Hello.
I'm new to this but something has been bugging me and I thought I'd sound it out on here.
A couple of years ago two friends came to stay with us, bringing two more friends (theirs) with them.
Initially we all had a lovely time, but on the last night the male half of our friends had a bit too much to drink. It wasn't a problem and we all went to bed.
However, the next morning the female half appeared and said he'd been sick in the night. He had. He'd been sick all over the bed, the duvet, the mattress, the floor, the bedside table. And was refusing to get out so we could clean it.
After much effort we got him up and cleaned what we could. We took the mattress down the garden, washed stuff, etc. He then returned to the bed and lay on the slats. Where he stayed ALL day. She went off with their friends for a lovely day out. We surrendered our mattress that evening and slept on the floor. He watched us carry it from one room to the other and didn't move a muscle.
They left the next day. He never said a word. Not a word. She apologised, offered to pay for the mattress (we refused) and off they all went.
Later that day I got a text asking me to give him someone's details so they could provide him with a reference. I didn't.
We never heard another word. We half expected a card, a bunch of flowers, a cheque, but nothing.
We then discovered that he had deleted us from all his social media, eradicated any trace of us and removed all the photos he'd posted on various sites. He's very into 'looking exciting'.
His wife contacted us the other day as though nothing had happened. She gave us a quick update on their lives.
I was completely taken aback, but then started wondering: was it okay for me to feel aggrieved and want nothing to do with them? Or should we have forgiven and forgotten?
PS Their friends have stayed in close contact with us...