Third time marriage

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Has anyone here married for the third time? In your late 30s or early 40s? Did you have children with your new DH?

90% of me doesn't want to have more children, because I've already got 3 DCs and they will be late teens at that time and I don't want to start over again. But then there's that 10% who wants to have a child with him , our own child. Something that we have together, if that makes sense?

I have been married 3 times.
First at 21, ended in divorce 3 years later after his affair with my friend.
Second when I was 25, we had 2 dc together then he died when I was 42. The dc were 12 and 16.
Third when I was 43, he was 51. He had 3 teenagers and I had two. We had none together, took no precautions but it didn’t happen. The 5 dc got along well, all lived with us before uni as their mum moved abroad.
We have been very very happy for 30 years now. All dc married happily with dc of their own. The grandchildren cure any residual broodiness !

Does how your kids will feel being presented with a half-sibling not even feature in your decision?

I had two children when I got with my now (3rd) DH. We had another three together! I would never have thought I would have any more, but that's how it worked out for us.

90% of me doesn't want to have more children

Trust your gut, it seems to be sending a very clear message about what you want. There's all sorts of ways to cement a marriage besides having a child together.

Thank you so much for your replies.

There's that teeny tiny 10% of me who feels that being married and not having a child together is not a proper family, sad I know. I know I'm being silly, and it's ridiculous.

Given the number of women on MN struggling with infertility, that’s not silly, it’s downright offensive.

'who feels that being married and not having a child together is not a proper family,'

What an awful way to think about your dc

Third time not necessarily lucky

I do understand how you feel. DP and I don’t want more DC but I do want something for us to love together if that makes sense. We’ve just moved house and if that doesn’t give me that feeling I think we’ll end up with a dog!

So was your first marriage not a proper marriage op?