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To do BYOB?

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igotdaboobies · 19/05/2018 10:47

What would you think about being invited to a 'bring your own booze' christening?

We would obviously provide some basics and food but there's no bar in the church hall... DH thinks it's chavvy but I think it's better than having to traipse across town to a function room.

Any thoughts?

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DuchyDuke · 19/05/2018 10:52

So chavvy.

PatriciaHolm · 19/05/2018 10:56

Why do you need a bar to provide a drink?

Or just don't do alcohol. Serve tea, coffee and soft drinks, maybe a glass of fizz for a toast.

gravytrains · 19/05/2018 11:00

A christening?! When did “booze” become part of a Christening? Booze in the church hall?!

Chavvy.

Mumprobs11 · 19/05/2018 11:01

I doubt the church will permit alcohol to be consumed honestly

Happinesss · 19/05/2018 11:10

BYOB for a christening is chavvy.

Dancingmonkey87 · 19/05/2018 11:11

Tea and coffee surely enough or have it pub with a function room if people want alcohol

NotMyCircusMonkeys · 19/05/2018 11:12

I've never heard of a christening with alcohol... just provide tea/coffee and soft drinks!

Masonbee · 19/05/2018 11:15

I would never expect alcohol at a christening (I've driven to all the ones I've been to as they are out of town)

I don't think it's particularly chavvy to BYOB, just unnecessary

Bridechilla · 19/05/2018 11:20

Do you need that much booze? Why not just have a pitcher of Pimms, something your can make lots of relatively affordable.

If people want to bring alcohol I guess that's diff. BYOB doesn't exactly scream children's celebration.

CocoaM · 19/05/2018 11:20

We had a party in the church hall after both our kids’ christenings, we took a coolbox full of ice, hired glasses for free from one of the supermarkets, and did our own drinks (prosecco, beer, soft drinks). No one had more than 1 or 2 drinks so it didn’t cost much, but saved us trekking across town to somewhere with a bar. Would that be an option for you?

AgentProvocateur · 19/05/2018 11:22

Agree with your DH.

Biker47 · 19/05/2018 11:23

People have never heard of christenings with booze, really? All the ones I've ever been to have been at venues serving booze after the actual christening.

MiggeldyHiggins · 19/05/2018 11:26

A christening?! When did “booze” become part of a Christening?

Like, forever ago. And always, for Irish christenings.
So do y'all want to keep calling a whole country and people "chavvy"? Hmm

GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 11:26

I would have no problem with this but also agree that the pimms suggestion above is a really good one.

People don't drink much at christenings so I don't think you would need a lot.

JennyOnAPlate · 19/05/2018 11:28

BYOB for a christening? No.

Furano · 19/05/2018 11:28

We’ve normally had alcohol at christenings! Usually a glass of champagne not a full on piss up.

wtf2018 · 19/05/2018 11:28

I think it's fine and sensible. I'd provide some drinks and maybe an alcoholic punch but if people are desperate to drink alcohol then BYOB is a a very sensible idea, you're not stopping anyone or making anyone.

I wouldn't call it chavvy

Furano · 19/05/2018 11:29

But yeah, like PP says pimms that you buy and make up yourself would be better than BYOB and not cost much. Make it nice and weak.

GladAllOver · 19/05/2018 12:24

I've never seen alcohol at a christening. Do they put it in the font?

If you're having a party after the christening, why not?

DrCoconut · 19/05/2018 12:28

Does the church actually allow alcohol in the hall? Ours doesn't. I'm not keen on alcohol at Christenings as it was always considered inappropriate when I was growing up.

QueenofSerene · 19/05/2018 12:33

I don’t think a christening needs booze? We had our daughters last October and just had sandwiches and soft drink/ tea/coffee/water on hand, no mention of alcohol.. I suppose if people wanted to “drink on” they could at their own accord but I’ve never coupled a christening with booze?

GladAllOver · 19/05/2018 12:37

I don’t think a christening needs booze?

A christening is a religious service. It does not include alcohol, or tea and sandwiches for that matter.

Many people have a reception/party afterwards, and that lovely. But it is not any part of the christening.

ReanimatedSGB · 19/05/2018 12:37

Oh dear, OP, you've sounded the klaxon for the self-righteous alcohol haters - you'll now be told you and your family and guests are all deranged alcoholics and should have your DC taken away...

Most church halls have no problem with people providing alcohol to party guests: there will be local laws/regulations regarding the selling of it, but either BYOB or providing a couple of wine boxes and a case of beer should be fine.

BackforGood · 19/05/2018 13:18

People have different traditions.
For us, our dcs Christenings were relatively small affairs. Small enough that - if you wanted wine / beer - you could probably provide enough for everyone to have a glass with their sandwiches. If you are having loads of people / planning on staying more than an hour or so after the service, then you get on to different scales.

Original poster
igotdaboobies · 20/05/2018 09:32

Oh dear... I do appear to have ruffled feathers! 🙈

Obviously this is for the party afterwards...

I'm so surprised by the people saying no booze at christenings. I have never been to a christening with just tea and coffee. I love a good christening. It's always a (slightly) merry afternoon.

Perhaps it is that we are chavs and in denial!

I think I'll look for a room with a bar

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