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To tell the new TA that her skirt is see through

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 17:59

I go into my ds class X2 a week to help hear them reading. We had a new TA start this half term and about 5 times since she started she's worn this tight long black skirt. Up until the recent warn weather she'd worn tights and I hadn't noticed but now she's going barelegged I have realised her skirt is literally see through when she bends.. so see through that I could see the pattern on her underwear today! I'd want to know if it was me, but I'm not staff, I don't really know her and I would feel weird talking to the class teacher about it! Should I say something?

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gamerchick · 23/05/2018 18:00

No and stop looking at her bum, someone might notice Grin

Luisa27 · 23/05/2018 18:01

No I really wouldn’t

At least she’s wearing knickers 😂

NoTNoShade · 23/05/2018 18:02

Just wait until she has interesting knickers on then say ‘oh, where did you get your watermelon knickers? They are lovely.’

pasturesgreen · 23/05/2018 18:02

I really wouldn't say anything.

MagicFajita · 23/05/2018 18:02

Maybe she knows but doesn't care Smile

Seriously though , if you don't know her well then I'd leave it. Management will point out any dress code issues in staff briefings.

Eatalot · 23/05/2018 18:03

You seem like you would love to put her in her place. Jealous?

QuoadUltra · 23/05/2018 18:03

Er, no. Way out of what’s appropriate for you to comment on.

Carolynnnna · 23/05/2018 18:04

This happened to me years ago at school. A boy came up to me and said "you're wearing polka-dot knickers". I had no idea my skirt was see-through and was very glad I'd found out (first time I'd worn it).

Aridane · 23/05/2018 18:04

Actually, I would probably mention in a low key way. I was grateful when someone pointed this out to me

LivininaBox · 23/05/2018 18:04

Perhaps it will encourage girls in the class to do cartwheels without feeling the need to wear shorts under the dresses.

WorraLiberty · 23/05/2018 18:05

Nope, not your place.

TERFousBreakdown · 23/05/2018 18:05

I'd want to know if it were me. Speaking as the woman who accidentally flashed a former boss and has been wondering about that one promotion ever since ... Blush

FullOfJellyBeans · 23/05/2018 18:06

Definitely don't say anything.

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 18:07

No not jealous why on earth would this be motivated by jealousy that's so weird? I'd just want to know if it was me. Yes I should stop looking at her bum but in a class with tiny chairs it's a bit difficult when somene in bending down on your eye level! The library corner is laid out as such that she's usually right in front of me when selecting books.

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BeeFarseer · 23/05/2018 18:07

I'm agog at some of these comments. Why wouldn't you mention it to her, in a nice way?!

Do it at the end of the day and pretend you've just noticed, to save her some embarrassment.

I would be grateful if someone did this for me.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 23/05/2018 18:09

I think those of you saying no are being a bit odd. You’d all be happy with wearing a skirt until a child mentions they can see your knickers, and realising this has been going on for weeks? Confused

Honestly it seems a bit mean spirited to all snigger behind your hands at the TA who doesn’t know her underwear is on show because you don’t want the momentary embarrassment of telling her. It’s this attitude that sees someone walk round with a button popped on their shirt and not one person mentioning it, and them only realising when they see a mirror. Mortifying.

OP, if you don’t want to tell the TA directly, tell the teacher.

Allthebestnamesareused · 23/05/2018 18:09

Wow - what happened to sisterhood?

Pull her aside discreetly and say I am pretty certain you can't be aware but your skirt is see through. I certainlybwoukd hope someone would tell me

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 23/05/2018 18:10

Or what @BeeFarseer said! Grin

OneStepSideways · 23/05/2018 18:11

I would want to know!

Just have a quiet word with her. 'I couldn't help noticing your skirt is see through when the light shines on it. I thought you'd want to know' (with sympathetic awkward smile so she doesn't feel you're being mean).

FuckPants · 23/05/2018 18:11

You seem like you would love to put her in her place. Jealous?

WTF?

You're projecting so much you should be a cinema.

I'd tell her, she might not be aware.

MagicFajita · 23/05/2018 18:13

If you do decide to tell her , don't do it at the beginning of the day , she might be uncomfortable all day if she was unaware of it.

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 23/05/2018 18:15

The poor woman might have no idea, and chose black because she felt it was safe. I would tell her, nicely.

bridgetreilly · 23/05/2018 18:15

I would definitely want someone to tell me if my skirt was see through when I bent over! Do it nicely, and as a pp said, at the end of a day.

Rainydaydog · 23/05/2018 18:17

She might never notice herself since it has to be in a certain lighting/position and you wouldn't see it in a mirror.

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 18:18

Oh gawd..I am going to have to tell her aren't I? :) Poor kid, she's young and I think it will be really embarrassing. I have had similar traitorous leggings in the past and was glad when my husband told me, it's that material that looks ok til they're stretched!

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