To ask what are the main differences between you and partner.

[dawnmist]

I know gender conditioning will play a part, but what way do your brains seem to work completely different to each other?

To start, I'll say my memory is hugely superior to his, it amazes him the small irrelevant details of an occasion from years before. I also cry at silly things, he never does. I know that could be possibly that we're two separate human beings, but maybe not always? Anyone like to share theirs?

He's happy.......

I'm glad he's happy, just wish I was too.

I like to plan he's more of an off the cuff kinda guy. He doesn't think much of my planning, he sees it more like micro managing.

At this precise moment the main difference is that I wouldn't forget to get the sweet and sour sauce and he's an infuriating pain in the tits! He's also on his way back to get the sweet and sour sauce he wouldn't have forgotten if he wasn't an infuriating pain in the tits.

if you feel the need to stomp on others joy have you considered bereavement coucelling?

What a thing to say to someone you thought was recently bereaved! Just as well marcopront was actually being lighthearted...

when DH and I got married in 1977 many were convinced it wouldn't last because we were so very different, personslity and character wise.
However over the years we have grown together and I would say we have very similar attitudes and agree on most things.
Apart from football, he is an Arsenal supporter and I support Spurs!

Either that he is very relaxed and I am a nervous person. Or that my emotions seem to be very heightened whereas he doesn't show a lot of emotion

He enjoys talking to people, I hate it. I would say he is more extroverted than I am. He is more untidy than I am and has verryyyy annoying messy habits such as leaving vegetable peelings and packets all over the worktop and leaving his shoes in doorways... We enjoy some of the same music but he also likes what I would refer to as ‘chav music’ so D&B, house, trance etc whereas I prefer jazz and classical. He likes football and I can’t stand it.

I mean, really that is as far as our differences go. We share political and religious opinions which are probably the biggest conflicts of interest to me.

I can laugh at myself

He can't

He’s creative,artsy
I’m not

I'm organised, he's not.
He's messy, I'm tidy.
I stress, he doesn't.
I'm fiery, he's laid back.
He has a brilliant memory for places, I can remember names & numbers.
He's a lark, I'm an owl.
He's a dog person, I'm a cat person.
We're a good team.

He’s a spontaneous wild child and I’m a sensible old fart. I suspect that if I were to be the spontaneous wild child, then he would become the sensible old fart.

DH is practical and enjoys fiddling about with stuff to see if he can mend or break them. I just go out and buy a replacement.

I am tidy, organised, remember dates and DH would forget his head if it wasn't screwed on and his two areas of the house the garage/workshop and his hobby room look like we have been burgled. Rest of house is tidy and clean generally.

I am a thinker, enjoy reading and dramas and comedies on tv and enjoy the theatre, walks and national trust properties. He watches endless programmes like QI, car programmes and train programmes and has to be bribed with a pub lunch to go on a walk.

For all that DH is funny, kind and we do have a laugh together.

He has a terrible memory and mine is excellent.

He is extremely kind and generous. It’s not that I’m not those things but they aren’t natural to me. He’s made me a much nicer person.

He is extremely affectionate and soppy. Me? Less so...

His mood is much more up and down than mine, and is much more affected by physical things like hunger and tiredness, which make him very grumpy. I'm very even-tempered.

He has a good memory for events and facts. I have an appalling memory for events but an excellent memory for words.

He is extremely confident, quite blunt and 'take me as you find me'. I'm quietly confident but much more diplomatic and non-confrontational.

I'd say he has more in the way of stereotypical male traits than I have female ones (I am pretty ungirly, not very emotional, almost never cry, not at all touchy feely etc).

He has a willy and I don’t.

Funny, my DH is great at remembering details from years ago, and cries at sad films and weddings

I cant remember what happened last Wednesday

I am messy, he is tidy.
I see dirt, he does not.
He is physically strong, I am not.
He has short legs, I have long legs.
He is confident with strangers, I am not.
He gets on and does stuff, I prevaricate until the last minute.
I am intuitive, he is extremely academic.
We share a sense of humour, say what we feel and never huff, have a hatred of diy, love of the arts, same attitude to money and belief in our kids😊

She has a voracious appetite for book learning that I can never match. So she's always reading, and is usually studying for some random qualification or another, so she's far more qualified than I am. But she only seems to know things she's studied! It's so weird sometimes. Like:

• She's OK at using a computer, because she did the ECDL and some of the advanced modules. But my skills are way beyond hers because I tinker and I Google. She does neither - if it wasn't on the course, she can't do it and asks me to.
• She did something quite specialised for undergrad degree, but sometimes I know things in that area that she doesn't, and she's always surprised and wonders how I know them. The answer is usually that I read a newspaper or online article that touched on it.
• She doesn't piece things together. You know how once you've learned A, B and C, you can figure out D? Yeah, she doesn't do that, D had better be in the book too.

She has a fantastic work ethic. Always does everything that needs to be done before she takes time for herself. I'm terribly lazy and have no self-discipline whatsoever.

She's super organised and plans everything in advance. I don't make decisions about the future until I have to, and sometimes not until too late

She's a massive worrier. I'm totally chill. Probably too chill.

She's really into travel and seeing the world, or more day-to-day, at least getting out and about. I'm a total homebody and would spend my holidays at home given the choice.

Don't know why I bothered to name change for this, she'll totally recognise us when she reads this anyway

He is super loyal and steady and I can be a bit pie in the sky and flaky.

He has a terrible memory and mine is reasonably good.

He has great drawing ability and I definitely do not.

But mostly...I have great self esteem and his is rock bottom. That is probably the crux of most of our disagreements.

I don’t need to “keep up with the Jones” He can’t see a new fence or car or front door without insisting we need one too.

He's very very laid back and slow at getting ready to go places, takes his time and doesn't mind if he's late.
I am wracked with anxiety about being late for things and stress over when to get up, how long to shower for and how long it will take to get there. I'd rather end up 30 mins early for things and have to wait than be late.
His faffing about when we had to be somewhere stresses me to the max.

He's terribly sentimental, and cries easily.

I am better at remembering to close cupboards.

DH is shit at directions and map reading but brilliant at remembering left and right.

Snap! I'm a good map reader but get my left and right muddled up.

He's an owl, likes to stay up late and sleep in, I'm up with the lark and early to bed.

He's tight careful with money, I'm given to impulse spending and don't mind paying more for good quality stuff.

He's got a fantastic memory for names and faces, but doesn't recognise places, I'm the other way round. (We once got chatting to a man in a pub, whose little girls were very taken with my dog. When we left, I commented that I was positive I'd met him before, he was very familiar. He was the actor, Mark Williams.)

He attacks jobs in a really random fashion, and never clears up afterwards. I work out what order to do things in, and always put the tools etc away. He's a really messy cook, I clean up as I go and never leave a mess.

God knows how we get on, we're so different. But we have a very similar sense of humour, and laugh at each other's "odd" ways.

He's much neater than me, he always puts stuff back in the rightful place. I drive him mad with my messy ways. He never slings his clothes on the floor before getting into bed either, unlike me.