Trusting your intuition

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I'm currently struggling with going with/against my intuition regarding a woman on my dps social media, there's a couple of things which have come out that make me think I'm right but nothing concrete enough to be 100% sure there either has/is something inappropriate going on.

I would love to hear about times when you've been right and wrong to follow your intuition, it might give me the push to confront dp or push it to the back burner for a while!

Sorry I should have said wibu to follow intuition without any solid proof?

Can you be a bit more specific about what it is you've seen on his social media?

I've never found intuition to be wrong yet.

Always trust your intuition.

Oooh goodness it really depends. However without any further context i'd say intuition is defined as "the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning".... I think its pretty reliable! X

@PinotMwah the question is more about trusting intuition, I'm fully aware of how aibu normally works and I think I would be opening myself up to a whole heap of mean replies 🙈 what I've seen could be put down to coincidence but it's my intuition along with this that has me questioning it all.

I'll just add that this is the first time in over 3 years that I've questioned something and DP goes out a lot and I've never once felt the need to be concerned which makes me want to follow my gut even more!

I would always go with my intuition

I'd say I was a very reasonable, chilled out person in a relationship so if I ever got a weird vibe i'd be looking at things a little deeper. X

We have just watched Final Destination.

ALWAYS go with your intuition

Intuition is key, you generally don't feel uncomfortable for no good reason.

I doubted my intuition and decided I was paranoid. I wasn't.

Don't ignore it.

Yes.. I too agree.. always trust your intuition... always

Mines always right. People tell me I’m nuts and then ho no ho... who turns out to be right all along!

I've been in the position where I felt something wasn't right. Argued and cried repeatedly for months looking for answers and I genuinely considered counselling at one point because I thought I must have serious trust issues (justified to be fair due to previous relationships). In the end it turned out I was right.

Team Leroy Jethro Gibbs here - always go with the gut !

I do believe , 30 something years ago I was seeing a man , we didn't live together but we worked together. A new woman started working with us, seemed really friendly, tagged along to the pub, very attentive to me in particular but I got a strange vibe from her. Low and behold one night when I'd gone home early with a migraine she came onto my then boyfriend. He used my gay best friend as a human shield and the pair of them turned up on my doorstep. He is my DH now.

I had a bad feeling about a friend of a friend. My group of friends said he was fine and someone had mentioned it to him and then they asked me to apologise to him for calling him dodgy, to clear the air. A few weeks later he tried to sexual assault me and was only stopped when one of my friends caught him. I was later approached by a girl saying he had raped her. In one way I wish id trusted my instincts more - the risk of offending someone isn't as big as the risk of something like rape - but then again, I'm not sure what I'd have done differently if I'd trusted my instincts more, as I couldn't easily have avoided him as he'd attached himself to my friendship group and hadn't done anything specific to justify us falling out - it was just a feeling. Very different to your situation though OP and I suspect unless you're normally a jealous or suspicious person, you'll have lots of people telling you stories of how their instincts about their OH were right. Good luck

Intuition is mindless garbage.
Placemarking in case I'm wrong.

What do you mean Ethylred, or are you just being goady? "Mindless" is surely the point of it - it's a feeling that bypasses the mind and doesn't have grounding in rational thought, but instead arises from somewhere else.

I believe there are good scientific reasons to trust 'gut instinct'.

OK with the caveat above, I think it is important to trust your intuition. Genuine red flags sent up by you intuition are rarely wrong and you ignore them at your period.

On the other hand there can be a fairly thin line between intuition and paranoia. If you're in an anxious and suspicious state of mind its best to try to take a step back from something and come back to it.

But I think if what you're seeing on his social media is triggering an intuitive sense that something's a bit rum you need to listen to it. Not necessarily act on it yet until you have something more concrete. But listen to it.

Intuition is never wrong

Paranoia often is

Be sure which it is before listening too carefully

Should have actually read @PinotMwah post before butting in to repeat what's already said

Apologies

Thanks everyone, glad to know I'm not the only one to believe in intuition. I've had a chat with DP and he's said I'm wrong but I've not told him everything that's set my intuition off so I'll bide my time, everything comes out in the end!

Sadly my intuition is usually right. Sometimes I really wish it weren’t.
Nip whatever it is, in the bud xx