I know talking about inheritance is a really uncomfortable subject, which is why I'm asking for opinions on here rather than voicing it to my family. I don't plan on making a big fuss but I'd like a bit of perspective.
I have three sisters and I'm the oldest. Since childhood I've had a bad relationship with my father, though this has improved in the last few years after I moved out. As a child/teen he would go out of his way to embarrass me and give me a hard time. As a teen I suffered from terrible anxiety (still do) and depression, and he didn't help with some of the things he did to humiliate me. I had a really bad stage where I stopped going to school because of the anxiety.
My dad also has mental health problems, and he would say I was the cause (the stress with my anxiety). After his parents died he spoke with his aunt every day on the phone, slagging me off and twisting things so she would feel sorry for him for having such a 'difficult' daughter. I couldn't do anything right. Even years later, I went to university, for a job and tried to make something of myself, I'm still painted as the devil.
My dad's aunt (my great aunt) has no children or family, so became closer to my dad after her husband died. She also started showing an interest in my sisters, and invited them all to stay with her separately (she lives up north and we are in the south). She has never invited me. I asked why and my sister said it's because she thinks I would cause problems after what my dad has told her. She last saw me when I was 14 or so.
My dad and his aunt have many conversations about her will, which I have overheard while he's been on the phone with her when I'm there. I've been told by my sister (who is the second executor on my great aunt's will) that she is leaving most of her estate to my dad, and £20K each to my sisters. She's leaving me nothing, and my sister said it's 'because of my behaviour and stressing dad'.
I know people can do what they like with their money, and tbh it's not even the money I'm upset about. It's the fact I'm singled out. I don't even think I'm a bad person - yes, it must have been hard for my parents to have a child with the anxiety problems I had/have, but they have problems too. It's the fact my dad has spent years bad mouthing me and twisting things, and I just don't know why he would do that to his daughter. Sorry this was a bit long, obviously it's her choice re. Her money but I feel like an outcast in the family.
AIBU?
To be upset over no inheritance
rainrainrainrain · 22/05/2018 19:06
Your Dad is an utter bastard! Seriously, who the hell does that to their own child? I'm not sure I could show much respect or affection for any one of them, your sisters included for allowing that bitchiness to continue uncontested. I honestly am a believer better to be without family , than family like that. Sorry 
My parents discussed cutting my brother out of their will it's a long story with wrongs on both sides but me and my other siblings all agreed that was not the right thing to do and my parents would regret it... better to let go than be bitter and better to do the kind thing than not, thankfully they have kept him in their will.
They sound like horrible people and I'm sure they don't deserve you 
Hi op. What a horrible situation. There is nothing you can do about the will but you could consider very low contact if you're reluctant to cut ties completely. Money can be incredibly divisive. I've been in a similarish situation recently but with me being the party offered more money. If bit actually happens I'll be distributing it more fairly. But as pps have said, it could all change. Be kind to yourself, you deserve better than they have treated you. 
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