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To be pissed off that people keep making comments about my baby's routine?.. Making out I'm lazy

94 replies

Alwayssearching · 24/05/2018 14:46

So 11 week old goes to bed 9pm.. Wakes at 7 for bottle (sometimes 6) falls asleep with the feed. Sleeps till 10-11am. Throughout the day goes two hours between bottles. And maybe has 4x20 min naps. Unless in car or pram when motion makes her sleep. But wakes as soon as stops.
She's alert and loves me playing with her.
When she sleeps till 10-11 I get up around 9 and get most of the stuff done round the house. There has been the odd one when I've laid in bed till she wakes, if not much needs doing.
People keep saying it's lazy blah blah. But I spend 95% of the time when she's awake playing etc or cuddles... There may bethe odd, quick load of laundry onceds is home from sch. Or wash up thro tee day etc.
I take her out for fresh air every day without fail. Even if just round block or to tesco.
It's getting me down. Today I tried to keep her awake after 7am bottle and she was so miserable and wanted to sleep by 7.50 am

Yes it's a long sleep she has but its not so I can be lazy :( it's a routine she's gotten herself into

Why do people have to judge

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SoyDora · 24/05/2018 15:11

My DD1 did this. Unfortunately it lasted until the 4 month regression and she never did it again (she’s 4.5 now). So make the most of it while it lasts!

Baubletrouble43 · 24/05/2018 15:12

Yup folk are jealous. You are right to conserve your energy for when she's awake. Enjoy your lovely baby and ignore them.

3luckystars · 24/05/2018 15:12

Jealously!

Enjoy your baby!

Baubletrouble43 · 24/05/2018 15:14

Watfordorleighton it's not at all uncommon for an 11 week old to sleep all night.

moita · 24/05/2018 15:15

Just enjoy the sleep. 11 weeks is so young

AmazingPostVoices · 24/05/2018 15:16

Ignore them. They are idiots.

You are happy. Baby is happy. All
is fine.

TheFatkinsDiet · 24/05/2018 15:16

Ha! Lazy?! As if you can control how much your baby sleeps and all the parents with non sleepers are doing it on purpose, cos they’re grafters. Jesus I’ve heard it all now.

Op, ignore them. They are being ludicrous.

Charolais · 24/05/2018 15:18

I can’t believe people have routines with babies. It’s been decades since I had babies but it was bf whenever, nap whenever, try to tidy up when the little nipper was napping - but to exhausted to do much. I don’t think I got dressed or brushed my hair those first months.

I ignore those people, they are jealous.

Charolais · 24/05/2018 15:26

*too

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 24/05/2018 15:32

Ignore them and enjoy your lovely baby. You may find it changes when she starts teething etc so make the most of it now! Grin

lizzlebizzle33 · 24/05/2018 15:34

Ignore them! I am so jealous of you. And they probably are too. I'm up with 2 under 2 every day at 7, and the baby doesn't even sleep through so I'm up all night too! Enjoy it while you can luv?x

Alwayssearching · 24/05/2018 15:35

Thanks. Yeah people.. Mainly family say its because I want her to be like it.. As long as she's happy so be it...
Not worried about pre school yet.. And I'm sure it won't last lol..
Bed everyday sounds good haha. But I'd feel awful if I was getting stuff done when she's awake so missing time with her..

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Trinity66 · 24/05/2018 15:36

Why does it bother you, it's none of their business, just count yourself lucky to have such a n easy baby and enjoy!

ISeeTheLight · 24/05/2018 15:38

I would have loved to have had a baby that slept that well. You're not lazy op, baby sounds to be eating and sleeping well, enjoy it!

SaltyPeanut · 24/05/2018 15:38

Your life and how you choose to live it is nobody else's business.
Your DC and how you choose to raise them is nobody else's business.

Here are a few responses for use if these people say it again:

"Did you mean to be so rude"

"What, you jealous or something"

"Mind your own business"

"You look after your kids how you want and I'll look after mine"

AmazingPostVoices · 24/05/2018 15:39

Always You are the Mum now, you are in charge.

Your Mum, MIL, Aunties, Grandmother or whoever it is that is upsetting you are no longer in a position of power.

You are your baby’s Mum. You decide.

They can hold any opinions they like and they can offer advice and that’s all fine, but at the end of the day you decide for your child.

The power belongs to you, you just have to take it.

WhiteCoyote · 24/05/2018 15:40

Sounds like you have a wonderful baby and a wonderful routine op! Enjoy it and ignore anyone who doubts it.

I would stop talking about it with people though, I quickly learned not to tell other parents my baby was sleeping through at 12 weeks. I got a few derisive and sarcastic comments from sleep deprived parents.

Ohyesiam · 24/05/2018 15:50

Who is everyone? How do they know?
Ignore everyone and live your life.

Changing a baby’s routine is really really difficult, I just went with the flow with mine. If anyone disapproved I didn’t notice.

Sounds like you are doing really well to me.

Bobbybobbins · 24/05/2018 15:55

Yanbu - enjoy your lovely little one. Mine now get up at 6am Confused

CloudCaptain · 24/05/2018 15:58

Is this a not so stealth boast? Well I am well jel. Sounds like a dream baby. Literally. I wish my first had been like yours, he had the opposite sleep pattern! Second slept a bit better but still wanted a feed every 3-4hrs in the night.

SpectacularAardvark · 24/05/2018 15:59

I'm jealous, mine never slept that long! Comments are odd though, can't see why it would be "lazy".
Why do so many people know your child's sleeping pattern intimately enough to pass comment anyway? Maybe stop telling them?

Alwayssearching · 24/05/2018 16:01

Mainly my mum and sis. It stemmed as they wanted to do something the other day with me and I said we'll dc don't get up till after, 10. So I would be ready for midday
They then told other relatives.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 24/05/2018 16:05

Well, really she wakes up at 7am and then has another sleep. So she's napping, like babies do. Your mum and you sister are being very unkind telling other people that you're lazy!

kateandme · 24/05/2018 16:06

dwelling on this rubbish is only going to hurt you hun.how silly of people to make you feel like this and is exactly how you should see it silly. not on you.on them.because this is a lovely routine.and you've done that.youve formed a great bond and beautiful child that sleeps.good on you !
so cherish it.and your dc and your routine is fine.
its yours and you like it so its fine.
don't listen don't listen don't listen and go enjoy it.
sleeping is wonderful.some people.some kids love their sleep and love their snuggly beds.yay.
don't worry.dont think any more on this.your doing great.

userabcname · 24/05/2018 16:08

OP, no matter what you do you will be judged (sadly). My 11mo is a crap sleeper and wakes for the day between 5am-6am. I am constantly being told it's because he's over/under tired, he needs more/fewer naps, he should go to bed early / later, I should ignore him until 7am /8am until 'he gets the message'!!!! Honestly just do what suits your baby and ignore everyone else. It's really none of their business. And also they sound silly - like you could 'make' a baby sleep til 10am if they didn't want to! She obviously needs to and it's working well. They are being ridiculous.