To be pissed off that people keep making comments about my baby's routine?.. Making out I'm lazy

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So 11 week old goes to bed 9pm.. Wakes at 7 for bottle (sometimes 6) falls asleep with the feed. Sleeps till 10-11am. Throughout the day goes two hours between bottles. And maybe has 4x20 min naps. Unless in car or pram when motion makes her sleep. But wakes as soon as stops.
She's alert and loves me playing with her.
When she sleeps till 10-11 I get up around 9 and get most of the stuff done round the house. There has been the odd one when I've laid in bed till she wakes, if not much needs doing.
People keep saying it's lazy blah blah. But I spend 95% of the time when she's awake playing etc or cuddles... There may bethe odd, quick load of laundry onceds is home from sch. Or wash up thro tee day etc.
I take her out for fresh air every day without fail. Even if just round block or to tesco.
It's getting me down. Today I tried to keep her awake after 7am bottle and she was so miserable and wanted to sleep by 7.50 am

Yes it's a long sleep she has but its not so I can be lazy :( it's a routine she's gotten herself into

Why do people have to judge

just let it wash over you,people will always have opinions.
in time her routine will change.it will even become less fixed so they ability to work around things will be easier.
but right now shes sleeping napping for her little body to grow as it needs to so don't listen to cruel comment on this.

Sounds lovely, enjoy it while you can and ignore! Most babies that age wake about 6/7 then have another nap till mid-morning. Sometimes I used to use that time to have a shower and get stuff done, other times I stayed in bed after a rough night. If we were going out it was always a rush to get us ready and out in time for that early nap. Her routine will change naturally.

Just ignore them and enjoy your baby and your sleep! It's a wonderful routine Pay no attention whatsoever

It's not a problem and works for you. You have a son at school and a small baby- that's a full time job.

That said, if your sister wanted to go out for the day you could have met before 12pm?
Baby's up at 7am has a feed and goes down for another 2 hours nap so you could put her in her pram for that and go out for the day occasionally?

Your sister and mum were probably disappointed but moaning and calling you lazy isn't on

I would say people are jealous too OP! When my DD started sleeping through at 8 weeks this was the same kind of time she'd sleep from and to. She never really napped in the day and wasn't until about 7mo once she was used to her own room that she'd nap for 30mins - hours morning and afternoon.

She gradually moved her own bedtime and now sleeps 7 til 7, sometimes til 9 if she's had a busy day at nursery!

Just be happy you've got a sleeping baby and don't worry about what anyone says!

Sounds a bit like the routine my dtds got into. I initially stayed up & did stuff around house after the 7am feed, but felt like walking dead. So, we all went back to bed & informed the world & his wife not to bother us before 11am, nor expect us out of the house until after lunchtime
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We went out every afternoon for fresh air etc, they thrived on it. I was very popular with pre-school manager as I only wanted afternoon sessions, they survived transition to infants, juniors and seniors!

They get up early every morning for school, but still love their sleep - if it works for you OP stick with it and enjoy these days

So who are all thes people who have something to say?

I see since i began to as you who these people were youve said mum and sis.
Why does it matter. Tell people the bare minimum then they cant turn stuff on you.

Definitely jealousy My ds was up every 2 hours in the night at that age I would have given anything for your routine,sounds great

Sounds all absolutely lovely for you both, enjoy it - but bear in mind this cosy routine will probably change as she gets older. By the time mine were six months they liked massive 12 hour sleeps at night and then they’d be up all morning, but you’ll both work this all out, take your time.

Sounds perfectly fine to me at that age. My DS was like this and would sometimes sleep till midday, I wasn’t complaining. He’s now eight and still loves his sleep.

QuackPorridgeBacon from one tubie momma to another. Mine is three soon how the hell is he 3 in 4 days but thankfully he only has feeds between 8 am and 7 pm these days

DS1 was like this, he slept through from 11pm until 8am at 6weeks old, had a feed and a play/cuddle/talk then a nap for 3 hours at about 11-12 noon. He would doze off for 20 min a time from about 3pm until about 7pm.

Even my Mum asked if we had drugged him

He is now a very happy, healthy 28yo.

DS2 though, never slept through until about 5yo. He was up every half hour until he was a teenager, then took to his bed like an invalid. I had to pry him out with cold flannels for school.

DS3, was a bit like DS1, but slept from 9pm until about 5 - 6am from about 8 weeks. DS3 also never slept in the car, and was very active all day. He was not as physically active as DS1, but played music from a very young age, at his choice.

SleepingStandingUp You’re so lucky lol.

I can’t belive my little girl is three in July. She’s still so little really. She’s had so many issues holding her feeds down and I see on the bare minimum to survive really but she’s getting there. Back into lactose free so a higher volume which means bigger breaks between for her. She gets six feeds a day! Sometimes (due to day to day challenges) her feeds go on late and we don’t fall into bed until after one. We’re glad she’s here though. Fingers crossed it gets easier lol

That sounds like one contented little baby.Im glad she has set her own routine that lets you get rest and things doneI don't think I often made it out of the house before 11am in those early weeks
Mine only cat napped during the day and only needed one quick feeds at night.
I didn't know about sleep regression,neither did she just decided(after a bit of ignoring for 1 night) to drop the night feed and have a nap in the morning and one in the afternoon.
I am sorry for all the mums out there having a tough time but some of us are lucky.Enjoy your baby OP and ignore those that put you down.

Tell your mum and sis to tuck off!

That will do it love

Lol sounds like people are jealous you’re not being as sleep deprived as they feel you “should” be. Your baby sounds awesome and you are doing a superb job.

QuackPorridgeBacon going on to high cal (1.5 cal per ml) was a huge turning point for us but we're also incredibly lucky he has a good swallow, it's just energy and willingness to eat after months of food being bad (bowel obstructions etc) so we do 4 feeds and only 480 ml a day plus 200 water although even that he's started to drink since Xmas so we can mainly cover our in flushes.
Hopefully the new feeds will work, I assume she's already in all the reflux meds etc. Nearly had a nreakdown last year when Gaviscon went out of stock!!!!

I think some people who had babies years ago (your mum!) forget how it is with a newborn. Of course you want to stick to a routine that works for you and baby.

Very mean of your mum and sister to start gossiping to family that you lie about in bed til 11am and calling you lazy. They're only babies for a short time so enjoy her and don't feel guilty at all.

You lost me at sleeping through at 11 weeks tbh

I think some people who had babies years ago (your mum!) forget how it is with a newborn.

^^

Oh yeeessssss.

No sleep for 18 months? Can't be that bad, can it??

Oh they are so jealous.

I certainly am, with my 7 month old whose sleep is nowhere near as good as that! Enjoy it, OP, and enjoy your wee one

Good god, enjoy it!
And stop caring what everyone else thinks!

Sounds like you got lucky with a snoozy baby!

Enjoy her OP

I think the phrase you’re looking for here is “oh bog off”.

It sounds to me like you are doing beautifully and your mum and sis are jealous. Why on earth go bitching to other family members? Are they usually foul or is this a one off?