To wonder why dd doesn't want to join our family data storage?

[Niamhanna]

We've purchased a 200 GB storage plan on apple for our iPhones. Our younger daughter has joined it, but our older dd (aged 18) is refusing to, saying it's an invasion of privacy and she wants to keep her phone completely separate.

AIBU to wonder what she has on her phone that she wouldn't want us to see?

Not only does she not want you to see her private stuff you don't want to see it trust me. Were you never an 18 year old girl?

She's absolutely right. Why should she? She seems to have a better grasp of digital security than you do.

Seeing as no one on the thread agrees with her, I’m assuming that the OP has now vanished and won’t be coming back

She's an ADULT. Why do you need to know what she's doing online?
I hid plenty from my parents at that age, mostly my sex life but I wasn't in the wrong, just an adult who is entitled to privacy.

YABVU! I wouldn't like this now! My messages between me and my friends are private, I don't want the whole family reading them. And my teens would laugh if I suggested this!

Does the OP know that, given that her question was[...]

No idea but its evident that most of the respondents here don't and haven't checked.

I wouldn't use any unencrypted storage, no matter who I was or wasn't sharing it with. She's being perfectly sensible.

Sounds like she's against the whole idea of cloud storage not just using the same storage as her parents.

Her concerns are real and she probably understands much, much more about encryption and data protection than you. Why don't you ask her to explain her concerns about cloud storage to you? You might not want to use it either.

Really, this is her business and not something you should be worrying about. She needs boundaries and privacy. The fact you find it odd / sinister makes me worry that you are controlling and intrusive in other areas of her life as well. Please don't be, it can have a lifetime effect on your relationship with her and her trust in you.

If you don't know what encrypted means then you probably haven't got the right storage for you , let alone your daughter.

Buy her her own storage and leave her be.

She's 18 and an adult ,that's why

YABVU. Your DD sounds eminently sensible to me. I wouldn't agree to it either and no, I have nothing to hide.

She's an adult - her data, her choice. If you don't even know what encrypted means she is absolutely right to refuse.

Well she's 18 so whatever she has on her phone is none of your business.

If it is not encrypted then it is alot more easily hackable. Also shes 18 not 10