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To not want royal wedding fever forced on my DC

249 replies

rosybell · 18/05/2018 16:00

So my DD is in reception. They are having a royal wedding party at school today. Whilst I think this is fine I hate that they have been told to bring clothes to change into- a dress or a shirt (this is what the info given to parents said). Of course most girls have taken princess dresses. I have now seen photos from the party showing the children in boy girl pairs walking down an red carpet 'aisle'

I'm all for imaginative play but some of these kids looked bewildered. AIBU to complain to the school? There is something that really doesn't feel right about it - maybe because it seems like it more for the adults than the kids let alone all the princess pressure the girls must feel.

OP posts:
immortalmarble · 18/05/2018 20:06

I am shocked someone thinks that ‘belonging’ is bases around which knob married a knob to be honest

Ummmmgogo · 18/05/2018 20:07

@plums schools doing royal wedding parties was a big thing in ethnically diverse South London. I'm a republican but my kids had fun.

greendale17 · 18/05/2018 20:08

Get a life OP

DioneTheDiabolist · 18/05/2018 20:44

I think a lot of people need to remember that their children don’t need to believe the same as them, just because you don’t agree with or believe in something doesn’t mean you need to stop your child from having chances to explore those things and make their own decisions as they grow.

YY Sirzy.

RedForFilth · 18/05/2018 21:03

Jesus Christ they're actually trying to allow kids to have fun past the age of 4?! Disgraceful. No point complaining to the school, go straight to the daily mail. Appalling.

immortalmarble · 18/05/2018 21:09

Stop being a knob. It’s nothing to do with them having fun. They could have a party any day or the week and I wouldn’t mind. I do mind them celebrating something I personally object to.

tillytrotter1 · 18/05/2018 21:14

Just to add a touch of pedantry to the proceedings, the term Union Jack was deemed by Parliament back in 1908 to be acceptable on land as well as on board HM ships.

Starlight2345 · 18/05/2018 21:19

I am wondering what princess pressure is?

Do you really think that your DD thinks she is going to be a princess.

I was going to be a fairground ride designer at that age.

I ended up married with a child and a childminder. I also attended a party for the Silver jubilee and didn't think I would become a queen however it is one of the few memories I still have from Primary school.

The whole of my DS's school had a party thing. My DS finished Sats yesterday so I think a party was perfect today.. These are children sometimes they can have fun and it doesn't have to be about their future.

Whether a Royalist or not we do live in a country ruled by a royal family and it is a celebration of a couple getting married. As a woman actually marriage is quite important if you are going to have children.

tillytrotter1 · 18/05/2018 21:24

The bottom line in many these hysterical posts is that you, as mothers, expect your child to only be exposed to your views in school. Good luck with that, they will hear and learn a lot of things in school about which you do not agree in the course of their school life and there's not much you can do about it.

CadyHeron · 18/05/2018 21:29

Immortal YOU object to. Does your child object to a Royal Wedding party at school?
The whole point of sending them for an education is to learn other viewpoints as well.
I mean, I don't celebrate Ramadan, or Diwali, but if there were lessons at school about them I wouldn't want them pulled out as the celebrations aren't my beliefs.
Your argument side is completely the same as extremists.

RedForFilth · 18/05/2018 21:38

I do mind them celebrating something I personally object to. but there will always be at least one parent who objects to everything. If you only want your kids to take part in approved events then you'll probably have to home school.

GreenTulips · 18/05/2018 22:13

Tomorrow will raise millions for the British economy - that has to be a good thing

DioneTheDiabolist · 18/05/2018 22:15

You know all the No Platforming and Trigger Warnings that you hear about happening in universities these days? Is this where it starts?Hmm

KateMcCallisterHAmom · 18/05/2018 22:24

YANBU, and I would not be happy, for the reasons MrsTP listed.

ReanimatedSGB · 18/05/2018 22:34

As usual, there is a lot of point-missing going on. It isn't that there is anything inherently wrong with having a party in school hours, on relatively slim justification (why on earth should any of us care about the Windsor parasites, particularly the third-division ones?). There isn't anything wrong with having a little party for Eid or Diwali or Valentines' Day, at primary level.
It gets to be a potential problem when it's pushed to kids as a bigger deal than it actually is. If DC from families with varying worldviews and cultural backgrounds are being pressured to say prayers for a religious event, rather than learning about it and/or doing the fun bits, then that's a problem. If (as seems to have been the case with the OP's kids' school) they are being coaxed to play fake weddings and agree that the Windsor parasites are wonderful, then that's a bit excessive, too.
We've currently got an alarmingly racist, authoritarian, thick-as-shit government, and there is an alarming amount of propaganda about this wedding (which really isn't a big deal to the majority of people) and 'Englishness' and 'traditional values' which is fairly worrying.

ThisisSparta · 18/05/2018 22:55

We've currently got an alarmingly racist, authoritarian, thick-as-shit..(government)

I would say that the people who are alarmingly racist, authoritarian and thick as shit are the ones who can’t see past their own bigotry and intolerance.

CadyHeron · 18/05/2018 22:56

"Traditional values?" Shock horror at the very thought! Shock Hmm
Really cannot get worked up over traditional values being celebrated.

Coyoacan · 18/05/2018 23:00

Tomorrow will raise millions for the British economy - that has to be a good thing

So should schools celebrate every foreign war? Because there is nothing makes money for the British economy like war.

ThisisSparta · 18/05/2018 23:03

Do you think that’s clever Coyoacan ?

It really isn’t, it just makes you look like a massive dick!

NoMudNoLotus · 18/05/2018 23:05

Good grief there are some histrionics on Mumsnet .

Its a day when given how much misery there is in the world people can immerse themselves in something lighthearted.

I genuinely think many of you live in middle class bubble ... i work day in day out with trauma , with people in trauma.

The majority of those people welcome the opportunity to break free from misery and come together for a celebration.

Iv arranged a party tomorrow for the people i work with ... muslims, 18-65 year olds, people with Aspergers , people without Aspergers , people who have been abused, people who havent ... they are all looking forward to it.

The moaners on this thread - you honestly dont know you are born if you have the energy to get worked about this wedding.

ThisisSparta · 18/05/2018 23:37

HariboIsMyCrack

Maybe you ought to examine your bigoted and intolerant attitude?

Do you renounce any Irish celebrations or think any Irish people having pride in their country is inherently awful because of the IRA?

ReanimatedSGB · 18/05/2018 23:41

Oh noooooooooo!

ThisisSparta · 18/05/2018 23:41

NoMudNoLotus

Well said, a much needed bit of perspect I think!

OutofSyncGirl · 18/05/2018 23:46

There is nothing remotely bigoted in calling out Nationalism of any kind for the ridiculous nonsense that it is.

If you are proud to be a nationality which you didn't actually have a choice in, that makes no sense.

People should be proud of important things like tolerance and inclusion. Nationalism is the cause of bigotry.

OutofSyncGirl · 18/05/2018 23:48

Royal weddings aren't particularly lighthearted either - they are steeped in esoteric symbolism.