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Royal wedding: disappointed at all the nasty MN threads

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TwitterQueen1 · 20/05/2018 07:55

I saw two 'positive' threads - one on Camilla, one on Charles. All the others (that I saw) were pretty spiteful and unpleasant, alleging or implying:

  • Kate tried to upstage Meghan by wearing cream (which was actually lemon)
  • Several royals were 'unable' to look at the happy couple whilst they were saying their vows
  • Kate really wanted to marry Harry herself
  • Elton looked very rough and his wig was awful
  • Victoria B is miserable and po-faced
  • David B - 'nuff said
  • Harry's outfit looked like PJs and he should have shaved
  • Meghan was afraid of being upstaged by adult bridesmaids to chose to have only flower girls
  • Meghan's dress didn't fit well
  • Meghan is going to get restless in a few years and flit
  • apparently there's a lot of 'hate' for Meghan
  • all the guests, including Harry, would be guilty of drink driving after the reception

At the risk of sounding like Pollyanna, and regardless of whether you're a royalist, republican, communist, whatever, I think it's a shame that people looked for the negative and nasty on a day of celebration.

Can we have some positives? Here's mine: William looked relaxed and confident and was obviously a huge support to a very nervous Harry.

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MrsDilber · 20/05/2018 11:58

I've many a negative but I've kept my mouth shut. A positive is that her veil looked amazing. Oh and Windsor was magnificent too. All that history. Henry VIII is buried in that church.

Spudlet · 20/05/2018 12:11

I'm going to echo a PP and say well done to the rider of that grey horse. He did an excellent job of keeping an antsy horse contained and controlled in front of a huge crowd. A great many riders would have had those reins short and that head cranked in, but from what I saw he used his seat, kept his hands light, and did a lovely job, IMO. I thought all the horses looked great, really fit, happy and healthy.

All the humans looked nice too Grin

Piffle11 · 20/05/2018 12:12

I'm sure there are some positive posts on MN, but I've just clicked on AIBU and there are several mean ones … I've ignored them and come to you! I agree with you, OP. I thoroughly enjoyed watching the wedding, and thought that everyone looked like they were having a lovely time.

IfNot · 20/05/2018 12:14

I don't think she needed a friend to walk her down the aisle. I liked that she went solo.
I wonder if Doria went alone because it's just safer. Whoever she had accompanying her would have been in on the whole shebang (private Royal family moments) and maybe she decided it was too much of a risk to her daughters privacy in case they blabbed. Or maybe she could only pick one person and had to be diplomatic and avoid Ill feeling.
I can think of loads of reasons.
Anyway, everyone is entitled to an opinion (I really don't care for massive weddings and they didn't need to have one) but it's hilarious the number of posters writing with such certainty about Meghans grasping and cynical intentions. It is entirely possible that she isnt the embodiment of evil yanno!

SusanneLinder · 20/05/2018 12:38

ikeepaforkinmypurse
I didn't take your post the slightest bit personally. I just think it's ridiculous to assume that people are jealous because they don't like something.

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 20/05/2018 12:42

which is not what I said at all, we are talking about the pure nasty posts, not the ones having an opinion.

auditqueen · 20/05/2018 12:49

A lot of nasty jealous women on here

Ahh the good old jealousy accusation towards anyone daring to criticise the Royal Family. I am, have always been, and always will be, a republican. There are a lot of us out there and I'm betting there will be even more when we have King Charles.

I don't object to a celebrity wedding; but I do object to one which costs the taxpayers of this country a lot of money that apparently we can't afford when it comes to public services

I don't object to rich people; but I do object to one family receiving an obscene amount of money from the taxpayer.

The Royal family do bring out the hypocrites in force - they object to a family receiving paltry benefits in order to keep a roof over their heads and their kids fed, whilst cheerfully supporting our govt paying for this family to live in idleness and luxury.

auditqueen · 20/05/2018 12:56

I found this interesting from a hive mind perspective

And if you look at the media it has all been relentlessly positive and fawning. This is the only place where those of us who have questioned the fact that we have paid for this as a nation and questioned the existence of this unequal society have been listened to. So when you speak of hive minds, you have to look at the other side as well.

We are allowed to debate this. We foot the bill.

mydogisthebest · 20/05/2018 12:57

I did see a couple of negative threads but, on the whole, most threads and posts have been positive.

Obviously we all have different taste and just because I think a dress is gorgeous doesn't mean I expect everyone else to. One of the dresses many picked out as liking a lot I wasn't keen on at all.

I loved the whole wedding. Windsor looked wonderful, the weather was glorious. A handsome groom married his beautiful bride. I loved her dress, her veil, her tiara, her very natural make up and hair.

I loved the fact that they spoke to each other throughout the wedding and held hands. I loved the fact that you could see they are totally and utterly in love and I so so hope that love continues.

I thought all the guests looked good, some a bit better than others but all had made an effort and there were no glaringly awful outfits.

I loved seeing all the celebs arrive. Idris Elba looking drop dead gorgeous. Seeing the Suits actors arrive seemed sort of weird

I loved the gospel choir and the song Stand by Me was so appropriate. The preacher did go on a bit too long but I loved that he was so passionate and also loved the faces of some of them listening to him (Elton John, Charles and Camilla were all stand outs for me).

Most of the time I am very proud to be British. Yesterday I was extremely proud to be British. We can do pomp and ceremony like no other. Ok not everyone's cup of tea but I loved it all. I actually wished yesterday that I had gone to Windsor to watch and be part of such a special day. I could have waved my Union Jack flag too (from the Olympic games).

