AIBU to ask partner to take DD to appointment??

[RaquelWelch]

AIBU here? I work four days and travel into work (1 hour each way). Partner (can't bring myself to call him DP today) works for himself, from home, and can pretty much do as he wishes, for example, this Friday he is having a golf day, so no work for him. DD has medical appointment at 6pm today and Partner was due to take her. This morning, before I left, he asked if I was going to leave work early and take DD to appointment. I said, no, as he would be at home. He told me I was selfish and that he has to do everything! He does no other drop offs, I do all the clubs during week, on my day off and at weekends. He said all I care about is my job (not true) and that I should leave work an hour earlier. I get this a lot from him. AIBU??

maclippy you do realise what cf means right!
I smell double standards 😅

You know nothing about me, @maclippy I have 2 DDs who are not hooligans. They're adopted with attachment issues and DH and I are doing our best for them. And my parents were abusive to me (in a victim of SA at the hands of my abusive father and I have a fractured relationship with my mother.

So leave my family out of it.

maclippy

@lizzie48 I am not spouting s. You must live in a ghetto. I would be shocked if you didn't as you are swearing at and about strangers on the internet!*

I agree, fucking shit would sound much better. Lizzie ignore the obvious gf.

Stand your ground OP and call him on it each and every time he does it. He's acting like a self important wanker.

Op, of course you're not being unreasonable. He needs to step up, his DD comes before golf. Very selfish of him to not put her first.

Cheers for the reports - as you were, folks!

I’m sorry maclippy seems he’ll bent on derailing your thread OP. I’d think your partner was pretty unreasonable if this was a new-ish relationship and DD wasn’t his, but as her father he’s being v unreasonable.

Thank you for all replies. Except Maclippy! When I got first reply from her I wasn't holding out much hope, but the rest of you have restored my faith! I have got a lot better at sticking up for myself in regard to these issues from him and it does seem to be working. No longer a doormat x