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Was I precious or am I right to be fuming

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 22:07

At a wedding tonight....not the royal one Grin
Dd is really looking forward to playing with her cousin. We arrive and her cousin is ill. She had been sick before coming and looked awful. She was then sick all over the floor and they just wiped it up.
I felt really angry that they brought their dd to the wedding when she had a sickness bug and I spent the night trying to keep dd away from her.
She just sat on the chair falling asleep, she looked awful. Her parents were up dancing just letting her sit there Angry
It totally ruined my night tbh.
Aibu to be angry?

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Sparklesocks · 19/05/2018 23:30

YANBU!!

I remember years ago I went to a family Xmas party and a relative insisted on bringing her DS who had just had norovirus. As in..the day before! She insisted he was fine..and wanted to have him at the party so he didn’t miss out!
My mum and I ended up getting very ill, possibly the worst norovirus I’d ever had..we ended up sleeping on the upstairs landing next to the bathroom as the back and forth to/from our beds was too taxing and we knew we’d be back in the bathroom again shortly. It was hell! It was so bad we ended up holding hands on the landing.

Haven’t quite forgiven relative for it tbh. A few other people also got ill (including an elderly relative) and it was a nightmare. Very selfish to expose us to it because she didn’t want DS to miss out..

GabsAlot · 19/05/2018 23:31

hope youtold her sparkle how ill you all were-how bloody selfish

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 23:32

They said oh it's just cause she had too much to eat yesterday. Three times the child vomited at the party and she had no energy the poor soul. It was more than obvious it was a sickness bug.
Just can't get over the selfishness of them.
If my dd was that poorly, I wouldn't go and that would be the end of it.

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Sparklesocks · 19/05/2018 23:34

Yes Gabs she got an earful, the whole family were very annoyed! She’s a bit of a floaty/earthy type who is very laid back/chilled so I don’t think she really cared!!
But yes nasty experience, funny how you can still remember those things so clearly!!

Hope DD and family are all ok DP!

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Martinimonster · 19/05/2018 23:37

Sparklesocks that sounds horrific! So selfish. I bet you and your mum were fuming.
Dd and her cousin are meant to be spending the bank holiday together on Monday as I'm working and their nana is meant to babysit them together. I'm going to use a holiday from work and just watch dd myself.
Not only do I hate when people bring their sick kids to events I hate when people don't follow the 48hr rule.
It's shit when you end up with a sickness bug but if you can prevent it you should.

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MumofBoysx2 · 19/05/2018 23:38

That's really bad, poor kid. Basic practice - keep the kid at home and stay to look after them. It's not rocket science.

WindDoesNotBreakTheBendyTree · 19/05/2018 23:51

Nobody seemed to give a shiny toss that they could potentially pick up the bug.

So there's your answer. No-one else minded.

I'd never take mine out if they were actually throwing up, but I am very unbothered by other people's kids doing so. My lot are quite hardy, though.

WindDoesNotBreakTheBendyTree · 19/05/2018 23:53

Dd and her cousin are meant to be spending the bank holiday together on Monday as I'm working and their nana is meant to babysit them together. I'm going to use a holiday from work and just watch dd myself.

Why? She's unlikely to be poorly in a week's time

Lougle · 19/05/2018 23:56

Tbh at the age of 7 or 8, your DD is old enough to be told not to go to her cousin because she's feeling poorly, so give her some space and stay away. So you can keep control of your DD, and although you're absolutely right about her parents bringing her in the first place, risking infection of guests, I'll reserve my sympathy for your niece.

Patienceofatoddler · 20/05/2018 00:03

As someone who has just take a week off work with a sickness bug which really knocked me for 6 (and my 3 year old and my 22 month old) which was initially picked up at a wknd away at Center Parcs last weekend I would be fuming!

NHS guidelines clearly say 48 hours no vomiting/ no symptoms before returning to work / school etc so why any parent thinks this is acceptable I don't know.

There's so many people who are especially vulnerable (elderly / diabetics / immune deprived) where a sickness bug would leave

Yukbuck · 20/05/2018 00:11

Why? She's unlikely to be poorly in a week's time

I thought the same at first but am now guessing op is not in the UK.

Iftheshoefits · 20/05/2018 00:20

How selfish-poor kid. Even if it was cos she ate too nuch (yeah right! ) they still should have taken her home. Just cruel. Not only that-t's like when people send their kids into school sick and the whole class gets it!

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Martinimonster · 20/05/2018 16:50

I am in Scotland there is a bank holiday next week but our schools are off tomorrow Angry don't get that....
Anyway....it turns out today that not only has dn got worse she now has it coming out the other end too.....but my mum is expected to babysit tomorrow, they knew full well that my dd is also coming along too. I've now had to take a holiday from work at short notice so that dd doesn't catch the awful bug. It's basically my problem now. I had childcare all arranged with my mum weeks ago yet I'm the one that has to change my plans when my sister should be the one saying her dd is sick and contagious so she should be calling into work and using a holiday not me.
My parents go on holiday in a few days too. I can't understand why they won't just tell her to jog on.

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8misskitty8 · 20/05/2018 19:24

Tomorrow is a holiday for schools were I am in Scotland due to it being Victoria Day.

Op your sister is very selfish. Your parents will probably catch the sickness/diarreah which means their holiday could be ruined.

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