To dislike other people's sticky, unclean children!

[Allabouts]

AIBU?

I don't dislike other people's children in general but AIBU to be pissed off when other people let their kids go around with snotty noses, sticky stuff on their hands from eating sweet stuff and unclean mouths after eating?

I just don't understand it. Buy some wipes ffs.

And no, I'm not talking about normal wear and tear of being a child, such as mud, muddy clothes or getting wet in puddles, etc etc

I'm talking about being messy, completely unkept.

Can't stand it.

Hate this too but appreciate that all kids get dirty, I have OCD and have had to learn to relax about this with my own.

Poor ds was always spotless as a baby but I've relaxed so much more now and he's a teen and it's unfortunately rubbed off on him.

Dd is 7 and I love seeing her clean and fresh but she doesn't stay like that for long, she attracts filth but has a shower every evening and often of a morning as she has crazy curly hair and I find a quick "cats lick" in the shower just as easy as a wash.

What upsets me is seeing kids in the playground of a morning with the remains of I'm assuming last nights dinner down their shirt and in some cases even caked to their face. That's downright neglectful.

go do some book reading about nutritional benefits of milk for children with no allergies
And spare me any tosh about
mucus
Milk being pus
Or other unsound theories

*insomuchpain
My DD has always suffered from allergies from being a baby, constant snotty nose, sneezing, itchy eyes etc...
DD also suffers from asthma too, when at appointment with asthma nurse, She told me to get a cotton bud put some vasaline on it , then just slightly insert just above the rim of the nostrils and this will help especially with hay fever (as the a lot of the pollen will stick to the vasaline instead of going right up the nose)..Same with dust too
Hope it helps

I got a not snotty clean kid OP - initially and boy was I bloody proud of myself

Problem is - he isn't anymore. He was for years but bang 💥 now he's just vile sometimes. I love him still of course

I had to give up in the end though - it was either let him be a minging snotty grubby child or stop him having a life by being a helicopter with the hand gel, tissues and wipes

I'm less judgemental and more sympathetic to fellow mothers of gross kids. I still want their kids to stay at a safe distance from me and think eeeeewww but I understand these unfortunate things need to live and I have to suck it up

I do a school run for a taxi company taking either special needs or non special needs to their school. Depending on contract, can be up to six children. Yes, some are unkempt. Dirty, smelly, whatever? And like Allabouts, wonder why before parents send them to school, don't make sure their clean and tidy? With those that are dirty/sticky, have to check my car after each journey for any substances left behind.
However, in today's society, it seems its OK for some parents to send them to school like that. Not in my day when at school. If we arrived looking filthy/sticky, the school would soon be contacting our parents. Asking them to make sure we were presentable before arriving...

[DISCLAIMER: I have no children and very little experience of smols, so please be kind]

I didn't realise how much small children smelled until I went to collect my nephew from a play date a few years ago.

Walked into the room where he and his wee chum had been playing on the computer and found myself physically rearing back from the smell* (they were about seven or eight at the time, I think).

I didn't actually realise children of that age sweated, thought it only kicked in at puberty.

• Obviously I am not proud of myself for this, and tried to hide my reaction as much as possible, I'm not a total monster.

PS - obviously also not having a go at my sister and/or her friend, both whom keep their weans clean for the most part, I presume.

Lipstick, dairy is more detrimental to optimal health than beneficial.
NUTRITIONAL FACTS is a great resource, you'd do well to educate yourself with more modern data. We do not need cows' milk. The calves do though. It's very weird to take the milk intended for one species and give it to another. Dairy absolutely does contribute or exacerbate various conditions such as eczema, asthma, hay fever, and makes kids snottier. Mine have never had a cold, and my eldest is seven. No dairy ever.
Try giving it up for a month and see how much better you feel.

Its gross. I stopped going to a toddler group as I saw parents letting their babies eat crisps/ chocolate buttons whilst playing with the toys and getting them covered in dribbly chocolate. It makes me heave lol. I follow my kids round with wipes lol. My oldest constantly has a snotty nose during winter and when he comes out of school it's all dried on its foul! He is hopeless at wiping it himself and they obviously don't do it for him. I cant stand other people's grubby kids especially when they come near me with food in their hands or dirty hands. There was a kid eating toast actually inside the soft play area the other day! I cant cope lol

Toast?so what
The soft play area will be full of all kinds of body detritus.snot,poo,scabby bits,plasters
And unless your kid is immunosuppressed it’s not a problem

One shouldn’t remove milk from child diet were there is no intolerance Given milk provides calcium, vitamin D uptake & absorption,good fat and hydration
A runny nose is no big deal compared to nutritional benefits of milk

You have obviously never had a child with a dairy induced ‘runny nose’. My middle boy had a sore nose, from wiping, was teased by other children and looked at as if he was neglected, because of the disgusting snot hat was dripping from or cracked to his nose.

He feels better now, than he has felt his whole life and his bloods are excellent. Please stop scaremongering about diet. I’ve been a vegan for 35yrs and I look younger and am fitter than most people 20 yrs younger.

