To be shocked...

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This probably sounds silly.

I visited my bank today and a man came in and wanted to walk past me (I was in a narrow corridor).

Instead of saying "Excuse me", he put his fingers on either side of my waist and lightly pinched me. I sort of yelped and he walked past me.

I really wish I had politely told him that I didn't like this, but I chickened out.

I'm making a fuss about nothing, I know, but it has shaken me.

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If he HAS PREVIOUS CONVICTIONS it will go to court.

No, not a joke.

If it's an "over reaction", then it's not my over reaction" - I'm just reporting what the police told me.

Thanks expat

I'm with OP on this.....those who are saying it's an overreaction

So at what point does a stranger putting hands on you stop being acceptable ? If they grab your bum? What about if he did this to your teenage daughter?
It's not right in anyway and OP was fine to report it....if this man has history of doing this it could be that's he is building up to worse of maybe targeting younger women

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Or targeting younger women and getting to grabbing and touching teenage girls!

Think before you judge!

It's battery at the very least. All done OP. I bet you have taught him a lesson.

Battery? Really?

Thanks MissCherry.

My feelings are that this person touched my body without my consent or, indeed, any warning and it was not necessary.

I think the waist is quite an intimate part of the body.

Today, I have wondered how I would have reacted had he tapped my shoulder - I would have been annoyed, but probably wouldn't have been as distressed.

The man put his fingers on either side of my waist and pinched me several times. He heard me yelp in shock, but did not react with an apology. I remember him turning to stare at me after he barged and I wonder if he was trying to see my reaction?

I guess that this kind of inappropriate behaviour may well be part of a bigger picture of harassment, or could escalate? I mean, the OP was in a building with other people, but other targets may have been alone somewhere quiet.

Hanging's too good for the likes of 'im! 50 years hard labour is more like it.

Personally, I'd have told him off very angrily at the time, as it was extremely rude of him, but I wouldn't have involved the police. It's not as if he did what Donald Trump is so proud of doing to women is it? That would have been a police matter. I'm surprised the police say it counts as a an assault, so I suppose my opinion must be wrong. Just saying what I would have done.

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He shouldn't have put his hands on you, highly inappropriate behaviour.

I do think it’s out of order, don’t get me wrong. And ideally you’d have made an example of him at the time and told him to take his hands off you. The embarrassment of that should have done the trick. He was out of line, absolutely.

Fuck me.

There is a MASSIVE gap between not telling someone not to touch you and calling the police.

What on earth made you do that?

This is so weird that my first thought is he mistook you for someone else. He probably cringed himself inside out.

Not being unreasonable at all. I would be annoyed if someone I KNEW did this.

Not sure what you can do about it now, but YANBU to be irked by this. What a cheeky tosser!

Didn't notice the update.

I reported him to police and they will check CCTV, get his name and address and (if they are satisfied with my version of events after watching CCTV) either issue him with a caution or, if he has previous convictions, arrest him and there will be a court case.

The police say it is definitely an assault.

What he did was cheeky and rude, but that 'action' and the consequences are a bit OTT.

I agree with very worried a bit ott, im sure the man wouldnt have meant any harm, and definitely a waste of police time

I'm with OP, don't let him get away with it.
I think they can get away with it too often because of the surprise and the confusion in our minds about what to do. I sat there in shock when a man touched me on a bus - pinched my thighs eek (I was only 16, had never given it any thought, and didn't think I could shout in a public place) I walked around to the police station, cried, and the police went looking for him. He had previous offences and a very distinctive look. I didn't have to go to court myself but the police phoned to say that he went back to prison. Still makes my blood boil now when I think about it though. They're so entitled.

I'm stressed enough about this enough and so I'm walking away from this thread and will give no further updates.

Thanks for those who were helpful.

well done OP not OTT at all, men are not entitled to touch us like that- it's (at the very least) a clear signal of dominance, both his hands on your waist is very different from touching you on an arm

If you go around touching people inappropriately I guess you run the risk that there might be relatively serious consequences for it.

I would say it's assault. He put his hands on you and pinched you. Fucking nerve of the guy.

I don't feel you overreacted at all. Hope he learns a lesson from it. Keep your hands to yourself!!!

Quite surprised by all the minimising going on here.
Yanbu. I would have been shocked too. Depending on my mood I would either had been surprised silent or given him an earful.
Do all of you really think a stranger put his hands on a woman and pinching her is acceptable and normal behavior?