To be shocked...

[buttonz]

This probably sounds silly.

I visited my bank today and a man came in and wanted to walk past me (I was in a narrow corridor).

Instead of saying "Excuse me", he put his fingers on either side of my waist and lightly pinched me. I sort of yelped and he walked past me.

I really wish I had politely told him that I didn't like this, but I chickened out.

I'm making a fuss about nothing, I know, but it has shaken me.

God, we now live in a world where people can't even touch someone to move them out of the way and walk round them without them crying assault. Would it have been different if this was another lady?

Jesus fucking Christ.

"Do all of you really think a stranger put his hands on a woman and pinching her is acceptable and normal behavior?"

Who has said that? I certainly haven't.

I don’t think women tend to go around pinching strangers repeatedly.

Yes. It really is inappropriate to physically move someone out of the way. Whether it be a woman or a man. Let alone to pinch.
Good for you Op.

OP I salute you

What scum he is.

@buttonz

I'm walking away from this thread and will give no further updates.

WHY?

EVERYONE is supporting you here. Only a few have said they think involving the police is OTT.

The responses above! What decade are we living in? Did I wake up in an episode of Mad Men?

A man touches, grabs and multiply pinches a woman as she attempts to go about her lawful daily business. What are the responses suggested? Give him a good telling off! He's a bit inappropriate! That's just not on! Yell at him, angrily!

He should be arrested and charged. He should also do a short stint in prison (he won't, of course), to remind him to stop fucking well assaulting women.

We have a RIGHT, a legal and moral RIGHT to go about our daily business in peace and safety, free from the physical and verbal assaults of nasty resentful men. Period.

Verywprried, he could have touched her arm or, god forbid, said 'excuse me,' but, no, he grabbed OP.
Like it or not, it's manhandling and, as such, assault.

Massive over reaction to someone touching your waist

Assault? Battery?

What nonsense. The police really do have more important thing to do.

Also OP, in your original post, you said, he lightly pinched you as he passed, then on page 2, you said 'The man put his fingers on either side of my waist and pinched me several times.' And you also added in that he stared at you to see your reaction.

Does seem a bit like you are adding stuff to get more support.

Re; @KateSheppard 's post up there ^ I hope you are taking the piss...

Well done op.

To those that were supportive, I'm sure you understand why OP is walking away.

I'd feel utterly fucking violated by that and furious that I had let him get away with it. So even one person minimising is crushing in that situaiton, I think. OP has decided she just doesn't want to read posts talking about how she's overreacting.

I'm delighted she called the police.

Because that wasn't just someone being a bit cheeky. It's the usual fucking crap of a bloke, ANY bloke, thinking he can just do what the fuck he likes to this human in front of him, because it's a woman. About as requiring of respect as a hamster. I know, I won't say a polite 'excuse me please' - I'll just give her/it a bit of a nip to see what it does. Why not. Bit of a laugh and a feel at the same time.

I'd be delighted to be a fly on the wall when the police call.

Piece of dogshit.

Quite surprised by all the minimising going on here.

Not minimising; it's called perspective.

I think I probably would have punched him. I'm not agressive, but have reacted to other similar situations. From the age of 12 yo when I was doing a Paper Round. Until now, as a 51 yo, I get groped on the bus. And I have been known to hold up his hand in a Death Grip and ask who it belongs to, as I found it on my arse/tits/foof/ without warning.

I am also not a model figure, think typical 51 yo mum of 3 with a job and grey hair. It' just that some men have an issue with some women that is not acceptable and should be challenged.

If someone lays hands on my private areas without invitation, they need to be aware that I will defend myself.

No-one is minimising. FFS!!!!!!!! Just giving different views, opinions, and perspectives!

This thread is going batshit. With the crazy OTT reactions, and the OP changing her original story..... I'm out.

It would have made me jump and probably upset my dodgy back. If he'd done it in the months after my back surgery, it would have caused me severe pain.

It was quite possibly an innocent action by someone who didn't think but he needs to be told that it's not acceptable and that there was a boundary he overstepped so he doesn't do it again.

It is assault whether people think it's OTT or not. You can't go round just touching people like that.

You're not making a fuss about nothing and he'd have got a big 'what the fuck arr you doing?' from me.

Exactly shinycat.

I wouldn’t class this as assault. Why didn’t you say or do something at the time.

Ha Modre, I've done the same on the tube.

Grabbed the handsy hand, held it up, and enquired about the owner.

Some of the posters should acquaint themselves with words of the law, whilst they may sound outdated, assault and battery are common charges for spitting/touching/unwanted body contact. Those are the legal terms.
This lady clearly felt very uncomfortable and was taken aback and did not react at the time in a way that would have clearly showed him how she felt, so she sought advice, which is absolutely right.

shinycat

I totally am. Big piss taker, me.

What I would do is sit him down, make him a lovely cup of tea and ask what's going on with him. He's probably hurting too.

Kidding. Handcuffs and a nice time out to think about what he did.

You are absolutely not being OTT. He touched you, deliberately, when he had no need to. Fucking #timesup on these dickheads.

YANBU. He would not have done this if you were a man.

Simple.

And I really like that you have posted this.

Respect and boundaries should be equal!

Doesn't matter whether posters agree that it is an assault, the law says it is. End of. I'm with OP. Bet the police know exactly who it is and he gets away with it more than half the time. Creepy.