Ethics regarding Instamums and huns

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Homeisthecalm here, I think it's suitable to start a new ethics thread.

Since clearly, the one from yesterday isn't really about ethics but Clemmie.

Thanks all,

Keep it as nice or as stingy as you like

I'll start off by saying things should be clearly marked 'ad' or 'gifted'

Although the term gifted gives me the rage

No harm done it’s true (well unless you want to avoid being marketing fodder) I guess I’ve just completely missed the impulse and wonder why

But then I’ve only done two reviews on Ocado (one so hideous it motivated me and one very nice) asked what a sofa was in IG and said nice things to friends like ‘pretty’ so I’m low engagement on most things

@fivelityleduckies I'm not bothered just discussing really, I found it more interesting that people were beginning to pick up and comment on this, whereas when it was hidden and not promoted no one did.
Clover Stroud has a picture up of her children naked. It's a lovely pic, but the little boy is naked and this seems a little bit personal to have shared on such a public platform. Granted it's taken at a distance but I wouldn't share such an intimate family image.

it's not genuine it's just to get engagement up.

Exactly this is what annoys me, there's nothing genuine about it but people buy into it. Like FODs recent post asking everyone for their classic parenting quotes with everyone chiming in with theirs...Errr...he ain't listening guys, he couldn't give a flying f!ck

@wearelocal ha! I just looked at the previous post and it indeed is SO similar! He’s like a comedian...using the same joke repertoire ... sort of

@marsha I’m similar to you - don’t feel to comfortable commenting on posts by those I don’t know personally...Ive only done it in extreme circumstances (e.g. condolences to a mother who lost her child etc). Otherwise I’m very low engagement (except I’m a sucker for competitions where all you have to do is comment )

I am low engagement now, I'm also aware that whenever you comment, that gets promoted to all those who follow you etc, it all feels so weird.

Yes I’ve just tagged someone on a couple of baby things - cute French clothes. But only just! Felt strange

@bored yes very intimate family photos or experiences leave me feeling conflicted too ...recently a person I follow posted their birth story. I love reading others’ birth stories and find them fascinating (and this one was indeed beautifully written) but it was also accompanied by very raw and intimate photos. I almost felt guilty to be so ‘present’ at this highly personal moment...but then can also see the beauty in it all (like art). So many gray areas when it comes to sharing on social media....

Totally Bored all this seeing what others are saying and liking. It’s so odd

My pet peeve is the showcasing of all freebies received (or at least I assume they are freebies) that seems to only get shown in the stories. E.g. there will be a photo of some beautifully packed box of products with the brand tagged and a comment like “can’t wait to try these”...Feels like a sneaky way to advertise without having to be too clear about it

Also could someone clarify what the difference is between #sponsor and #ad ? I sometimes feel like they are the same thing, however some igers prefer to use sponsor to make it look more business like and less ‘tacky’?

(sorry for my excessive posting - I’ve had a glass of red and am feeling extra chatty this eve )

Exactly this is what annoys me, there's nothing genuine about it but people buy into it. Like FODs recent post asking everyone for their classic parenting quotes with everyone chiming in with theirs...Errr...he ain't listening guys, he couldn't give a flying f!ck

BUT if anyone dared comment that, FOD would promptly swan in and declare that person is talking 'out of their bottom' and of course he's listening to every mundane and unfunny/boring quote.

KingJohn there was a critical comment on FOD's #ad last night and it seems to have disappeared. I wouldn't dream of commenting on those posts - the ads follow you 👀

Actually to be fair there's now lots of criticism in the comments on that post.

Motherof5boys needs a medal. I've no idea what's ad or gifted or if they are paying for everything but I feel so tired just watching them. Her account just astounds me. They seem to be having a fabulous time but must be very wealthy. I don't feel envious though, they don't seemed to have stopped for months and so much change must be exhausting with little kids. I'd also worry that as half of them are so little they'll have no memory of this amazing time and they'll have to do it again!! but I do enjoy her updates and the sights and experiences shared.

Has Natasha Bailie disappeared or is that just me?

Nah, NB is still on instagram......

But she hasn't posted for 3 days. She explained in her most recent post.

I guess she has blocked me 🤔 which is strange as I'm incredibly vanilla on there - don't get involved in spats or comment on much.

Oh well! I had forgotten her account existed until I looked at this thread so I don't think she'll be missed!

Hmm, very interesting little peruse on the internet. Anyone who followed cigarettesandcalpol then her disappearance was most definitely due to messages received online and all that goes with a larger account and it's quite a hard read. Whilst her business account has been completely deleted her smaller account has not and that has a link to her blog, the blog is cigarettesandcalpol.com and the post is called 'Just block them'
She posted twice since regarding mental health. But it's clear she was on receipt on inbox messages regarding her parenting.

cigarettesandcalpol.com/2018/04/27/just-block-them/

Blog post.

Oh ffs....How very 'woe is me'. Here's a thought....she could just take herself off social media altogether?

@mrtumblesmum well that's why I posted, of all the dramas, she actually has. Her account had 20k followers and lots of deals. It's deleted not deactivated like others. And her personal Instagram has not been posted on for 2 years. The blog, well if not seen it before and no idea what traffic it gets. So in a way that's what she had done. She turned down the Instagram money and deals and maybe the sleepyhead post was carrying out an arranged contract that should have been on IG.
It's not like it's been promoted as a woe is me to her 20k followers.

face whilst kids screaming/ bawling/ calling for you in background. Go tend to your child instead of trying to show how hard your life is. It is not normal to get your phone out and story your children having meltdowns or arguing or crying for a cuddle acting up cos they are tired! And who would find this interesting to watch.

I hate these too. Makes me seriously uncomfortable to watch. How self involved do you have to be not to attend to your child first and foremost.

BoredandTired how can you tell the difference between a deleted and deactivated IG account?