Who is being unreasonable?

[questabellatreetop]

I've been ill for quite a long time and my DH has been the main carer for 5yo DS.
DS has lots of lovely new clothes for the summer that I ordered online, the problem is that DH only dresses him in football kits! It makes me wince every time! I don't want my DS to grow into a man who only wears lycra!
What are your thoughts?

Can you dress him yourself? Or drop a big hint by laying out clean clothes for him at night ready for the morning? I think its weird to wear just football clothes tbh

Unfortunately I can't dress him at the moment. Some days I might have the energy to lay out some clothes in the evening but mostly I just can't.
To me football kits just scream 'chav'

Why don’t you suggest to DH that at five he is old enough to have some input into what he is wearing and be offered a choice?

I am with you.

I would suggest that you tell your husband that you really appreciate him getting DS dressed every day but you find it sad that you can't choose his clothes. Please would he dress DS in normal clothes as that would really make you happy.

I hope your DH would care what you think.

@SeaCabbage
Unfortunately he doesn't, he knows I don't like it and thinks I'm ridiculous, I actually think he's dressing DS in this way to deliberately pee me off.

@notanurse2017
He's pretty easy going, he likes his football kit but is happy to wear his normal clothes too.

Is DS happy wearing football kit? If he is, I don't see the issue.

@SneakyGremlins
Seriously??

Can you get the new clothes out of the wardrobe and hand them to DH? Sounds like a waste of money not letting Ds wear them!

Simple just hide the football kit. Tell DS it's in the wash.

Minimum effort for you. Maximum results.

No complaints with what DS actually end up in.

All my dd seems to wear is princess outfits or her birthday suit so I can’t really get worked up about a football kit I’m afraid. He’s 5, I don’t think it really matters what he wears.

You lost me at 'screams chav'.

Before DS was born I hated football kits. Then I had a football mad son. Who loved them. And I realised how easy they are to wash etc!

I went with the flow. Unless we were going somewhere it wasn’t appropriate.

He has grown out of it now at 16 but still has every football jersey he ever had and refuses to part with them!

Not football kits, but my DH did similar too in that he only dressed our DD in jeans and a plain tshirt. Turns out he only looks for the top item on the pile - if hes dressed her for a few daya, thats whats always on the top!! So, why dont you try put the nicer clothes on top and see what happens?

Personally I don't see anything wrong with football kits. Although I am the mother who had two boys in head to toe football kits yesterday.

Most of what my boys wear is basic t-shirts with jeans, Joggers or shorts anyway because it's more comfortable for them.

I'd say, on days when you have the energy, lay an outfit out and tell your DH you'd be really happy if he'd dress DS in it the next day. On all other days, let it go and let your DH do his thing, and you focus on getting well.

I actually think he's dressing DS in this way to deliberately pee me off.

That's a whole different ball game

I'd never put ds in a football kit. If DH was sorting his outfits out, he always would.

If you DH is looking after your DC, leave him to it. Just concentrate on resting and trying to get better.

As tough as it is as you are unable to dress him; if he's the one dressing him, then I think he should get the choice of clothes if your son doesn't want to choose.

I can see it would be frustrating but I don't think it will have a lasting impact of your DS dress sense making him alway wear Lycra. I grew up wearing woolly tights, little tartan kilts and hand knitted sweaters, none of which feature in my wardrobe these days.

Apart from going to school my two lived in replica England cricket kits for years. 30 degree quick Wash, almost instantly dry, wear repeat. Easy peasy. Saved on time, washing, buying clothes, and making decisions.

Tell your dh that your son should now be choosing what to dress in, but if he still chooses football kit then learn to embrace it.

What makes you think he's doing it to deliberately pee you off? Is your DH generally petty and controlling or is it just this one thing that is an issue? If its the latter I'd let it go, as long as your DS is dressed in clean and weather appropriate clothing I don't think it's worth causing a major issue over.

If you feel dismissed and that your DH is deliberately doing it to annoy you, that’s a problem.

Depends what football kit it is. If it is Liverpool , he is bu