AIBU carpool mum seems to be unkind to my DS

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I don’t want to overreact but my DS who is 9 came home crying yesterday after the carpool mum automatically closed the rear-boot door and he hit his head. I am sure this was unintentional but she did not apologize to my son or even get out the car to help him when this happened.

He often tells me that she doesn’t like him and won’t greet him when she picks him up. I thought maybe he was just being sensitive. However after what happened yesterday I feel that she is being unkind. AIBU or sensitive?

Tempted to just cancel the carpool.

Cancel it OP. It is not kind of her to be so dismissive of the feelings of a small child. I really think she sounds horrible. Who on earth would be like this to a child.

Cancel.

I used to do a carpool and tbh if you don’t need to they can sometimes be a pain in the arse even when things are going well and there are no problems.

Having to go home in the car with an adult you think doesn’t like you is horrible at the end of a long school day .

It sounds like a minor issue - a small amount of discomfort for a short period of time.

But for a young child it can be very stressful. Mu daughter has anxiety and this would really upset her.

I would cancel if you can.

Good for you for cancelling. It is horrible to be forced to be with an adult that doesn't like you.

I used to car pool. Whenever it was my turn I played the good tunes louder so the boys could sing along, I chatted to them and asked about their day etc. If they had spelling test or times tables test I quizzed them and wished them good luck. This is what I would expect most people would do.
When the car pool ended I found out from my ds that the other Mum moaned the whole time about having to do it and kept saying she couldn’t wait for it to be over. My ds said he felt really uncomfortable and if I had known I would have ended the arrangement.
You are doing the right thing Op.

Sounds horrible for your kids

Don't let her talk you round.