about the mean spiritedness on mumsnet at times?

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If someone posts about feeling bad about how lovely a friends marriage seems it is met with replys saying things like ooh you don't know what goes on behind closed doors, or my friend appeared to have the perfect marriage but her husband was a serial cheat etc, etc.

Or is someone has a nice house or lifestyle they are all up to their eyes in debt and on the brink of losing it all.

Some who looks good for their age will be told no matter what age they are "I looked good too when I was your age then it al went south when I was _ insert some random older age and so on.

If someone posts about about their lifestyle i.e. they cook from scratch, never gain weight etc within the context of a reasonable post or question it always seems to be met with cries of doughnuts and stealth boast.

Before I ever ventured onto mumsnet I heard it was a nest of vipers (or like crabs in a bucket) and while there are many nice, helpful posters their is a lot of sniping, nastiness and bullying.

Why is this behaviour so prevenlent on mumsnet is it really just home to a lot of miserable people who can't believe that anyone has any happiness or good fortune?

Wow goady much.

I think there can be trolls and mean posters but you get that anywhere. Most people on here are decent people who give good advice. So no I don't think mumsnet is full of bikers. I think it represents the world very well. Some knobs and some great people.

There’s absolutely no need to be here if you don’t like it.

Mn just reflects society in general. A couple of nice people floating in a sea of bastards.

I do like it sometimes but I do see a lot of mean comments, if someone seems proud of themselves for something then someone will be along to roll their eyes at them.

I suppose it is probably reflective of british culture.

The swearing is what shocks me if they're not effing & jeffing they haven't made a point. No need for such bad language.

Agree OP. Some people just have to disagree / make a nasty comment for the sake of it sometimes.

The "wow, goady much" comments really annoy me.

Mn just reflects society in general. A couple of nice people floating in a sea of bastards.

The swearing is what shocks me if they're not effing & jeffing they haven't made a point. No need for such bad language.

I take it you're joking, Fuckitbucket13?

I only really see it on AIBU.

And it is one of the most read and responded to boards, so a lot of people must enjoy reading the comments.

Brilliant

I think MN brings raw, uncensored responses that are not always kind or thoughtful purely due to the anonymity of it. Would they tell even their closest of friends so bluntly what they thought? Probably not. However, that is one of the great things about mumsnet. It's helpful although not always supportive to see things from another point of view.

@watcherintherye no I'm not. I swear a bit but the amount of fuc**ng in every sentence is too much.
I walked past a group of 12, 13 yr olds effing & Jeffing, I thought bloody hell they must be the children of some mumsnet posters

If someone posts about feeling bad about how lovely a friends marriage seems it is met with replys saying things like ooh you don't know what goes on behind closed doors,
I've always assumed that these types of posts are people trying to be supportive to the OP - basically saying 'don't beat yourself up thinking that their lives are perfect and yours is a pile of crap because theirs is probably crap too (and they're probably envying you)'
That said there do seem to be a core of posters who use any vague criticism of a man as an excuse to pile in en-masse and say 'he's cheating on you, LTB' with a tone of bitchy satisfaction. You could have a poster saying 'AIBU to be a tiny bit peeved with DH when he's got caught up at work and arrived 30 seconds later than he said for an important dinner' and you'd get posts of 'he's cheating on you, check his phone for proof, LTB'. It's quite sad.
Then again there are equal numbers (possibly less vocal) who actually offer support and helpful advice. So I guess it's like society generally.

I swear a bit but the amount of fuc**ng in every sentence is too much

Says the poster with Fuckit in their name.

Some people could just start an argument in an empty room, and come on here to find a target.

Yawn. Couldn't you have posted on one of the previous billion posts about this op.

OP do you mean like that?

I agree.

The one about food was a classic. If you spend more than someone else, you're an idiot and you're probably in debt up to your eyeballs. If you spend less, you're probably starving your kids and not giving them enough nutrients.

I have found mumsnet to be a supportive place. ESP at difficult periods in my life.

Threads like this bring it down.

If you don't like it, don't participate.

Simples.

The "you're all bitches" threads turn up at least weekly, and never make any difference at all.

Try using topics other than AIBU if you want to see MN differently (hide the topic for a week or so?). If you still don't like it, then there are hundreds of other chat sites out there, probably including some that are the perfect fit for you.

OP, are you new to the Internet?

@LoisWilkersonsLastNerve
Mn just reflects society in general. A couple of nice people floating in a sea of bastards.

Calling it now, my favourite quote of 2018.

"No need for such bad language"

You do know that it brands itself as 'the one with the swearing'

I don't think it's fair to complain that people do something that is explicitly OK here, and actually a USP.

'No need for such bad language.'

For someone with 'Fuck' in their username. Oh, the irony!

Food threads on here are so batshit they're fabulous entertainment. Worth hanging round for those alone.

🦀 in a 🗑️?

It’s just life innit? Or are we all supposed to be all sugar and spice because we’re women?