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To tell the new TA that her skirt is see through

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 17:59

I go into my ds class X2 a week to help hear them reading. We had a new TA start this half term and about 5 times since she started she's worn this tight long black skirt. Up until the recent warn weather she'd worn tights and I hadn't noticed but now she's going barelegged I have realised her skirt is literally see through when she bends.. so see through that I could see the pattern on her underwear today! I'd want to know if it was me, but I'm not staff, I don't really know her and I would feel weird talking to the class teacher about it! Should I say something?

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GnotherGnu · 23/05/2018 18:20

I too can't see any reason whatsoever why you wouldn't tell her. It's perfectly possible to do it in a nice way. I'd certainly want someone to let me know if someone could see through my skirt, especially if I were working in a school.

sonjadog · 23/05/2018 18:20

Yes, tell her. I work with kids and have had colleagues run after me in the corridor to tell skirt is tucked into knickers, something is hanging down, etc. Always glad to be told.

SarfE4sticated · 23/05/2018 18:21

I can't believe the kids haven't told her!

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 18:23

There's an idea, maybe I could prime DS to do it! :D (not a serious suggestion!!)

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RedHelenB · 23/05/2018 18:23

Surely other staff have noticed and will tell her?

Pengggwn · 23/05/2018 18:25

Speak to the teacher. You're not in a management role so it probably isn't appropriate to say anything directly, but she definitely needs to know.

JessicaJonesJacket · 23/05/2018 18:26

Why hasn't the teacher told her? Confused
Also am I the only person who finds it odd that OP can remember the other times the TA has worn the same skirt but with tights? That wouldn't register with me at all.

Shiftymake · 23/05/2018 18:26

TERFousBreakdown Grin

Blueemeraldagain · 23/05/2018 18:26

I would mention it to the class teacher if she’s a class TA or the librarian if she’s a library TA. They have a closer relationship with her and can probably have a word more discreetly and with it being less awkward.

user7469322 · 23/05/2018 18:26

Could you leave an anon message on her car ?

BlueJava · 23/05/2018 18:27

If it was me I'd want to know. I think do it quietly and at end of day. A bloke told me my shirt button was undone the other day (in a nice way) I was very grateful.

fearfultrill · 23/05/2018 18:31

One of the kids will comment on her knickers when she's wearing funky patterned ones and the situation will be sorted!

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Motherofajuggernaut · 23/05/2018 18:32

JessicaJones. I hadn't really registered it that much, I just noted she wears the same outfit fairly often,
her top that she often wears with it is quite bright and I had mentioned to her how much I like the colour. theabout 5 times was a loose guess. I just know she's worn it before and it's only this last twice (this week and last) that I noticed the transparency . I am making the assumption that she's previously worn it with tights because I hadn't noticed the pants before. It's one of those things, now I have seen it I can't stop seeing it!!

Now, I sound creepy.. I'm far too invested in this clearly😆

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sonjadog · 23/05/2018 18:33

Dont leave her a message. That would make her paranoid. Just go up to her next time you see her and say you noticed that her pants her very visible under that skirt today, and did she know? And then make some general comments about summer and lighter clothing and underwear. Job done. It doesn't need to be a big deal.

Lulu1919 · 23/05/2018 18:33

I’d want to know !
I am a TA

LouiseCollins28 · 23/05/2018 18:34

IMO no you shouldn’t, not the right thing to be saying if you are not a fellow member of staff.

Emmageddon · 23/05/2018 18:34

I am always grateful when some kind person tells me my skirt is tucked into my knickers/I have a streamer of toilet roll attached to the sole of my shoe/I'm exposing way more cleavage than intended when buttons have come undone.

Tell her!

C2205 · 23/05/2018 18:37

I'd definitely want to know but I'd be so embarrassed if a colleague had gone to another colleague and got them to tell me.
I really think you should have a quiet word at the end of the day.... Don't go to the teacher - she'll then think she's been talked about (which is true) and would be so embarrassing for her!

chocolateworshipper · 23/05/2018 18:37

You're projecting so much you should be a cinema Grin funniest thing I've read on MN for a long time

I mention it in a quiet and nice way to the teacher. Hopefully they have a good relationship and she'll take it better from the teacher.

ApocalypseNowt · 23/05/2018 18:41

Please tell her.

Happened to me on a night out. Was grateful to be told and spent the rest of the night dancing with my back to the wall or scuttling around with my jacket tied round my waist.

On reflection visible pants would have made me look less like a loon...

KittenBeast · 23/05/2018 18:41

if it's only when she's bending, I doubt she's noticed, as people don't tend to bend over to have a look at their arses in the mirror. I'd just leave it.

lecossaise · 23/05/2018 18:43

I'd tell her, but don't tell her on a day that she's actually wearing it, because she won't be able to change and that would be awful!

Prestonsflowers · 23/05/2018 18:45

@fuckpants
That is the funniest comment I’ve seen on here

Violetroselily · 23/05/2018 18:46

Some of these responses are bizarre.

I’d want someone to tell me and it will be better for it to come from you than one of the kids

sonjadog · 23/05/2018 18:46

I don´t know why posters think she will take it badly. Would you take it badly if someone told them your underwear was visible at work? Would you not be grateful that someone told you?