To think this is gross?

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Ok, so this is slightly lighthearted and I’m pretty sure I’m not being unreasonable as it is gross. But he disagrees and says it’s what most people would do.

Newish bf and I had a night out last night he came back to mine. Bit tipsy and we ended up getting it on in the kitchen. Afterwards I went upstairs to use the bathroom and he used the downstairs loo before joining me upstairs.

So this morning feeling a bit delicate, I go downstairs to get a drink and nurofen and he’d put the condom we used in the kitchen bin, not wrapped in anything just in there.
That’s gross isn’t it? My ex always wrapped it in toilet roll and he’d put it in the bathroom bin not the kitchen. New guy thinks it’s quite funny that it bothers me, seen as I was happy to do it in the kitchen. He said he just put it in the closest bin and that’s what most people would do.

You're over thinking.

He was drunk and threw a condom in a bin.

A bin is a bin. Unless he has small children or animals who are likely to go firtling in there I can't get worked up over it.

Now if you'd said he'd left it on the kitchen side. You'd have a point

Surely a bin is a bin? I would probably agree re loo roll but it wouldn't really bother me

No that's ok. The bin is where we store gross things that are then collected by a dirty truck.

Erm it's a bin

It'd be good manners to wrap it if there are others in house but if it's just you then you're definitely over thinking

Do you like him enough to train him in your bun etiquette?

*bin even ... what a typo!

What was he supposed to do? Pop it on the counter whilst he went in search of loo roll? Carefully carry it around the house whilst he went in search of loo roll?
He popped it in the nearest bin.
Done.
Pop some rubbish in the bin over the top of it so you don't have to see it and forget about it!

Surely theres a bag in the bin and the only other stuff in there is rubbish, you're not going to have to touch the condom again.

How can you be fine with the fact your naked bodies and all associated bodily fluids, including transferred toilet germs and possible residues from your bums/genitals are all over everywhere you touched last night in the room you prepare and store food in, but the condom in the bin is "Gross"?

I thought he’d have taken it to the toilet with him and put it in the bin there to be honest, like he does if we do it upstairs.
Probably didn’t help that the bin was quite full (I forgot to empty it before I went out) so it was very much there when I opened the bin this morning.

He’s ok with my bin etiquette though, I have a dc (with dad last night) so I said at mine I’d rathr he wrap it up before putting it in the bin and he said that he will do.

Aslong as it wasn’t the bread bin
It is better to wrap it whichever bin especially if theres anyone else around who may see it in your bin. But mehh if not atleast he got it into a bin and you didnt find it stuck to your floor or something x

That’s what he said Almost! But I think what if I’d not put something in the bin to notice it and came home or I had visitors or something.

I really thought standard practise was to wrap it before throwing it away. There was kitchen roll on the side and the loo was just in the hall.

That’s meant to say and DC came home

I've never experienced anything like that as I've never ever used them. But I can see what you mean about wrapping it up. I wouldn't like finding something like that just left in the top of a bin.

Pssst......new boyfriend.....its not too late to make a run for it....... Go! Run for the hills!

@AlmostAJillSandwich
How can you be fine with the fact your naked bodies and all associated bodily fluids, including transferred toilet germs and possible residues from your bums/genitals are all over everywhere you touched last night in the room you prepare and store food in, but the condom in the bin is "Gross"?

^^ totally this. having sex in the kitchen/food prep area is no issue but a used condom in the said kitchen bin is icky?

Wouldn’t bother me at all. I spent months training my now dp to stop flushing the bloody things down the toilet. (He still thinks I’m overreacting about that)

you had drunken sex in the kitchen and he threw the condom in the kitchen bin

I fail to see what on earth is wrong with that - I really thought he was going to have left it on the side. Its not ideal no but after drunken kitchen sex it makes sense!

Seriously! It’s just a bin FGS

“New guy thinks it’s quite funny that it bothers me, seen as I was happy to do it in the kitchen. He said he just put it in the closest bin and that’s what most people would do.”

I’m with the boyfriend here. He is probably wondering what other trivial stuff bothers you.

It's a bin. It's sole purpose is to contain gross stuff. YABU. And stop comparing your BF to your ex , thats not good either.

grin ^^ totally this. having sex in the kitchen/food prep area is no issue but a used condom in the said kitchen bin is icky? grin
Wel tbf, last night I was drunk so not really thinking/caring about anything else. This morning I was feeling a bit 🤢 and a used condom in the bin didn’t really help.

I don't think it's gross, although I'd wrap it if anyone else in the house was likely to put something in the bin and see it.

I would have done the same 🤷

Get a grip. It's a bin. Left over food or food that has gone off is worse, and smells much, much worse.

At least he didn't flush it down the toilet.