In laws implying my Royal Wedding food made their DC sick!

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Invited BIL, SIL and their DC (primary school age) to watch the royal wedding on TV, play with our DC etc, and stay overnight at ours. Spent ages on Fri eve/first thing saturday making nice food: posh sandwiches, nibbles and biscuits for lunch/ceremony watching, also bought a handmade, iced cake from the local baker. Later (6.30ish) served a hot, home made evening meal for both adults and DC, and ice cream for DCs’ desert.

On Fri they’d been in touch to say one of their DC had vomited first thing, gave us the option of cancelling, we presumed DC had a bug and said fine to still come if DC well enough.

DC were all in bed around 9pm. At 10ish last night their younger DC woke up and was sick.

This evening BIL sent a text saying DC was now fine and “we don't think it was a bug as DC was back eating and fine today. Maybe DC had too many cakes, crisps and e numbers during the day”

I think the text was really rude and am offended and pissed off. Feel it implies that my food was junk!DH thinks the text was just seeking to reassure and that IABU.

So as not to drip-feed, they are sometimes anti-sugar, in other family members’ houses (eg if desert is served) but also have lots more sugary stuff and junk food in their house - for adults and DC - than we do. There have been some past incidences of them putting DC vomiting down to “overeating” or “something that disagreed with them” and just turning up with unwell DC without letting us know. This time is different as they did notify us so we knew DC likely had a bug.

I think people use 'eNumbers' as shorthand for 'junk/party/sugar/processed' food.

Don't be offended, it sounds to me that they were simply suggesting that DC ate too much of the fun stuff and suffered as a result. It was also hot yesterday and possibly the sun didn't help.

So one kid had been sick before they had even eaten any of your food? And then the other one gets ill and they want to blame it on the "e numbers" that you served? I think they were being rude. If they've got previous for being smug about sugar etc, they're probably always looking for opportunities to blame everyday illnesses on its evils

I don’t think it implies your good was rubbish, I think it implies their kids was greedy.

Guess it’d be better for everyone if they are right! But am still affronted.

Sun / heat not a factor, DC mainly indoors, in a well ventilated, north facing room!

Is there really such a thing as a posh sandwich?

I'd nopt read too much into it, probably a slight touch of sun stroke if anything

Posher than usual! Bakery bread, butter, naice ham, smoked salmon and such!

Whereas would usually be dairylea, medium cheddar and pickle.

The DC had the cheddar at their request.

i agree with you, they were rude and accusatory.
however, i wouldn't just sit there and stew about it.....i'd have text back "nah, you're out of sync - sounds like they got the same bug their sibling had the night before..."

There is nothing to be offended about.

They aren't saying your food was hideous and made their child sick.

DS2 gets boaky when he eats to much stuff he doesn't get every day - It's not personal.

Why are you still affronted? I don't think you like them very much.

I do really like them! I am annoye because it’s obvious that DN - who has no history of sickness and didn’t actually have lots of sweet stuff or crisps - was sick due to having caught sibling’s virus, but rather than accept the facts they are implying that the food I served was “junk food”. They also have form for negativity about my and others’ food.

YANBU I find them ridiculous and the text offensive. They are trying to pass over their shoddiness at keeping their own family bug contained, to you.

What happens now if everyone goes down with it? Did all the enumbers affect everyone? If so there is already someone lined up to blame. And it’s not their lack of hygiene - oh no - in their pre-prepared stance, it’s you!

My ILs and PILs do this too. Once 14 of us went down with a sickness bug on a family holiday. PIL (who started the bug) kept insisting we “all got too cold.”

Far more likely to have been siblings bug.

DS1 (12) does have a habit of vomming tho if he’s over indulged so if DN had over eaten it’s possible.

E-numbers comment was a bit rude tho and I can see why you’re annoyed.

The message is a bit rude.

Thanks would have been nicer. Concern for your family catching the bug would have been ok too.

Passive aggressive shite about junk food is ungrateful.