How to respond to ndn asking for money

[bedhead12]

NC for this - Every month or so neighbour asks me for money for their bills along with a sob story of how they've spent the last of theirs and have no money to feed their 2 kids....

Not sure why they think I have more money than them to be lending out but this is really draining me as I feel awful saying no and feel really awkward the next time I see them... I have explained I am not in a financial position to help but the requests keep coming, what do I do?

I wouldn't even say "that sounds terrible" or similar. She's asked a few times now - I think it's appropriate to move to straight up "look, stop asking me for money, you're bang out of order". As harshly as you can. She's clearly not getting the message as it is.

Don't get into redirecting them to food banks or anything else as that engages you with the so called problem.

Firm no and don't ask again

I have this problem with my dp's family. Every week one of them asks for money if not more than one. We are not well off and don't have that much more than they do but they are careless with their money, don't see why this is our problem and it causes fights as apparently don't get a say in it!
We earn basically equal amounts of money and share everything so I stuggle to see why I shouldn't get a say!
Don't lend them money if you expect it back as you probably won't.

'We earn basically equal amounts of money and share everything so I stuggle to see why I shouldn't get a say! '

I'd stop sharing everything with such a partner.

expatinscotland
I have considered that but other factors make this extremely difficult. Believe me I would love to!

You need to stop being nice and get angry.

"STOP ASKING ME FOR MONEY!"

(Slam door shut)