God yes, the too long in a pooey (is that a word?) nappy at playgroup. Once we'd sat down for half an hour carpet time. One lb did a poo and his mum didn't change him until the carpet time ended. Eww. Everyone did the initial peek in their own child's nappy and realised it was her. The boy was 2. He knew he had done it and she kept trying to make him sit down in it. He has now been placed into care due to neglect so I assume that was the tip of the iceberg.

And yy to the girls with birds nests. My DD has to have the tv on or a distraction but it is always up and out of the way.

DD is generally mud caked at the end of nursery, but surely that's part of the fun.

What I hate is surestart centre paint. Whatever ours buys must be cut with glue. Stuck fast even with every trick tried. They bang on about getting dirty is good. Yes, outdoors dirty is. I object to activities involving smearing of paint. Poor DD has to wear the same yakky painting clothes every time we go.

This article was in The Guardian on Monday:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/2018/may/21/most-common-childhood-cancer-partly-caused-by-lack-of-infection

As humans, it's natural that we baulk at signs of infection, but perhaps letting our kids catch small colds off each other is a way to ward off 'bigger' illnesses?

I’m not scaremongering in least,I’m disputing that’s markedly different
Disputing bad science,spurious claims with little efficacy
I await the usual links to iffy literature and claims.which I’ll fastidiously ignore

You should see the state of my eight year old DS sometimes when he leaves school. I can promise you that is NOT how he arrives... he leaves with crusty black sticky stuff on the tip of his nose (snot I presume) and thick black fingernails. Drives me MAD. My DD’s always seem to have messy hair and sticky hands as well. I try my best .

Strippervicar

You could say a poopy nappy (or diaper as we call them in Canada). Poopy diapers with stuff everywhere is one of the worst, but I definitely think running noses are worse. (Keep in mind that as a nurse I have seen, and cleaned up, a lot of grossness. Mucous is one of the things that bothers me most.)

Ugh, I was at a baby class last week and someone fed their baby some of those crispy puff type things during the class and then he crawled onto my lap and spread it all over my freshly-washed trousers. It stank and dried really crispy so I couldn’t pick it off.

Can’t stand other people’s kids at the best of times 😬 and I really don’t understand the obsession with giving constant snacks everywhere. And if you’re gonna do it, for God’s sake wipe their hands afterwards.

A few years ago I was involved in a bread baking event for children from my parish before First Communion. The idea was that some adult volunteers would have about 12-16 children under their care at a big table in the school hall, and together we would mix and knead yeast bread. Afterwards the dough would be left to rise, and the children would head off to their next activity which was some sort of prayer service. When they returned they would be given their nicely baked individual loaf. (Volunteers had risen dough ready to go from the night before to facilitate this almost instant result).

Before we commenced, all the children were marched off to the bathroom to use the loo and wash their hands. Silly me, I thought since they were supervised they would all actually wash their hands and that the supervisor would actually supervise.

Anyway, we got going, measuring, talking about the basics of how the yeast would make the dough rise. The big bowl was passed around the table a few times and each child got a few turns poking it with the wooden spoon, and then I divided the dough ball into several small ones so they could break into smaller groups for kneading. It was at that point that I noticed a little girl with the filthiest pair of hands I had ever seen, dirt under the nails, smears on the fingers - ewwwwwww, too late to prevent her touching the dough, and I thought it would embarrass her if I sent her off to the bathroom so I swallowed hard, smiled, and cringed inwardly. The children had a blast with their very enthusiastic and unorthodox kneading and then off they skipped when the activity was over.

I was left with this very dubious bowl of kneaded dough, and since I had a few errands to run I put it in the car and was out for a few hours. When I got home the dough had risen beautifully. I thought, 'Feck it anyway, I'll bake it and see how it turns out - the heat will kill off anything microbic' - I tend to be an optimist...

The bread turned out gorgeous. It was the best loaf I have ever tasted. The crust was perfect. I suffered no ill effects.

The lesson is that a car on a sunny day is a great place to let dough rise.

(Also, I suspect a bit of dirt isn't really a problem, but I confess I often have to tell myself not to go at other people's children with a tissue, because snot everywhere is awful and children shouldn't have to go through life looking like urchins).

Totally agree, it's grim. Worst of all though is with people post "cute" videos of their child with food all over their face 🤢

Wow, I can't remember the last time I saw a child with a snotty nose and I work in a Drs surgery.

Where are all these dirty, snotty nosed kids?

Oh wait, I did see them on early episodes of Call the Midwife.

wipes are bad for the environment

So are snot and bum fingers

Mum of toddlers and I hear you! I hate having to touch toddlers with a snotty yellow nose, sweaty hands full of cake crumbs and God knows, and with yesterday's breakfast round their mouths!

My kids seem to attract dirt, and my son has a perpetually runny nose. Taking a hair brush to my daughter's hair can result in screaming hysterics. I pick my battles - that's better than dealing with a six year old who is so worked up that she is refusing to go to school.

Well most toddlers I know hate having their hands and faces wiped. They squirm, hit, run away or wipe it all on you. I have to sneak up on my DD from behind or I can't get near her face with a cloth! Sometimes I don't have the energy and she walks home with chocolate round her mouth.

I'm with you about snotty noses though, it's grim to leave a child with that on their face and chaps the skin as it dries.

I have to agree with you OP. I’m not a particularly tidy person but I can’t bear snot and food covered little hands and faces.