Trusting your intuition

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I'm currently struggling with going with/against my intuition regarding a woman on my dps social media, there's a couple of things which have come out that make me think I'm right but nothing concrete enough to be 100% sure there either has/is something inappropriate going on.

I would love to hear about times when you've been right and wrong to follow your intuition, it might give me the push to confront dp or push it to the back burner for a while!

I think I speak for us all when I say i'm just sorry you're in such a naff position in the first place! Either way I wish you all the best op! X

Sounds like you have suspicions op, rather than an intuitive feeling.

@InDubiousBattle my suspicion comes from looking a bit more in to the situation than I normally would due to a gut feeling.

@TigerlilyMoon thank you, I genuinely hope my intuition is wrong.

I had the same a couple of years ago, after 6 months of being told I was insecure, paranoid, controlling etc etc it turned out I was right all along. Always trust your feelings.

I believe in trusting your intuition although what you suspect may not be 'the thing', another something is. Does this make sense?

Intuition is real, or at least your gut instincts are linked to facts. The difficulty is in analyzing those instincts accurately. Your conscious mind cannot possibly process every single thing you see and hear, literally thousands and thousands of tiny bits of information hit your senses every second. Gut instinct causes you to process and react before your conscious mind even knows what is up. The fight or flight response is the most obvious example. Is the rustling of the trees just wind or is there a predator lurking there waiting to eat you? We are programmed to react without stopping to think because thats how we stay alive. Jealousy / suspicion of partner is a very primal thing, your intuition is certainly reacting to something.

The problem is that it is very hard to consciously pick apart which tiny little things out of a massive load of information made your instincts react; wierd tone of voice, lack of eye contact, odd body languague etc. That's where you can mix things up by either wrongly doubting yourself or failing to see that you are overreacting, usually because something innocent had something tangentally in common with a previous bad experience.

You're doing the right thing. Watch and wait, and watch his eyes when you're talking to him. Listen for an odd tone of voice. They are red flags.

Ooft, sorry that was long!