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Would you take in a neighbors parcel?

67 replies

justmakemeacuppa · 25/05/2018 20:30

I’ve never liked my neighbor but tried to stay neighborly best I could without having to socialise, neighbor eventually fell out with me. Stupid reason.
I then later refused to take her parcel in as I don’t want a reason to have to speak with her but then they took an unexpected parcel of mine in. ??
Would you take a parcel for someone that doesn’t like you or was I being mean lol

OP posts:
Oysterbabe · 26/05/2018 07:01

I always take in parcels for the neighbours. No skin off my nose, why be petty?

LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset · 26/05/2018 07:04

Yes always. Wouldn't you want them to do the same for you? If you're home and they're not it's just common sense.

BdR2018 · 26/05/2018 07:07

No I don’t take them in for neighbors I don’t like, 1 time I did accidentally so let the kids play Football with it

mrspicklepants27 · 26/05/2018 07:10

My neighbour quite freely took mine yesterday.. Out of my porch.. Into his home.. Because "he felt they weren't safe". I always ask for my parcels to be left in my porch, and its always safe.
He's a bit of a strange one.

Fintress · 26/05/2018 07:21

Yes always, but I do it for the delivery drivers sake

That's the reason I do it.

MumofBoysx2 · 26/05/2018 07:26

Yes. It can help you both out to do that for each other, you're not expected to be best buddies or anything. I think refusing would be very petty (unless it was happening excessively or waking a baby or something)

VivaKondo · 26/05/2018 07:28

BdR ????
I’m not sure I’d want to be your neigbourgs....

Wishfulmakeupping · 26/05/2018 07:32

I’m a sahm on a newbuild estate where everyone else seems to be at work and happily took them in but some people started taking the piss huge items, or leaving parcels here for days before collecting plus ringing the doorbell after 9pm so now I refuse

SkaPunkPrincess · 26/05/2018 07:32

I never take them in, I'm not their personal fucking sorting office. Especially if something needed signing for.

LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset · 26/05/2018 07:37

BdR2018 "play football with it" Grin

daisychain01 · 26/05/2018 07:40

Nice that people consider the delivery driver in all this - I do it for that very reason. Poor drivers probably get this crap all the time. We're really lucky to be in a village where neighbours get along well - it makes life so much easier to support each other.

We used to live in a village where our NDNs moved in and immediately installed electrified gates and an intercom - talk about putting out the message "leave us alone"! Utterly ridiculous. They wouldn't dream of taking in people's parcels but expected everyone to do it for them because delivery drivers could never get in to their drive! I remember standing there in the pouring rain buzzing on their intercom, trying to deliver their parcel, no reply. I didn't bother after that, idiots.

PoorYorick · 26/05/2018 07:42

I would, just to fuck with their head. I guess that's what she did and it worked.

Dangerousminds · 26/05/2018 07:50

I always take my neighbours in, but they NEVER come and pick them up. They seem to expect me to take them round. And I always do eventually because I don't want them sitting in my house for days. But surely they should be coming to get them?!

Anditstartsagain · 26/05/2018 07:54

I used to refuse to take them for a certain neighbour she had things sent around 3 times a week usually from next but would come to colllect at 7.30 when she arrived home knocking until I answered, explained to her that was ds bedtime and she could come after 8 or i would drop in but she continued to come at 7.30 so I stopped taking anything.

I refused last week for a different neighbour because the door bell woke ds2 who was poorly and if I didn't get back to giggle the buggy he wouldn't go back to sleep.

seventh · 26/05/2018 07:57

I always help my neighbours if I can. Even if I'm not keen on them. Makes sense to me

Birdshitbridgegotme · 26/05/2018 08:03

I would yes. Maybe your neighbour is trying to build bridges by taking your parcel in. I couldn't say no after she took mine. You dont have to be overly friendly but cordial is fine.
Saying all that it depends on what went on on the first place

TeacupTattoo · 26/05/2018 08:09

I'd always take in parcels to be polite, it's considerate to the delivery drivers too. Life is so short, is there no way you can sort the difficulties with your neighbours? Pettiness breeds pettiness if left unchecked.

fenneltea · 26/05/2018 08:10

I take in parcels for all my neighbours except for one, who had regular deliveries that they left for ages and then could hardly be bothered to say thankyou when they picked them up and they are quite happy about blocking our drive with their cars, but get arsey if we park across our own drive, so I don't bother now. I don't mind being kind, but I'm not a doormat.

It's the first time of living here for twenty three years that I haven;t though.

snotato · 26/05/2018 08:10

I have an absolute loonatic for a neighbour.
I have often sent delivery people away who have asked if I can take in a parcel for her.

I would not want the awkwardness when she comes to collect it. She can’t be civil towards me for a second. I also don’t want to see her ugly head up close.

LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset · 26/05/2018 08:10

Yeah what was the original beef 🥩 OP?

TobysAunt · 26/05/2018 08:14

I refuse for the one who me we collects their parcels and is a general arse. I do for the others.

Fuckitbucket13 · 26/05/2018 08:15

I take for all our neighbours. As an ex delivery driver I know how hard it is to be left with a load of undelivered parcels at the end of the day.
Having said that the woman across won't speak to us (she's better when we are) the people next door but one are a bit snobby so I'd struggle to take in for either of them but would probably still do it.

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 26/05/2018 08:19

I will take in parcels for neighbours I've fallen out with. It's an opportunity to make amends if I was at fault. Or an opportunity to gain the moral high ground if they were at fault.
You might have to live next to each other for 30 years. No point inconveniencing each other and the delivery man for ever.
The only exception would be if I felt there was some physical threat, then I would obviously wish to avoid even that limited contact.

OneStepSideways · 26/05/2018 08:21

I never take in parcels for neighbours now, other than one who I'm friends with (we text each other when we've taken a parcel in).

If it's Royal Mail I prefer to collect from there rather than knocking on a neighbour's door (they never seem to be in) or they come round with it at 11pm when we're in bed!

MaudesMum · 26/05/2018 08:24

I'm doing it a lot for my neighbours at the moment, because I'm working from home - and, yes, it can be a bit annoying when I'm stuck into a bit of work and have to run downstairs. BUT my neighbours are lovely and always come round for the parcels and say thanks. And when I was working away from home they regularly did small things like putting my recycling bins back in my yard. To me its part of the give and take of living in a street and means that I feel that I can ask for the occasional small favour in return.