To wear black top and white trousers to a funeral?

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Recently had a baby and no longer fit into many of my pre baby clothes.

I’m trying to find a smart outfit suitable for breastfeeding - would a black wrap top be ok with smart white trousers or is the white a no no?

Thanks

It’s fine. Presumably not skintight white jeans and cleavage boasting top?

For some reason I think a white top is ok but trousers are a no. That’s just my personal opinion though and there’s no basis behind it!

As long as you look smart and respectable you will be fine.

Like Imagoofy, I think a white top and black trousers would be acceptable, but white trousers is quite unusual. Purple and navy would be more normal funeral colours. That said, if you've just had a baby, people should cut you some slack. On a side note, make sure you take spare clothes if you do end up wearing the white trousers in case of spills/nappy leakage etc. I'm sorry for your loss.

Do you really have nothing dark coloured for your bottom half? I’m sorry but I think you’ll stand out like a sore thumb in white trousers when everyone else will probably be in head to toe black. If you absolutely don’t have any dark coloured skirts/trousers (dark grey, navy etc would be fine) then can you get to a supermarket or primark where you can cheaply pick up something suitable?

People don’t tend to be head to toe black any more though. I think it’s fine.

I wouldn't. I have worn wrap dresses to special functions when breastfeeding. Do you have any?

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I haven't seen a funeral where everyone wore head to toe black for years. I think the thing is that you are going as sign of respect and for people to support each other and say their farewells. No one will notice what you wear.

And if they do then as the saying goes
' those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind'

Thank you all. I will pop into local supermarket at the weekend for dark trousers

Ordered two black wrap dressses which arrived today but they aren’t suitable at all - one shows too much boob (even without breastfeeding!) and the other fabric too thin and see through

On a side note baby will be dressed in a muted colour but I’ve nothing black for her either, hopefully that will be ok

I'm of the opinion you don't need to wear strictly all black to a funeral.... but hell no should you wear white trousers! White top would be ok... but def not on your bottom half!

I have just come back from a funeral and although lots were in head to toe black many others were not.
Many had white or black and white patterned tops on.
Some even had pink tops.
One lady had black and white striped pants on.(and they were really nice which is why I noticed them! lol)

Could you wear a vest top under the wrap dress that shows too much boob? I wore the cheap cotton stretchy ones from primark underneath everything when I was breastfeeding.

I hope that's pants as in trousers charliebear!

The baby can wear what she likes! No-one will bat an eye at a baby in bright colours at a funeral.

I think you'd draw less attention in something less smart but not white. Even beige would be better. As long as it's not obviously scruffy-casual.

I think white trousers are too eye-catching.

I second a stretchy vest top under the wrap dress.

No. Don't.

I don't think anyone would expect your baby to be dressed in mourning! So don't worry about that.

Ha snow I always say Pants for Trousers-Maybe it's a Northern thing! My friend from London laughs at me.

No unlessaaked to wear white it’s always black
Navey blue and you may get away with dark brown Very disrespectful

I think the rule is to dress respectfully and in darker tones if possible - clearly unless specific dress request. I agree, white trousers are a bit much.

Only American movies seem to show the whole party dressed in black, but people don't do that in real life. I think i'ts to make viewers understand there's a funeral going on. American movies also show women dressed completely inappropriately but in black, that's not RL either.

The rules definitively do not apply to a baby! Just take them out quickly if they start being noisy, that's all.

I think you'd stand out and feel self conscious so your idea of supermarket easy dark trousers is a good one.

I wouldn't worry about the little one - there's hardly any black clothing for babies, esp at this time of year. Muted will be fine.

Hope it goes as well as a funeral can.

White trousers? No, why would you wear something that may cause offence at such a sensitive occasion? That would be unfeeling.

I was at a funeral today, and one of the people there was wearing (really quite scruffy) jeans. I did (in my mind) raise my eyebrows - but ultimately it was someone who had come to pay their respects, so surely that is more important than what you wear?

And really, don't worry about what your baby is wearing.

The outfit sounds totally inappropriate.

I would wear a vest under the too booby wrap top rather than white trousers.