She says addiction, I think I'm being healthy.

[Onthewrongsideof30]

My best friend made a comment on a night out to our greater circle of friends...... oh '30' has a completely addictive personality, look at her with exercise that's a completely unhealthy relationship. I never for one second thought I had an unhealthy relationship with exercise, I thought I was just keeping myself fit and based by other fitness threads on here my activity levels are normal. HIIT - 5 days per week, 5km park run Saturday (longer run on top if I can), one interval training session in the evening. I always try to rest on a Sunday. Who is right? When is a hobby an addiction?

[1099]

Hi OP - Your updates seem to have missed or avoided the question, if you were told you couldn't train for a week, how would that affect you? Could you do it or would you be out for a sly run or a quick visit to the gym. There was documentary about this a while ago which stuck with me because these people simply couldn't function if they hadn't 'trained'

[bizzers]

I do weights and cardio and always make sure I have 2 rest days a week, 1 doesn't sound enough with all of the exercise you're doing IMO - just make sure you aren't over training! Do what feels good for you though!

[FindoGask]

"Do you have a job that doesn’t need work bringing home in the evenings?"

hell no! I couldn't exercise in the evenings. Once I'm home, I'm home. I exercise in the mornings - I get up earlier than would be deemed sensible by most people, but it works for me.

[Thewhale2903]

Where do you find the time? I would lobe to be able to do this level of exercise. My partner is hardly here due to work and football commitments so I might aswell be a single parent!
I would love to be able to lose a bit of weight. I'm not heavy and I have a decent diet just can't fit in the exercise as much as I wpuld like

[MarshaBradyo]

I found it easy at work as I went to the gym at lunch or ran home which was a good distance across London

When people say how would you feel if you couldn’t, I’m not sure it’s that bad to feel jumpy or annoyed. I would have merely because I was used to doing it and felt good

No where near addiction / withdrawal however

[Thewhale2903]

I don't understand why people call it training. What are they training for? They are exercising, unless you are an athlete that trains for an event you are not training

[TaytoAllDay]

Not an addict at all! This is healthy and you have great motivation, don't mind her.

[Onthewrongsideof30]

I had to taper for an event recently, so took my foot off the gas accordingly. No guilt stress or frustration.
I don't bore on about it, never have never will.
I work in a high pressure role full time, I balance my work well and fit training around work/home not the other way around.
If I had to take a week off for no reason I'd be pissed off because I love it and I've worked bloody hard to get here plus it's my stress relief.
When I was sick I took a dr ordered week off, but after the week was up I was chomping at the bit to get back. But my boss wouldn't let me as I still had a cough.

[Bowlofbabelfish]

It’s not about the amount you do it’s about the impact on your life.

If you can’t go without, feel guilty etc there’s an issue. If you’re checking out of family life to do it there’s an issue. If you’re leaving your partner to look after the kids far more than you look after them there’s an issue. If it’s happening to he exclusion of other behaviours and having a negative effect on your health that’s an issue.

I lived with someone who did way, way more than that - we are talking 4 hour hill runs on a weeknight, every weekend and every holiday taken up with running that took days and left us no holiday. Out from dawn to dusk at weekends. Total addiction.

That’s addiction.

[ConciseandNice]

Bearing in mind your posts, it sounds perfectly normal to me. I’d say when I have an event round the corner I do more and nobody accuses me of it! I’d say she’s jealous/can’t understand why people exercise/ you talk about it too much. You’ve said you don’t do the latter so I’d go for jealousy.

[FindoGask]

TheWhale training sounds better. More impressive.

But in all seriousness, I think it's appropriate to say 'training' if for example you're weight training or doing other exercise that is partly about honing a skill as well as just moving your body.

[TheOrigRightsofwomen]

Since when has a boss being able to tell you what to do in your free time?

[Strongbeatsskinny]

I wouldn’t say your addicted you just like to be active. Your friend is envious of the dedication you have to exercise to keep you body healthy and a healthy heart.

I don’t think you do to much either I train weights x5 a week ,hot yoga up to x3 a week and hiit x2 also own dogs so most days I’m walking and hitting 20k in steps without trying.

[lottiegarbanzo]

So why do you think she said it?

Addiction is more about how you do things and how not doing them affects you, than what you do. So telling us your timetable is mostly irrelevant. And of course you're fine about tapering for an event - tapering is part of the preparation for that event, it's a part of exercise, not something separate from it. You had the event to look forward to.

Do you think you have an addictive personality? You haven't answered that question.

Thewhale (that sounds an unflattering choice of nn for yourself!), it's training for a race or event but also training your body to do things that it couldn't do before.

And, sounds like you'd find the time if your DH shared the family's spare time with you, instead of taking it all for himself.

[VladmirsPoutine]

Rather odd that your boss "wouldn't let" you. Why did you need to outsource a decision that is pretty much common sense? Not only for your own health but for those who would be in the same vicinity. The more you post the more I think perhaps you do have somewhat of an unhealthy relationship with your fitness regime.

[Bowlofbabelfish]

I read it as her boss wouldn’t have her back at work while she was still sick, not that her boss was interfering in her excercise

[Onthewrongsideof30]

@TheOrigRightsofwomen we train together and I train during the day at work. It's nothing about sounding impressive @Thewhale2903 it's the correct term when your in preparation for an event. Completed my last one on Saturday. Now training, not exercising towards my next event. All amateur, but still events correct me if I am wrong ......

[Onthewrongsideof30]

Oh and to clarify it was a light hearted convo with the boss ...... not serious !

[Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow]

You exercise daily?
That’s normal!

She is jealous.

If I don’t exercise I feel grumpy - that’s normal too as I have a stressful life and job. I also exercise on holiday as I remain active most days. I’m a healthy weight.

I think it’s a UK thing to think people who exercise daily are “obsessive”.

We are a lazy county hence why so many people are obese

[ScrumpyBetty]

Your schedule sounds very ...rigid (for want of a better word).
Do you ever take a day off from exercise during the week? Would you feel guilty doing so? If you had a day you were really tired and actually just wanted to rest, would you be able to give yourself a break or would your mind go 'but it's Wednesday, I have to do my cardio session'?

[LionAllMessy]

Lots of people say this kind of thing and it clearly stems from their own insecurity/perceived failings – there is nothing even slightly unhealthy about what you do.

[Thewhale2903]

lottiegarbanzo
Haha I made this account 5 years ago when I was very heavily pregnant, should maybe change it
Yup that strikes me aswell, it has been a very large problem in our relationship since out children can along.

[MarshaBradyo]

I would ask people not to schedule work meetings at lunch and get irritated if they did. Because it was a great part of the day and I was looking forward to it

Still no where near addiction

[ScrumpyBetty]

cakedyoulastnight- yes to some exercise every day is normal and healthy, yes that's great. Exercising 4-5 times a week with some rest days thrown in is also goog.
Life is about balance. Can you take a day off from exercise if you feel tired/unwell without feeling guilty about it? If so, crack on.

[TheOrigRightsofwomen]

I didn't think you were trying to impress, just wondered what rule allowed a boss to forbid someone to exercise during their free time.
That would really annoy me.