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Was I precious or am I right to be fuming

39 replies

Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 22:07

At a wedding tonight....not the royal one Grin
Dd is really looking forward to playing with her cousin. We arrive and her cousin is ill. She had been sick before coming and looked awful. She was then sick all over the floor and they just wiped it up.
I felt really angry that they brought their dd to the wedding when she had a sickness bug and I spent the night trying to keep dd away from her.
She just sat on the chair falling asleep, she looked awful. Her parents were up dancing just letting her sit there Angry
It totally ruined my night tbh.
Aibu to be angry?

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kissthealderman · 19/05/2018 22:08

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Knittedfairies · 19/05/2018 22:10

That poor little girl, dragged off to a wedding when she probably just wants to curl up in bed.

SootyandMathew · 19/05/2018 22:10

If it ruined your night because you're worried about DN, and other guests then YANBU.

If it ruined your night because your DD is upset then yes, you're being very precious.

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 22:12

Nobody seemed to give a shiny toss that they could potentially pick up the bug.

There was a baby crawling around the floor after she had been sick ffs.
Dd and I pick up everything and I spent the night anxious and paranoid.
I obviously felt bad for dn too as she was clearly needing to be in bed with pjs on not slumped over a chair in a dress feeling like death.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/05/2018 22:12

Selfish idiots.
Why has it ruined your night?

Singlenotsingle · 19/05/2018 22:13

Poor little girl

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 22:15

Because I had to keep dd away from her constantly when she was trying to play with her and comfort her. I didn't want dd getting the bug or anyone in my household to get it as we are prone to bugs.
I also felt bad for dn too.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/05/2018 22:16

Tell your DN's parents how irresponsible and selfish they are. Maybe they might think on next time.

BrutusMcDogface · 19/05/2018 22:16

Poor little girl! I would be cross top about the spreading of germs, but most importantly would feel so sad for the girl whose feelings were obviously bottom of her parents' priorities! AngrySad

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 19/05/2018 22:16

Hər parents are a bit arse holey for dancing around while their child is not well.
However you are being a tad precious about your DD catching a sick bug. I know it's not nice but bugs are everywhere.

SneakyGremlins · 19/05/2018 22:20

She should be tucked up in bed Sad

FullOfJellyBeans · 19/05/2018 22:21

YANBU. Totally unfair on their DD and on everyone else at the wedding, who the hell does that?

Imbluedabadee · 19/05/2018 22:23

Poor little girl Sad

Melliegrantfirstlady · 19/05/2018 22:24

How old were the kids? This is important here

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 22:25

7 and 8. And a baby around 10 months.

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bazingabazinga · 19/05/2018 22:26

Selfish idiots.
Why has it ruined your night?

Because their daughter, presumably, was trying to play with the sick child and you know what children are like. It would’ve been a nightmare trying to keep them apart. Plus who the fuck takes a sick child to a wedding??

GabsAlot · 19/05/2018 22:26

poor kid being dragged to a wedidng

very selfish

sockunicorn · 19/05/2018 22:35

I was due at my cousins wedding today op. My DD got sent home from school yesterday vomiting. Not vomited at all today but had a temp and was pale.....so I didnt go!!!

YANBU. its irresponsible and puts a mark on the happy couples day. I wouldnt do it.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 19/05/2018 22:48

DH got flu (proper can’t-stand-up flu) on our honeymoon because a guest showed up with it. YANBU

SundayGirls · 19/05/2018 23:00

You're not being precious, it's selfish behaviour towards their DD primarily and then all the wedding party.

Sick bugs can spread really easily. SO WHAT if you're concerned that your DD would catch it, that's normal parental concern in my book rather than "preciousness" on your behalf which a PP has accused you of.

So tiring this liberal attitude often encountered on here that people shouldn't be allowed to feel annoyed or compromised or worried about the impact a situation would have on their own DCs or themselves, like it's "nicer" to just accept a sickness bug for your DD or it's somehow "rude" or precious to mind.

Glumglowworm · 19/05/2018 23:05

YANBU

Poor little girl dragged to a wedding when she's not well! And seven is old enough for some kids to be really embarrassed about being sick in front of everyone, which just makes it even worse for her

YANBU to want to avoid your DD getting it. Yes bugs are everywhere, but the risk from every day life is much less than from playing with a vomiting child! Your DD is sweet for wanting to comfort her, but it would probably end up with her catching it and then you catching it off her.

LockedOutOfMN · 19/05/2018 23:13

Incredibly selfish to bring a sick child to a wedding both for the child and for other guests who are prone to catching the bug such as elderly relatives etc.

For the OP I would say try to explain to your DD that DN probably wants to be left alone and is not up to playing but they can get together for a play date/sleepover at half term or in the summer holidays. YANBU.

ShakeShakeTheMuffin · 19/05/2018 23:14

It pisses me right off when parents take vomitty children to events. They should be at home. Don't care what occasion they're missing. Please do report back in a couple of days letting us know how many people got sick.
YANBU.

Storminateapot · 19/05/2018 23:21

That's really awful. Her parents probably had her bugs all over themselves too, would have kissed the bride & groom and potentially ruined their honeymoon for them.

Kids have an uncanny knack of getting ill at the most inopportune times, but it's part of parenthood that at those times one of you has to stay home with them and miss the event rather than a) infect everyone else and/or b) make your poorly child feel even worse.

arethereanyleftatall · 19/05/2018 23:26

I know you should never judge what other parents do, each to their own and all that...but this is one of those situations that I just don't get. What parent makes a poorly child sit there ill and miserable, so that they can dance??

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