any gift to them fails. Marriage does invalidate unless the will made in contemplation of marriage to a named person and you marry that person. Marrying anyone else would invalidate the will.

Oh - thanks for correcting that @Kerala1. Glad to be corrected.

Sorry not being snarky I work in this field so jolly well ought to know

Oh no sorry I didn’t think you were being snarky. I am glad to have the correct information. I’d always thought that divorce annulled a will just as marriage did.

So now I understand how Op was left out from her father’s will.