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PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 18/05/2018 22:13

live in a collage 😂😂😂😂😂😂

starzig · 18/05/2018 22:17

Depends what mood I'm in. I sometimes don't cause I don't want to instigate a chat. Sometimes just want to be left alone.

Beeziekn33ze · 18/05/2018 22:17

Several mums thought one was standoffish as she sometimes ignored people. It turned out that she was deaf and lipread. She had no idea anyone had spoken to her unless she was looking at them. They soon found out that she was a nice person.

JennyOnAPlate · 18/05/2018 22:20

I do this. Sometimes I can cope with interacting with people, other times I can't.

failing4567 · 18/05/2018 22:21

Anxiety

WhirlwindHugs · 18/05/2018 22:22

Honestly, almost everyone does this. Unless you've got the observational skills of a spy you probably walk past people without realising sometimes too.

Generally, it's a good idea to approach this kind of neighbourhood friends from the perspective that they're probably not intentionally rude, and if they frequently seem to miss you there is probably a specific reason, from poor eye sight to having not grown out of being that kid in class that spent most of the time staring out the window...

There's no point in getting annoyed about it, you're just going to end up wound up about something that probably isn't intentional.

bazingabazinga · 18/05/2018 22:26

If you do it twice then I’m afraid I won’t go out of my way a third time to say hello.

bazingabazinga · 18/05/2018 22:27

I don’t dwell on it mind you.

Some people don’t see blanking as a big deal so I just follow their lead

icelolly99 · 18/05/2018 22:35

This is me. Sometimes I just think that I dont want them to feel obliged to say "Hi" so i don't acknowledge them in the first place.

passmetheloppers · 18/05/2018 22:42

DD's friend's mum was like this. All smiles and friendliness and come round for coffee one minute, then blanked in the street the next. Week or two later all smiles again at school pickup, a few days later the back is turned. It went on for about 10 years like that. No idea why, thankfully the kids got on fine and never seemed to notice.

AjasLipstick · 18/05/2018 22:53

Another here who is face-blind. I actually walked the length of a street with what I thought was an odd and over-friendly woman talking to me and she eventually said "You don't know who I am do you?" and I confessed that I had no idea.

She was my neighbour from three doors up who had hosted my then 8 year old for a sleepover and at whose house my DD played regularly.

The reason I had no idea who she was? I was seeing her out of her usual context. Had I seen her in her own garden or mine, I'd have been fine.

Seeing her in a street....no idea. That's what face blindness is.

fopper · 18/05/2018 23:30

I do this, especially at the school gates. Sometimes I'm not brave enough to say hi. Don't judge...as the responses on here have already demonstrated, it could be for any number of reasons! (People have done it to me as well so I do understand why it feels weird!).

MrsTommyBanks · 19/05/2018 00:03

TalkAIBU?

People who ignore one day and say hi the next38

Yesterday 20:45Notmorewashing

Why do people do this and how do you react ? I feel so uncomfortable as I never know what approach to take with them!! Mostly neighbours or people you used to work with/be closer to who live in the same area.

Yesterday 20:47NellMangel

I guess it depends on what kind of day they are having - don't take it personally.

Just say Hi if you feel like it instead of trying to read them.

Yesterday 20:48captainproton

I just think that they are busy, and don’t have time to talk. Don’t take it to heart.

Yesterday 20:48BertieBotts

Maybe they are bad with faces and didn't recognise you the first time?

Maybe they were just in their own little world and not really noticing who was walking past them. ie they probably didn't notice you.

Yesterday 20:49Dontsayyouloveme

I’m like this and it’s usually to do with my depression/anxiety.*

This

MrsTommyBanks · 19/05/2018 00:04

Sorry only meant to quote Dontsayyouloveme.

rosybell · 19/05/2018 00:11

Plus on the school run I know every other person so it's a bit time consuming to say hello to everyone..

crunchymint · 19/05/2018 01:01

My mum does this, its because she can't see people's faces when not wearing her glasses. The face is just a blur to her, so no chance she will recognise you.
Pretty sure IU do this. I have incredible problems recognising people. Sometimes I recognise someone by the coat they wear usually, but if they are not wearing that coat, I may simply not recognise them.

TheFlannelsAreBreeding · 19/05/2018 07:49

I'm severely faceblind and if there isn't a clue (which house you came out of, recognisable car, someone just said your name etc) then I have no idea I've ever met you.

This applies to DH and the kids as welll...

Southernstars · 19/05/2018 09:43

I have good eyesight yet on some occasions I have not recognised people. When they have said hello, it’s like they morph into the person I recognise. It’s only happened to me a few times. One time I saw who I thought was an 18 year old girl walking towards me. I thought my 14 year old daughter will look like her when she is older. It was my 14 year old DD. Another time a woman said hello, I thought she was a friend of my brother’s, the next time I saw her was at my father’s funeral and I thought to myself there’s my brother’s friend. Later she came and said hello to me, as soon as I heard her voice I recognised it was my cousin and she looked like my cousin, I was embarrassed to not recognise her. She didn’t believe me that I didn’t recognise her. It’s a weird feeling.

I do dislike people who don’t speak because they are in a bad mood, that’s very rude. I say hello to them anyway just in case they don’t realise it’s me. 😬

onalongsabbatical · 19/05/2018 10:02

Face blindness - more widespread than you would think, interesting how many responses attribute to this. It's called prosopagnosia. The late psychologist Oliver Sacks suffered so badly from it he was even unable to recognise himself in the mirror if he saw himself out of context. And as with all such neurological quirks, people will often feel ashamed at what they perceive as their own lack, and so will try and cover up and not admit they have a problem and therefore not seek out information and understanding either.

Of course there are a myriad of other reasons too.

Allthewaves · 19/05/2018 10:04

This is me sometimes. I barely holding it together some days so people arnt on my radar. But on a good day of course I will chat and say hello

newme175 · 19/05/2018 10:07

My neighbor does that, she definitely recognise me as I'm coming out of my front door/ going in.... I started doing the same, sometimes I say hi and other times blank her as she does me!
Her husband on the other hand is always friendly and waves/ says hi.....

wtf2018 · 19/05/2018 10:15

Hmm I don't know why OP but it happens to me where I live too, neighbours, school run, caretakers, postman.... even small children

One day they say hi or chat, the next they entirely ignore me

It stings a bit to be blanked but doesn't really do any long term harm I guess as they say hi or chat the next time

Maybe you live near me and it's unwritten rules in this area

Loopyloopy · 19/05/2018 10:22

I'm faceblind too - out of context, I'm not going to have the foggiest idea of who you are.
I also have a friend who hada terrible reputation for blanking people. Got a lot better after she had lazer surgery on her eyes...

MayFayner · 19/05/2018 10:22

People do this to me and I'm sure I do it to them. If I do it, it's not intentional/ meant as a snub, so I assume the same of others.

I love a very "local" life ATM, I'm a sahm who walks the school run so I see loads of people I sort of know, all day. If I catch someone's eye I'll say hi but otherwise I might not, especially if they look busy.

thecatsthecats · 19/05/2018 11:14

One of the most freeing things I have learned is that not everyone is thinking about you all the time. They're NOT judging your clothes, or wondering why you said or did something.

YOU are thinking about them, and wondering if they are hot and cold on you. In that precise moment where they "snubbed" you, they were probably wondering if they left the oven on. They aren't sitting somewhere fretting about 5m idle chatter they didn't have. They probably don't even remember the 5m idle chatter they did have with someone else who they happened to notice.