Third time marriage

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Has anyone here married for the third time? In your late 30s or early 40s? Did you have children with your new DH?

90% of me doesn't want to have more children, because I've already got 3 DCs and they will be late teens at that time and I don't want to start over again. But then there's that 10% who wants to have a child with him , our own child. Something that we have together, if that makes sense?

You are the eternal optimist

I think 10% feeling in favour is probably too small to go for it tbh!

I said never again but am engaged for the third marriage. I do not want more children though

Children and babies can put a strain on any marriage. If I were you I'd enjoy the freedom of being able to go out, or away on a whim.

Sorry OP, but I can't help but think of Ross in friends

You can get a dog together. Or a hobby. Or create a garden.

Don’t overrule your strong (“90%”) inclination NOT to enlarge your family for a silly reason like that.

Yes enjoy the freedom you don’t need a child to bomd you together or you would still be with your exes.

Besides which, you can have a much more glamorous, exciting time together without the tie of small children. You’ll be entirely responsibility free in a few years. Think of the travel, nice restaurants, theatre trips, extreme sports (or whatever) you could do together.

I've never really understood the need to breed with every new man that some women seem to have. A 10% desire isn't enough imo but what does he want?

Can i point you innyhe direction of katie price kerry katona and natasha hamilinton

Three husbands a piece, kerry has children with 2 children each with her first two husbands and pne with her 3rd

Get a hobby together, at least then when it goes pear shaped you'll still have that rather than a child of a broken home.

So sad that a child is seen as an item to bond a couple together, obviously doesn't work given numerous marriages.

Okay ..... why is does it appear to be more socially acceptable to have 3 or 4 long term boyfriends but not 3 or 4 husbands?

Social norms won't change until then rave people do what they actually want .... it's true what they say 1 voice / person can change the world... take it how you will!

Marry and have more children as long as everything will be made with love ...

Be happy 😊

Because boyfriends and girlfriends are very different from marriage.

With marriage you make vows until death do us part, numerous marriages indicates that those vows aren't taken seriously whatsoever. The constant need for a new marriage complete with new child would be a huge red flag.

With marriage you make vows until death do us part, numerous marriages indicates that those vows aren't taken seriously whatsoever

That kind of depends on why the marriage broke up I think.

You’ll be entirely responsibility free in a few years. Think of the travel, nice restaurants, theatre trips, extreme sports (or whatever) you could do together.

This is exactly why 90% of me don't want any more children.

You're all right, I should be happy with what I got. And just to clarify, I married my first husband at 19, no kids. Only lasted a year, with my second husband I had 3 DCs. So I only have DCs with one man.

Do you think it’s not a proper relationship unless you have a child together?

How old are you?

I married dh number 4 when I had dc and we have 1 together.

Nope 10%:is not enough to bring a child into the world, it's 100% or not at all imo. Enjoy your marriage, which ever number it is, and use your minds to create a bond

Huge apologies if I’m wrong, but you’re not the poster who’s just run off with another bloke you met whilst running, are you?

I’m just out of my second marriage & at the age of 39 with 2 dcs def don’t want any more kids. I’m not sure I’ll ever get married again as the last two experiences have obviously been less than ideal but I suppose never say never.

I understand how you feel, it’s how I felt with my second husband, we did have a child together & now I really wish we hadn’t. I’d just enjoy your new relationship/marriage for what you have together.

I understand your want for a marriage, but not for another child. I am on my second marriage. My first was age 18-23 and borne two children. This time I don't want children. We both agree that we have the freedom and adventure that comes with being child free when the children are with their dad.

You don't need to have a child with every man you go out with.
Just enjoy the relationship.

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Okay ..... why is does it appear to be more socially acceptable to have 3 or 4 long term boyfriends but not 3 or 4 husbands?

No judgment at all on the husbands, just don't think having kids on a 10% inclination is a good idea!