To sometimes pay for DP's meal when we eat out and vice versa

[LionAllMessy]

If you eat at a restaurant with your DP/DH/DW, do you split the bill based on what you individually ate and drank? Or does just one of you usually pay for the whole meal?

I'm curious as to whether it's common to split the meal when you're in a long-term serious relationship or marriage.

I sometime pay, other times he will pay. We don't split the bill based on what each other eats. We have superset finances but split the bills.

My SIL and her dh split the bill equally when they eat out, but buy each other drinks on a night out. They have completely separate finances he is shockingly shit with money. .

I would pay for myself when out with a friend as opposed to split 50/50

@NotUmbongoUnchained

I just find it really odd that a couple in a relationship wouldn't share something as fundamental as money. All in one pot and everything comes out, buy ant treats you like. The idea of splitting a bill or treating my partner to a meal is very alien to me.

It doesn't matter, it all family money.

All our money is joint. It doesn’t matter whose card is handed over it all comes from the same account.

We take turns paying. We’re married but have separate finances just because we never got around to having a joint account and this has always worked. When we were younger, usually whoever was less broke paid! But for most of our relationship, one of us paid and then the other would next time (for the most part, we never like kept score). Often now if we have a night out (rare, 2 small kids), one pays the babysitter and the other buys at the pub. I think we probably only sometimes split the bill maybe the first 6 months we were dating. We’ve always sort of thought of our money as shared though so it’s not been a major issue. I would find it annoying to date someone who meticulously expected to split everything.

DH pays for everything. We have separate money but my money is for me and he pays all expenses and bills etc.

We don't care, i pay, he pays, there's no routine. Although we don't have a joint account yet we still consider our money "ours" - couldn't imagine being in a relationship where you are nit picking over stuff like this

We sort of take turns, if it's a pre-theatre thing whoever didn't pay for the tickets pays, the birthday person never pays, if one of us is feeling flush they pay, if it's a casual curry we halve it by paying with cash

DP always tells them to let me try the wine though