Slimming World Consultant has had a Gastric Bypass -AIBU?

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My friend has lost 8.5 stone having had a gastric bypass on the NHS. Prior to the surgery she lost a stone or two on SW but qualified for the surgery because she maintained that she couldn't lose weight via dieting.

Now she's a just become a SW consultant.

It doesn't sit right with me at all.
Surely it's dishonest to tell a room full of members that you have lost the weight through SW when actually you have a stomach a fraction of the size of theirs and feel no hunger?

You sound a little jealous. It’s not relevant that she had the surgery on the NHS, but you dropped that into the post to try and make her look even worse. It’s none of your business; if she encourages people to eat healthily then that is all well and good.

I agree I think it’s misleading to the members. That doesn’t diminish her personal achievement by whatever method but taking a job selling one way of losing weight when you lost the majority due to another reason is deceptive. I had a similar issue with someone in a Facebook group. The group was supposed to be for people looking to follow a certain hypnosis method. This person basically took over my the group and started advertising herself and her own slimming organisation. It looked though like She lost the majority of the weight due to having a gastric sleeve as well even if she was following the other method. She had done articles on other websites giving this information. When I said I felt the direction of the group had changed she blocked me and anyone who questioned why I had been blocked. Also any posts she didn’t like she had starting deleting as well... I guess ultimately you could report the concern to sw but you may be wasting your time as I’m sure their main interest is in getting members through their consultants and a big weight loss encourages members.

Don’t really like slimming world and the whole dieting industry as a whole, eating muller lites doesn’t address the core of your weight gain imo. But... as a short term solution to losing a lot of excess weight, they can be useful.
I know of a few people that have lost a lot of weight through slimming world, more than your pal, without the need for gastric surgery. Personally I think that if she couldn’t convince herself she was capable of losing a lot of weight through it, she’s struggle to convince her membership.

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I am pleased for my friend that she is a healthy weight now and happier.
It's the lying to clients that seems dishonest.

I'm not going to 'out' her. I just struggle to have a conversation about her new group when I know that she's lying. I worry for her as well if it all comes out. It's a small community that she lives in & news travels fast.

Yet she lost 2st before the surgery with sw
Well the OP says 'a stone or two' so not necessarily a full 2 stone, but even so when you've got a lot of weight to lose the first bit is easier so while losing up to 2 stone that way is great, it's not the same achievement from a viewpoint of advertising slimming world as if she'd lost the whole lot that way. Most methods of weight loss would probably have a similar effect at the start. What counts is the ongoing effect and she hasn't achieved that through SW. To pretend she has is lying.

It will quickly be known, one way or another, that her weight loss is not a slimming world success. I think she will end up looking foolish and dishonest. As her friend, try to protect her from this by pointing it out?

I would worry that a Consultant who has lost the majority of their weight through bariatric surgery isn't the best placed to give advice on Slimming World. One of the popular sayings at SW meetings is 'you're not eating enough' (low calorie foods) if someone hadn't lost weight that week, surely your friend won't be able to trot that one out with any conviction?

And I agree about the fallout if her 'secret' is discovered. Nothing more dangerous than a roomful of hungry people finding out they've been deceived...

I think it's dishonest...unless she tells them she lost 2 stone via SW and the rest by GBP.

Has she already been given the consultant role? My friend is one and had to go through her whole story at several interviews before she was given the role. I highly doubt they would be happy for her to talk about her surgery being the main factor in her weight loss; so either she will omit that from them or SW will tell her to omit it from her customers. Either way it's deception from a SW perspective.

It will come out in the end.

If it was me, I'd out her to SW - this is from their consultant recruitment page:
"With the experience of being a successful Slimming World member and well on the way to your target, you don’t need any special qualifications to apply"

She clearly isn't a successful Slimming World member and has become a consultant under false pretences .....

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My instinct is to talk I her about it but she thinks no one knows that she's had surgery.

I know because her husband told mine. But also she lost weight very rapidly so people are gossiping about it. I am not getting drawn into conversation about it with the gossipees btw

The group is a few villages away so the catchment group are unlikely to know her or have seen how quickly she lost the weight.

yanbu I've done both and they are totally totally different.

Who cares?

Eh, probably the customers who are paying her money? It's a bit like the Instahuns saying 'who cares if they don't put #ad?' Businesses should be transparent.

OP your latest post suggests she will not be disclosing her surgery to SW, which will cause a furore for her eventually. I can almost see the headline in Take a Break: SW consultant had Gastric Bypass!

If she tells the truth then i cant see the problem, there are ways of 'spinning' this so it works very well

If she is lying even by omission then thats bang out of order

Friend of mine lost a shed load of weight one summer...she did look fab...she told everyone that it was down to eating a bit more healthily and going on the WII

It was lighter life, but a number of us were obviously happy for her but also such failures as we couldn't lose weight by going in the WII

Never said anything to her though

How much income can a SW consultant generate? I'm wondering if, assuming she's omitted to mention the bariatric surgery, she could be in trouble for obtaining money under false pretences? I would be a bit pissed off if my SW consultant had lost her excess weight through surgery not the eating plan, all the while paying her a fiver a week

My slimming world lady is a big lady, she is a lot bigger than me and others at her group, so when she sits there and tells me I need to make healthy choices I'm like it's a bit hypocritical but on the other hand she can say we are all in this together "our weight loss journeys" and all that bollocks

I wouldn’t be happy if this was my SW consultant.

It sounds dishonest unless she is upfront with her group about it. Frankly though the only people I know who have used SW lose the same few stone over and over again - it doesn't work for the majority of people as a permenant solution so for her she has probably done the right thing.

@Lorddenning1 my SW consultant was big when I started going last year - but she'd already successfully lost 5 stone and has since lost loads more. I actually found her an inspiration. I wouldn't have liked it if I'd subsequently found out she'd had bariatric surgery though.

It is dishonest and your friend will suffer the fallout when she is found out.

I agree it leaves a bad taste. I wouldn’t shop her though

I attend SW and wouldn't be very happy if I found out that my consultant had lost the weight due to surgery.
It's dishonest in my eyes even tho she lost a stone or two on SW.

YANBU. Doesn’t the woman feel any shame?

She's headed for serious ridicule that will last ages. People may even think she's dishonest in other aspects of her life. Either take her to one side yourself or dob her in. I think you have to.

@Emmageddon she has stayed the same weight in the 8 months I have been going, she doesn't tell us how much weight she looses, only that she does get weighed.