To ask what are the main differences between you and partner.

[dawnmist]

I know gender conditioning will play a part, but what way do your brains seem to work completely different to each other?

To start, I'll say my memory is hugely superior to his, it amazes him the small irrelevant details of an occasion from years before. I also cry at silly things, he never does. I know that could be possibly that we're two separate human beings, but maybe not always? Anyone like to share theirs?

I'm a lot more organised and tidy than he is - he's not dirty, but he just dumps things where they land and can never find his keys!

He's much more practical than me - he's amazing at any kind of DIY and is doing up our house completely on his own.

He's really forgetful and both myself, his mother and his boss have to repeat things about ten times before it sinks in!

I'm a neurotic over-thinker, he sees through all the shit and makes accurate judgements. (His ability to be right could be annoying, but I actually love it.)

He listens to the worst music ever created. He seems to take a mad pleasure in shunning anything popular and seeks out the worst crap possible. My musical taste is amazing.

I love meeting new people; he hates it.

My family are close-knit and fiery, his is distanced.

I measure ingredients, follow recipes and use the kitchen timer. He goes with his instincts and creates lovely stuff in a slapdash manner that drives me nuts.

The cat worships him; I'm just the mug that feeds her.

I am very organised and plan ahead. He doesn't.
I am much softer with the children and with people in general.
I ask lots of questions and like to find out all the details about a situation. He will just say something like "Oh, such and such at number 37 is dead..."

DH thinks on his feet much quicker than me, he can size up situations quickly, although I read people much better (clearly demonstrated when our house was on the market recently). His sense of direction is excellent, mine really isn't, I'm better at geography and where places are. I'm more sociable and strike up conversations anywhere, he'll be the one sat on the flight reading with earplugs in, I'll be finding out my fellow passenger's life story (only if they want to talk!). He gets annoyed a lot easier than I do, he doesn't know what to do if someone is upset, I do.

I'm real

My DH is super sensible and risk averse. I'm more fly by seats of pants. He's very detail orientated and I'm big picture. He's not emotional at all. I'm Mrs Daydreamer.

I'm struggling to come up with major differences...

DH is a much faster reader than I am, and a much more voracious reader. Then again he tends to stick to the genres he's really into, whereas I'll read whatever I happen to get a passing fancy into.

DH is more patient, reads through instruction manuals and gets things done in a logical manner. I'm more likely to give it a blind shot, get frustrated and declare the whole thing impossible in a huff.

DH is an animal whisperer and will do anything for cats. I like them all well enough, but won't sit still with a cat on me, if I don't feel like it, and really more just co-exist rather than worship.

On the whole, though, we have much more in common than differences.

He's always too hot and I'm always too cold. He opens all the windows in the house and I follow behind him closing them all. Last night I was in pyjamas under the duvet and was still cold whilst he was stark naked on top of the duvet complaining it was too warm.

We totally disagree on Brexit but bizarrely voted the same way at the last election (for the first time in the 18 years since we met!)

He faffs for Britain. The DC and I are regularly sitting in the car for ages while he HAS to polish his shoes/Harpic the loo/decorate the house. I just go and forget my keys/phone/purse

There are loads more but I love him dearly!

DP is quite anxious and stressy whereas I’m smiley and so laid back,most of the time. His childish ex made some nasty comments about me on Facebook and I was comforting him!

He has a crap memory but mine is good.

He has pretty poor handwriting whilst mine is neat (he has a very good reason but he’s so self conscious)

He plays at being the big tough guy when really he’s a sentimental softy.

He’s better at being an adult than I am!

Oh, I’m vegetarian and DP lives on shitty meat.

DH has a better memory for facts than I do - he's a pub quiz legend. I have a better memory for events. He's very quiet and stable and good at things like doing the accounts. I'm more outgoing and better at stuff like turning the house into a welcoming home. We're both good cooks and cook from fresh all the time. He's about a foot taller than me so better at reahcing for stuff on high shelves, and I'm better at sewing - his huge paws are good for threading needles.
I'm better at making decisions and getting on with stuff. I can weed an entire garden in the same time it takes him to weed a metre of flower border, or tidy the entire house in the same time he takes to tidy his desk. He's a hoarder. I'm a chucker out. He's way better at driving than me and has a beautiful singing voice. I can't sing in tune.

@marcopront - that made me laugh.

My DH doesn't think ahead at all. In some ways this is an advantage because he doesn't stress. Ever. Whereas I do. In others ways it really annoys me because he doesn't consider small things like arranging a day out or major things like what he is going to live on when we retire (my pension).

I have aspergers, he's neurotypical.
I like sewing, painting, creativity, he doesn't at all. Apart from writing, we both like that.
I'm rubbish at sports, he's good at all sports.
I like programmes and reading about psychopaths/serial killers/personality disorder, anything about what makes people tick.
I need time alone to recharge, he needs to be around people.
I have a good sense of direction, he gets lost walking out of a shop!
I can't do left and right, he can and finds my directions confusing, especially as his sense of direction is crap!
Fortunately I can remember what he said five years ago and he can't in an argument. I'm good with the words and he's not, in an argument.
He loves researching family tree, whereas I find seeing all those dead families depressing.

I am white, he’s black
I’m middle class, privately educated
He’s working class, state educated (but cleverer, higher achieving and MUCH higher earning than me)
I’m a shrew he’s always calm
I’m expressive he’s phlegmatic
I’m crap at friendships he’s great at friendships
I’m tallish for a woman he’s shortish for a man
I have hair, he’s completely bald.

He is amazed by my ability to know where everything we own is. He doesn't get that there is a sort of map in my head, and that I can easily place items on it.

He also cannot cook at all, whereas I understand flavours well and can easily put together a delicious and healthy meal from nearly bare cupboards.

I am amazed by his ability to understand how things work, take them apart, fix them and put them back together. I don't have that at all.

He is much less sociable than me. He has no desire to spend ages talking to people, doesn't care about people in general apart from us.

He is extremely disciplined when it comes to diet and exercise, whereas I fight every day to eat the right things and maintain a low weight. I just want cake and chocolate all the time.

He doesn't see dirt. He pulls his weight 100% in our home, but just doesn't notice that some things need cleaning. For example, he will do the washing up, clean the sides and hob, but not notice the windowsill is grimy from the washing up liquid etc and needs cleaning too.