To not want royal wedding fever forced on my DC

[rosybell]

So my DD is in reception. They are having a royal wedding party at school today. Whilst I think this is fine I hate that they have been told to bring clothes to change into- a dress or a shirt (this is what the info given to parents said). Of course most girls have taken princess dresses. I have now seen photos from the party showing the children in boy girl pairs walking down an red carpet 'aisle'

I'm all for imaginative play but some of these kids looked bewildered. AIBU to complain to the school? There is something that really doesn't feel right about it - maybe because it seems like it more for the adults than the kids let alone all the princess pressure the girls must feel.

Dd had a tea party today. We won’t be watching it tomorrow, not really interested but I’m not bothered that school did something, it was a bit of fun for the kids and they got to wear red white and blue. I wouldn’t never say no to a tea party if there’s cake involved.

Haven’t RTFT.

No point complaining now it’s done. But if I’d known beforehand, I would have kept my child off school today. Don’t want to spoil it for other kids, but I go out of my way to drill home messages that are the complete opposite of celebrating a royal fucking wedding. 5 years of work could easily be undone by a school legitimizing all the things I teach: being a princess is nothing to aspire to; weddings are just a day of fun, nothing more; as a descendant is the Commonwealth, the royal family are hardly a good thing; clothes and hair and looks are for show only etc etc. They get enough of this shot in real life, but to have your own school devote time and effort aggrandizing it is every shade of wrong to me. Do they do themed events after the General Election (which a woman happened to win)?

As for being THAT parent: as it happens I’ve never “complained” about anything in my life. But even if I had, couldn’t give a shiny shit what the staff room thinks of me. If my complaints were merited, to them.

DC's school had a dress up day today. The girls particularly were ridiculously overexcited and loved it, especially the special picnic and ice creams after school. DC1 had no clue why they they were doing it all or that it had anything to do with a royal wedding. It was just a fun break from the usual routine. YABU!

Your kid is in reception I would not choose this hill to die on. We complained when dd in reception about a bible presentation ceremony (non church school). Feel abit about doing that now tbh.

My Reception class had a fantastic afternoon. We paraded around in our hats, wrote invitations, watched a clip of past royal weddings, made sandwiches (halving topic!) and then ate our sandwiches with biscuits and juice and played games on the field.

It was so much fun!

Complain if you want, no will be interested, but if you're lucky they might not bother trying to do anything fun the next time .

Plumsofwrath

Haven’t RTFT.

No point complaining now it’s done. But if I’d known beforehand, I would have kept my child off school today.

Wow just wow you would have denied your child a education over it have this has to be one of the stupidest reasons for denying a child a education wow just wow

@Plumsofwrath sorry for the hours of effort that teachers put in. I suggest removing your children from their current school, as you clearly can't cope with other points of view. Those are YOUR views. The school is entitled to theirs. We live in a democracy. If you hate that the school has 'undone five years' of your views, I suggest you find a new one. Good luck!

Union Jack is only on a ship?! That's educated me, @babyharibo17!
Honestly didn't know that! What's it called when it's not on a ship?! I thought that was the name of the (red, white and blue) flag! You learn something new everyday!

I’m not a royalist and cringe when my son’s preschool does this sort of thing, but I wouldn’t complain, coz I’d look like a complete tit

Isn’t it amazing how some children across the world are denied an education mostly girls and some here have the fudgeing privilege of saying they would deny education because dd was made to eat cake and wave a flag of their own country no less

We had an election themed day at school plum. It must have gone very well because now we have a vote over what to have for tea.

My dd is still wearing her crown and can’t wait to see the wedding

She is saying she will be sleeping in it

If I had a daughter I'd take the opportunity to send her dressed as Princess Leia - a princess is a princess right?

It just sounds like the school haven't managed it very well. When my eldest was the same age they did a week long topic around the last Royal Wedding - the kids learned about all the different people at a wedding and what they did, made invitations, designed a menu, learned a traditional Scottish dance for the "reception", learned a song for the "service", and even did basic maths around shopping for food for the guests. The whole week ended with the wedding on the Friday afternoon and because they'd been learning about it all week they knew exactly what was happening.

Union Jack is only on a ship?! That's educated me, @babyharibo17*!
Honestly didn't know that! What's it called when it's not on a ship?! I thought that was the name of the (red, white and blue) flag! You learn something new everyday!*

Union Jack when flown on a ship.
Union Flag in other circumstances.

Damn! Don't know why that didn't go bold.

I was born in the UK and am British, but I have close family in NI who perceive the union jack/flag/whatever in an overwhelmingly negative way. It is not without controversy or negative connotations and on that basis I think it is inappropriate and jingoistic, especially in a nursery setting.

It's our national flag and part of our national identity - along with the Royal Family etc etc. If you don't like it then maybe start a petition to get it changed. In the meantime it will be the flag that is flown for national celebrations. If I was bothered about the Royal Wedding I'd be flying mine. As it is, it comes out for things like the Olympics and the Diamond Jubilee.

You’re not leaving politics at the classroom door cariad

The fact you are encouraging something you personally don’t believe in doesn’t mean you’re leaving politics behind.

YANBU - I can’t stand any of it. Makes no sense to me. Luckily my children’s schools made no mention of it. Though it was a massive thing in the private schools they’ve attended 🙄

5 years of work could easily be undone by a school legitimizing all the things I teach

if you get that worked up about nothing, and your cannot teach your own child that different people have different opinions and values, you are clearly doing it very wrong.

My youngest is obsessed with princess, and female super-hero. At 18 I would be worried, at 5 not so much. Last month she probably wanted to be a paw patrol.

Forced child marriage eh?
There’s an opportunity to teach your kids about consent.

And heterosexual too?
There’s an opportunity to teach your kids that sometimes men fall in love with men, and women fall in love with women.

Everyday’s a school day after all

I can see why you might want to complain though.... it’s very tacky
But actually, it’s all in keeping with the plastic fantastic Disney circus element of the real thing! (Yawnsville)

I am sure teachers have to teach things all the time they think
One my be Christian but as a science teacher you would still be required to teach everlouton

Or may
Not be catholic but shock horror work in a c of e school their are even those who appently don’t agree with private education but teach in private schools and send their own children their

Absolutely fucking mental.

I think a lot of people need to remember that their children don’t need to believe the same as them, just because you don’t agree with or believe in something doesn’t mean you need to stop your child from having chances to explore those things and make their own decisions as they grow.