She says addiction, I think I'm being healthy.

[Onthewrongsideof30]

My best friend made a comment on a night out to our greater circle of friends...... oh '30' has a completely addictive personality, look at her with exercise that's a completely unhealthy relationship. I never for one second thought I had an unhealthy relationship with exercise, I thought I was just keeping myself fit and based by other fitness threads on here my activity levels are normal. HIIT - 5 days per week, 5km park run Saturday (longer run on top if I can), one interval training session in the evening. I always try to rest on a Sunday. Who is right? When is a hobby an addiction?

I have an addictive personality and have gone through phases when it's been exercise. As PP's say it's not the exercise or the amount per se, it's how you feel when you're not doing it. I used to feel a real, deep sense of failure when I skipped a session and plan my life around it more than I should have - this was when I realised it wasn't just exercise, it was more of an addiction.

No but they may feel guilty that they're doing nothing.

I'd be more concerned she aired this to everyone else and not privately. Think you've unwittingly touched a sore spot. Does your mate struggle with exercise? Seems envious. Life permitting I've done that much before and i would say i do have an addictive personally but addiction is so much more complex then volumes

Yes to all who have said that if she was genuinely concerned as your friend, she would not have aired her opinion in public.

During my MH problems, my very good friends have taken me aside and shown genuine concern.

I think it depends how it affects you when you don't do it.

Is your 'friend' jealous, envious, spiteful or maybe just one of the growing(every pun intended) number of people who eschew ANY exercise in favour of lazily letting themselves get so large that they have to invest in a Mobility Scooter to simply get to the local shops?

Send her this link
eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2018-05/f-lei051718.php
Tl/Dr... you don't exercise your brain and body will rot

That’s so interesting @ohfortuna. So often, I hear that there’s no point focussing on exercise when you’re overweight (I am, just a smidgen overweight, but I’ve just had a baby in fairness and it is just a smidgen... excuses, excuses ). This week I’ve been trying to fit in some decent strengthening and conditioning except every day. I’ve only just started and I already feel so much better. Dieting makes me miserable, but exercise makes me feel fantastic. I know I need to do both, but it’s interesting how much difference exercise seems to make.

*exercise

OP

I reckon you know you have a problem. I have read your mumsnet history.

I don’t think anyone said anything to you. I think you started this thread because you wanted people to tell you that you are working out loads and loads, to make yourself feel good about what you are doing.

I know this because I think I’m obsessed with exercise, so I relate.

ohfortuna you are really nasty.

I'd be more concerned she aired this to everyone else and not privately.

Definitely this, whether or not she's right about OP and exercise her intentions in making this comment weren't good. A concerned friend doesn't try to embarrass someone in front of a group.

How does that article relate to the op? It's already be shown many times over that exercises is vital for health, that's not what is being discussed surely? No one is disputing that. Exercising and watching diet and weight as obsessively as the op is not healthy however.

I have a similar exercise regime to OP and run several marathons a year, as well as other races. I am undecided on whether it is an addiction or not but I think on balance it’s been healthy for me mentally and physically.

I think there can definitely be a risk it dominates everything else in life but I try to do it very early before the kids get up, even on the weekends.

It sounds like there is an element of jealously from your friend, OP. There’s not much you can do about that and I wouldn’t let that be a reason for changing. I try not to talk too much about it with work colleagues or friends because it invariably leads to them telling me I am mad.

Provided you are not putting your health/body at risk or putting a strain on key family relationships I would carry on regardless.