I thought yesterday's wedding was so much more enjoyable to watch than Kate and Williams

Carycach100 · 20/05/2018 13:06

I think you will find any bitterness towards the event is more likely to stem from the tastelessness of a massive display of immense wealth and privilege at great cost to the tax payer at a time when schools and NHS budgets have been slashed, rather than 'jealousy'

Trooperslane2 · 20/05/2018 13:09

I just posted about this.

I know they are rich and privileged - get over it. Accident of birth for H and i don't know enough about M to comment.

I loved that they looked so natural, so nervous and so mad about each other. He was so gentle and specific when lifting her veil.

I hate that so many people on MN just were dying to rip them to shreds and I also post that I was so glad that none of you fuckers were at my wedding :)

I am Irish, Catholic athiest and I am no royalist but I just hate that people on here are so desperate to rip other women to shreds. It's really sad.

Especially when on the flip side you fucking vipers can be so unbelievably supportive

TSSDNCOP · 20/05/2018 13:12

I had a thread that ran for 40 pages which was lovely.

I thought it was a terrific wedding, Meghan nailed it with her dress and demeanour, it was absolutely evident that Harry thought he’d won the lottery and she had her lovely Mum and her friends with her just as she wanted.

Good luck to both of them!

GrannyGrissle · 20/05/2018 13:25

I for one have zero interest in these vacuous parasites and find the whole royal wedding repulsive given the state of the country (homelessness and poverty/treatment of disabled and ill/an NHS fit to collapse etc etc). Just too much like rubbing peoples' noses in it. I don't understand all the simpering forelock tugging idiocy.

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TwitterQueen1 · 20/05/2018 13:30

auditqueen We are allowed to debate this. We foot the bill.
Yes of course. That wasn't the point of this thread at all. I said there were a lot of nasty threads, eg accusing Kate of trying to upstage Meghan. That - and the other ones I've listed above - have absolutely nothing at all to do with discussions around the monarchy as an institution or how much they cost taxpayers / bring into the country.

TSSDNCOP I don't know how I missed your thread! I'll try to find it.

Carycach100 not sure how you can blame the royals for NHS under-funding....

It was a beautiful wedding, filled with sincerity and genuine love and affection. I'm not a dressy person but even I, in my usual black leggings and baggy top, loved looking at all the amazing colours and dresses and hats. The rev was powerful and compelling, the gospel choir gave me goosebumps. The whole ceremony fortunately lacked the somewhat tense atmosphere of William's and Kate's. This one was relaxed and warm.

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TroysMammy · 20/05/2018 13:36

Regarding the nasty posts. I read on MN people asking why they've not been invited to weddings, been blanked by friends, not included in family holidays, children not invited to parties and playdates etc etc. Well perhaps there is the answer, you're not the nice person you think you are.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/05/2018 13:49

I do like all this casual “we foot the bill”. The tax-payer foots the bill for security, certainly, which is admittedly huge. But the royal family paid for all of “the private elements of the wedding”, it says [[http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-44154438 here])

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/05/2018 13:50

Link fail:

www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-44154438

Bearhunter09 · 20/05/2018 13:53

But the thread I started on Meghan mum was 100% positive. Everyone agreed Doria is amazing

Bearhunter09 · 20/05/2018 13:54

And yes hats off to the rider of the spirited grey Windsor!

Confusedbeetle · 20/05/2018 13:55

It's not cool to bitch, it's unpleasant. The last two years have been difficult in this country starting with the nastiness that came out after brexit, Manchester terror attack, racist repercussions, Grenfell Tower, hate repercussions, Westminster Bridge, The press whipping up supposed generation conflict, )I see more of this on MN than in real life, where the baby boomers are helping the millennials as much as they can. This was a happy day in a beautiful setting and a feelgood for so many people. Take all the bitching away please. I am no monarchist, and am not slushy, but please let there be good news

SayImADreamer · 20/05/2018 14:01

@TwitterQueen1
"It was a beautiful wedding, filled with sincerity and genuine love and affection."

What are you on about mate? How the fuck would you know? Thats not a rhetorical question by the way.

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TwitterQueen1 · 20/05/2018 14:10

Clearly this thread is not for you SayImADreamer

I saw it on the TV. It looked beautiful to me - the flowers, the dresses, the hymns - all of which I've said above.
Filled with sincerity and genuine love and affection - did you see the looks between H&M? between William & H? Doria's face? Charles' demeanor walking down the nave? The laughter from the boys holding the train? It doesn't take a genius to see real affection in any of these...

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Carycach100 · 20/05/2018 14:23

the royal family paid for all of “the private elements of the wedding”,

what does that mean? Which elements class as 'private' and which public/state Most of the guests will not be 'private' they will be people they have to invite.So I guess their portion of the costs will be met by the public, likewise anything seen on TV is not 'private'. So what was private expenditure apart from Doria's plane ticket and the bride and grooms underwear!

auditqueen · 20/05/2018 14:27

the royal family paid for all of “the private elements of the wedding

And who funds the royal family?

Yup. Us.

Onceuponatime21 · 20/05/2018 14:27

Echoing a pp who echoed another pp, yes that rider did an amazing job, was fab watching that. To stay so calm and in control despite horse seeming to want to be elsewhere was brilliant. Thought they must have a great relationship.